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Sex talk at work

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user9087890 · 14/12/2021 19:41

Colleague has a new boyfriend and she is enjoying over sharing at the moment. Other colleagues have been joining in today.
Some examples of comments, she was eating a quality street and asked if someone else could answer the phone as she was sucking on a sweet to which a colleague replies bet thats not the only thing you have been sucking on recently.
Later in the day she is kneeling down sorting some stuff, when she gets up moans her knees are hurting to which colleagues reply I bet they are after this weekend.
AIBU to think this is a bit OTT?

OP posts:
Hankunamatata · 14/12/2021 19:47

Ick head phones ahoy

NashvilleQueen · 14/12/2021 19:48

Cringe inducing. I feel for you IP

NashvilleQueen · 14/12/2021 19:48

OP

Glassofshloer · 14/12/2021 19:49

Well I laughed. Childish but who cares.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 14/12/2021 19:54

Meh wouldn't bother me at all. Just don't join in with the conversations and put headphones in when they start if you're allowed.

Teethhelp · 14/12/2021 20:02

Ew.
Yanbu.

notacooldad · 14/12/2021 20:09

Sounds standard for my office!
I do think it's a case of knowing your audience (which staff say stuff and who to) and when it is and not ok.
We can laugh and joke like this as a bit of light relief but the second something happens and we need to respond to something we put our straight professional heads back on immediately.
There is not one person who diesnt join in BUT we all know each other very well, socialize together and most have known each other for decades even hung round as teenagers together and now in late 40s and 50s.

AutumnAnn · 14/12/2021 20:10

Exactly the kind of things people at my work come out with, wouldn't bother me at all

Jasmine00 · 14/12/2021 20:11

Sorry but I'd probably be joining in with this kind of childish and immature carry on! It reminds me of being a teenager again and giggling with my friends!

Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 14/12/2021 20:17

Gross and would be a disciplinary offence where I work.

Iamanicepersonreally · 14/12/2021 20:18

I couldn't get worked up about it

OverByYer · 14/12/2021 20:20

I find that sort of talk childish and tedious

NightOwlWoes · 14/12/2021 20:20

Do you work with 14 year old people? Tell them to shut the fuck up. Honestly.

Lou98 · 14/12/2021 20:21

It wouldn't bother me either - we were always making jokes like this at the last place I worked. It was just the 3 of us there though and made the day go quicker that we were all similar in what we found funny, things we could talk about etc.

If we were in a big office with a lot of people then I think you need to know your audience and if you're making people uncomfortable but I don't think that's that bad

Notthissticky · 14/12/2021 20:21

Yeah call me a prude but that would make me feel uncomfortable... Going out on a limb here, were the comments made by male colleagues? In neither of your examples did your female colleague say anything particularly suggestive, only to have others react with innuendo...

Glassofshloer · 14/12/2021 20:27

@Jasmine00

Sorry but I'd probably be joining in with this kind of childish and immature carry on! It reminds me of being a teenager again and giggling with my friends!
Same! Adult life is so serious & boring
EmergencyPoncho · 14/12/2021 20:29

It sounds as though it's from about 20 years ago.

Rosebel · 14/12/2021 20:31

Sorry but I'd laugh. This is the sort of banter that goes on where I work and it's just light relief.

WonderfulYou · 14/12/2021 20:36

We do sometimes talk about sex at work but not constant innuendos like this. I think it would get boring very quickly.

GoodVibesHere · 14/12/2021 20:36

Totally and utterly inappropriate in the workplace.

Maybe the sort of thing someone might say on a night out with a bunch of friends, but even then it would be 🤮

Justsotirednow · 14/12/2021 20:38

Ugh!

YANBU.

How immature and gross.
Did not like this kind of ”humour” at 12, only hate it more the older I get.

SunshineInMyTea · 14/12/2021 20:40

Hate it!

But I don’t want to know/talk about anybody’s sex life, ever.
Or hear boring innuendos.
How tedious.

woodhill · 14/12/2021 20:42

TMI. Yanbu

IWillFindYou · 14/12/2021 20:43

Oh, how boring!

I once, unfortunately, had to work this woman who would constantly talk about men. More about they're looks, but still. This would be so much more annoying. I would hate it.

thepeopleversuswork · 14/12/2021 20:47

I really couldn’t get overly upset about this. They’re just letting off steam.

I dislike the fetishisation of “professionalism” in many walks of life these days. People are absurdly straight laced.

It’s massively important to be professional and respectful to clients and colleagues and to project a good reputation for your organisation.

It’s not necessary to expect people to be ludicrously po-faced and uptight in private conversations in the workplace as long as they don’t upset others or drain too much time.