Wanting to tell 44 weeks and breech friend she's risking her baby?

[scottishlass43]

My friend is 44 weeks pregnant with a footling breech. She's determined to have a natural birth at home with another friend of ours who's a midwife. She's been declining all intervention till now and has no cut off point - she wants to let the baby come naturally and doesn't want scans or any monitoring. She refuses to consider a c-section.

She's older (late thirties) and has been waiting for several years for this baby. I have no idea why she'd risk it now.

AIBU wanting to tell her what I think? Am I (and other worried friends) overreacting? Does anyone know of anyone who's done this, and how it went?

I don’t think I could stay friends with someone like that, how completely and utterly selfish. I hope the baby isn’t too unwell and recovers soon. Poor little love.

Oh, poor wee thing. I can't bear the thought of newborns needing interventions, they have so much to get used to without learning about pain too.

Makes me feel quite tearful.

Hope the baby has a good night and perks up with some fancy calpol that clever neonatal staff can magic up.

Your friend is likely half mad. She's probably not slept properly for over a month, she's had a difficult labour/birth and she's now looking at a baby who is struggling. NICU is a very tough place to be, and her baby is going to look like a heffalump compared to the others in there who are most likely pre-term.

She's got a lot to get her head around.

She's turning her baby needing a lumbar puncture into a joke? I feel a bit sick reading that. And I'd tell net that too.

So sorry to hear poor wee one is ill

This thread is completely outting, would you care if your friend found it @scottishlass43?

Awful. DD3 had sepsis after she was born and the LPs and everything else were traumatic as fuck, your friend is sick.

How’s the baby doing?

I hate to do that "any update?" thing...and yet, here I am.

I'm doing that thing that MN warn against - am over invested in the thought of a mother who has the courage of her convictions, which turn out to be a crock of shit, with a tiny newborn having to bear the brunt.

__yeah, yeah, yeah, don't over invest, but, what sort of monster would' tread this an think "what the fuck, that is awful"

How is the baby, OP?

God my babys lumber puncture was the worst day of my life, that is shocking

My dd got to 42 weeks and was induced. The after birth was grey and broken up and midwife told her any longer and baby would have died due to no nutrition left in after birth.

I think I would report the midwife who is facilitating this choice.

How is the baby doing, OP?