To not make DD rewrite her cards for her teachers?

[ChristmasCardDyslexia]

DD is 7, year 3.

She is quite badly dyslexic and struggles with reading and writing.

She’s tried really hard to write her Christmas Cards this year (last year I wrote them and she signed then she wanted to do them all this year). The last two she did are for the Deputy Head/Senco and her class teacher.

Her writing is wobbly, bigger and smaller in some parts but she worked so hard on them and is really excited to give them out tomorrow.

ExH thinks I should make her re-write the teachers cards “neater” because it shows I don’t care or watch her writing (I did, I helped her spell names and words). I think they won’t care and will see how much effort she’s put in. When she finished she looked exhausted but was so proud of herself – we’ve been writing them in batches of 3-4 cards for over a week.

So AIBU? Or do I need to make her rewrite them?

Sorry kids interrupted me. Well done to your dd for having a go and your ex can fottfsof.

The teachers see her writing every day, they'll be proud of her for doing them all by herself.

I was expecting you to say there was a glaring, potentially embarrassing spelling mistake! But wobbly/unevenly sized letters? Absolutely fine.

We do them in pencil and when it looks nice go over it pen and erase the pencil traces. But it "looks nice" when the person giving the card - in this case your daughter - is happy with it. She is, so job done!

I helped with spelling because thats something she struggles with, she can't decode/blend or hear the sounds in the words properly, if I'd left her to it she'd have got upset and not sent them in.

My best friend is dyslexic. She recently joined social media and her captions are always misspelt/ wrong tense or just don’t make any sense. She’s in her late 40’s and I’m so proud that she now doesn’t give a fuck and finally found that courage.
My point is you ex should be round of that immense effort she’s put it. He’s an arse. Ignore him

*proud

Oh, so he is her father but presumably this doesn't apply to him, only to you -

ExH thinks I should make her re-write the teachers cards “neater” because it shows I don’t care or watch her writing

Pity he can't be more supportive of his own daughter.

Is he honestly so stupid that he thinks her teacher has never seen her writing before?? How bizarre!

DB is dyslexic - now in his 50s but I saw all he went through at this sort of age and I’m sure the teachers will understand what an achievement writing Christmas cards is for your DD. What a shame your EX doesn’t.

@unhappyteacher

Is he honestly so stupid that he thinks her teacher has never seen her writing before?? How bizarre!

@unhappyteacher sorry your unhappy he claims there's nothing wrong with her reading or writing and she can read and write fine with him, I and the DHT have asked for video evidence but it's never forthcoming

I am outraged at the thought of telling the child to re - write the cards. Doesn't your ex. know it is the thought that counts??

As the parent of a now adult child with dyslexia and other learning difficulties, I join the chorus of people telling you to tell him to do one.

Besides being an insensitive parent, his attitude is disablist. It's like telling a person with limited mobility to walk better.

I agree with PP. As a teacher, I am always delighted to receive a card from a student. I would proudly display it regardless of their handwriting. I would understand that she tried her best and made such an effort for me - how kind!!!

I am an English teacher and work extensively with dyslexic students. Your ex has this very very wrong and will absolutely hammer your daughter's confidence if he has his way. Please continue as you are, praising her efforts as much as you possibly can. You sound like a great mum

I'm dyslexic and my year 3 teacher refused to accept my Christmas card until I rewrote it (I forgot the capital letter) . To this day I think she's a bitch, and that's literally the only thing I remember of her. Don't be that person

How does he know what they look like?
If she wrote them with him, it would’ve been his responsibility to correct her.

She is a star!
You sound like a lovely, caring and thoughtful mum.

Your ex is a knob.

Glad he's your X, OP. How unkind of him.

@ChristmasCardDyslexia I really should change my name as I've left the school that was making me so unhappy

I think it's lovely that despite your daughters challenges with writing, she wanted to persevere and do her cards herself, he should be proud of her for that alone. In my experience though, a lot of people don't see dyslexia as a "real" learning need and it's nothing a dictionary won't sort out

Absolutely tell him to do one and while he is there do some research on dyslexia.

If she’s done her best, her teachers will recognise this and be thrilled. I’d rather have one handwritten by any one of my class than gave one written by their parents.

Aaarggghh don’t listen to him. She tried hard at a thankless task.

The teachers will appreciate her efforts.
Tell the ex to sod off

I'm a teacher. I would be very appreciative of the effort and thought that she has put in. I would not think that she hadn't tried or that you didn't care.

Who’s showed the cards to the father and ask for his opinion ?