To not make DD rewrite her cards for her teachers?

[ChristmasCardDyslexia]

DD is 7, year 3.

She is quite badly dyslexic and struggles with reading and writing.

She’s tried really hard to write her Christmas Cards this year (last year I wrote them and she signed then she wanted to do them all this year). The last two she did are for the Deputy Head/Senco and her class teacher.

Her writing is wobbly, bigger and smaller in some parts but she worked so hard on them and is really excited to give them out tomorrow.

ExH thinks I should make her re-write the teachers cards “neater” because it shows I don’t care or watch her writing (I did, I helped her spell names and words). I think they won’t care and will see how much effort she’s put in. When she finished she looked exhausted but was so proud of herself – we’ve been writing them in batches of 3-4 cards for over a week.

So AIBU? Or do I need to make her rewrite them?

No you don't and you should be telling your ex to either fuck off or be a lot more supportive. Poor kid

I think you know the answer to this one. Tell exH (if you really must) to wind his neck in, and let DD be proud of giving out her cards tomorrow.

My son is 7 in year 3 and since they've been pushing for them to write cursive his writing is awful and can hardly be read.
He did his cards but I don't think people will know who they're from.
It would have been really disheartening for him if I made him do them again as he tries so hard so I left them.

Don't make her do them again that would be cruel.

Tell your ex to do one if You made her do the, again she would feel crushed and knock her confidence the teachers know that she struggles and will appreciate it all the more well done to your DD op

I would be so proud of my child for their enthusiasm and effort and would do nothing at all to crush that. ExH is v. unreasonable!

Leave them as they are. The teacher will know how hard she's tried and appreciate it.

Your EX is an asshole.
Dyslexia is not something that trying harder or writing neater can solve. Your DD should be proud of what she’s accomplished and she needs to have that encouragement and the confidence that comes with it. The teachers know she has dyslexia and will appreciate the extra effort she took.

Absolutely not. Her teachers will already know what her writing is like. The ex is being a fool.

@Couldntmissthisonethisyear

My son is 7 in year 3 and since they've been pushing for them to write cursive his writing is awful and can hardly be read. He did his cards but I don't think people will know who they're from. It would have been really disheartening for him if I made him do them again as he tries so hard so I left them.

Don't make her do them again that would be cruel.

@Couldntmissthisonethisyear Love the name. We've not even introduced cursive writing to DD, I doubt we ever actually will. If some of the cards we've had are anything to go by a lot of children struggle with the cursive.

Oh no, definitely don't redo!

As a teacher, every single card I’ve ever been given by a child (and I’ve kept all of them) is the best gift ever, and I couldn’t care less if the handwriting inside is a bit wobbly, or my name isn’t spelled properly.

Your ex is an arse. Ignore him and let your dd enjoy giving out the cards she worked so hard on. Her teachers will love them.

Presumably he's your ex because he's such an arsehole

I have dyspraxia and dysgraphia, little point in me re-writing in best as l don’t have best handwriting! Different diagnoses l know but for me and your daughter writing is really hard! Give me a keyboard or laptop and lm fine but no by hand. So l vote no she doesn’t re-write them

Don't tell me a dad who doesn't agree with her diagnosis, or thinks it's just a pointless label!

Tell him to try educating himself in the issues of dyslexia before he starts on the confidence of a 7yr old... from the parent of a recently diagnosed dyslexic 12yr old!

No she shouldn't re-do them. The best way to encourage confidence with writing is that when they are writing for fun (such as this) just let them get on with it and don't nit pick or judge.

Tell him to fuck off! My DD is severely dyslexic and I remember at that age she struggled just to copy what she needed to write in her Christmas cards. She made some mistakes, a relative noticed she was making mistakes and I jumped in and massively praised her. Relative went along with it and praised her too, although I could tell they were slightly cringing as they're someone who finds spelling easy. I don't think teachers or children cared.

Well done to your DD for persevering and writing the cards independently.

No, don't make her redo. Praise her effort her teachers will know of her difficulties and appreciate the setiment even more

You heard his thought, considered it, and can now ignore it ;)

Oh I love that he thinks you should make her re-do them.

Personally I would not make her redo them. She has made an effort, she hasn't been lazy, she has done her best and is proud of her effort. Don't let her father bring her down.

I am sure there is one teacher or member of staff you can think of for whom she hasn't yet done a card.

Tell your ex he can do that one with her.

Hmm I can see why you made him your ex. Delightful isn't he.

She's done marvelous, doesn't need to change or rewrite a thing.

Please don't. Any teacher worth their salt will appreciate the effort and thought she has put in.

Is your ex her father?

My 6yr old has written her cards and the teachers names are phonetically (SP?) spelt. I have just said well done and sent them in. The teachers will much prefer that to someone standing over a kid making them write something in a "perfect" way. They know how hard writing is for your DD so these will be extra special!

At least he is proving why you should be glad he is an Ex!!

My 7yo boy did some cards this year for the first time. I have no idea who he wrote to or what he wrote. I praised him for having a go and left him to it. It would have been fine if he hadn't wanted to do any at all like last year.

@VexedofVirginiaWater

Please don't. Any teacher worth their salt will appreciate the effort and thought she has put in.

Is your ex her father?

@VexedofVirginiaWater yes he's her father should of stated that