To not make DD rewrite her cards for her teachers?

[ChristmasCardDyslexia]

DD is 7, year 3.

She is quite badly dyslexic and struggles with reading and writing.

She’s tried really hard to write her Christmas Cards this year (last year I wrote them and she signed then she wanted to do them all this year). The last two she did are for the Deputy Head/Senco and her class teacher.

Her writing is wobbly, bigger and smaller in some parts but she worked so hard on them and is really excited to give them out tomorrow.

ExH thinks I should make her re-write the teachers cards “neater” because it shows I don’t care or watch her writing (I did, I helped her spell names and words). I think they won’t care and will see how much effort she’s put in. When she finished she looked exhausted but was so proud of herself – we’ve been writing them in batches of 3-4 cards for over a week.

So AIBU? Or do I need to make her rewrite them?

Your ex is a TWAT. Well done to your girl for her hard work.

Oh, and I couldn't even write on the straight lines in exercise books when I was 9 - doesn't mean anything! My handwriting is still absolute crap, and it doesn't matter as everything at work/higher ed is typed anyway. Handwriting doesn't reflect the amount of care put in - some of us are just awful handwriters.

Your daughter should be really proud and her teachers will be too.

Congratulations to your DD on getting Head teacher's award OP, that is really lovely.

You absolutely SHOULD NOT get her to rewrite them and I hope she hasn't heard this negativity about them. She has done very well and should be very proud of herself. That's a big job for her. Well done to her and Merry Christmas!

@ChristmasCardDyslexia

DD gave her card to the DHT as we walked in, DHT gushed at it told DD she'd done really well with it and it was going to go into her office and sit on top of her filing cabinet (she shares an office with the head) for the whole school to see when they go in.

DD was thrilled.

Dropped her at the classroom and as I was about to walk passed the HT she called me over and invited me to the Christmas Assembly tomorrow (all outside) as DDs been given a Headteachers Award for her efforts this term.

I can't believe it, she's never in 3.5 years had a Headteachers Award, she's going to be so happy. And I might cry a lot a little too

Brilliant! Actually brought a tear to my eye! Well done her. And you.

I'm sad that her dad is the way he is. Hope she isn't affected by him

So your ex has no problem with humiliating her then, what a disgusting prick. All three of my sons are dyslexic and I'd never have done that to any of them. I used to help mine by writing most of the card and getting them to sign their names, it encouraged them and made it a happy thing.

So in typical DD fashion she stands up when she hears her name and walks to the front to get her certificate, then there was one more song with all the kids sat on a bench at the front of the assembly, as the songs playing DD randomly starts dancing.

Could see the headteacher smiling and giggling at her, was told afterwards by the teacher it's typical of DD, she just does completely random but appropriate things.

@ChristmasCardDyslexia fantastic update OP.

Your DD sounds wonderful

I'd much prefer a card written by a child, complete with spelling mistakes, and in their authentic handwriting, then a card written out perfectly by a parent who doesn't think their child's writing in good enough.

I've still got a card from my first year in education where the last bit of my name has been rendered as "Bum".

Tell him to fuck off. Prick.

The teachers teach her! They know her handwriting. Please don't make her write them again, poor kid will feel rubbish about herself

Wonderful update OP.

And congratulation to Dd on her Ht award. 🏆

So she's come out of school with another certificate today "Most improved child of the term" she was crying with happiness, her teacher said she couldn;t not vote for her

Ah how lovely! Well done to her, and to you for being such a brilliant support to her.🌷