To think 2 year olds should do as they're told?

[SleepingStandingUp]

And that if they don't it's a reflection on lax parenting? I'm taking not climbing and sitting in high sides, not going upstairs when told not to / coming down when told to, sitting at the table to eat, not pushing each other?

AIBU to expect that we'll raised two year olds can do all this and the fact mine don't is because I'm doing something wrong and therefore to ask how to make them behave??

Some 2 year olds are really well behaved, others are less so.

😂😂😂 brilliant!!

You should discipline a 2 year old yes but to expect them to do abide by every rule may be abit much.

I thought it was known as the terrible twos for a reason?

No, 2 year olds don’t always do those things and it has nothing to do with how strict or not you are. They’re small people with their own ideas - they will get there, just be consistent.

Huh? I wish mine would do as they are told… they don’t! And I work with real challenging teens..!

When you find out, let me know.

I think you have unrealistic expectations of 2 year olds. Give them time. Mine can be the most darling angel and the most vile arsehole depending on the hour.

May the gods be with us all

this made me laugh

Sorry but that's crazy. I don't even know where to start.

Not without duct tape! 😂

🤣 I've never met a 2yo who will consistently do any of these let alone all of them

Mine didn’t, you can’t reason with 2 yr olds IMHO.

Gaffer tape might work...

Some do. Some don't.

Good luck with whatever type you get.

My two year old only does what she is told if she wants to. I could definitely be stricter and she would probably be more obedient if I were but I find they naturally become more amenable closer to three. At this age I just help them obey by going to get them if they dont listen the first time. With pushing I would firmly say no and remove. I don’t insist they stay at the table if they want to get up until closer to three, though having worked in a nursery I know they are capable of sitting nicely from about 1.

Do you have any books about raising children/caring for babies/toddlers/children? If not, maybe do a little reading. I'm not sure you're well placed to rely on your instincts.

I was going to laugh at this, as I thought it was going to be someone with no young children, until I saw it was your own children. Don't be so hard on yourself. By questioning yourself you are showing you care and you are a good parent. There's no easy option and I'm sorry I don't have an answer, but keep going.

I still don't do as I'm told so I certainly don't expect my toddler too

@Vanishun

I thought it was known as the terrible twos for a reason?

Dripfeed. They're not even frigging two for a week!!!!

2 year olds are twats.

Disclaimer for the easily offended. Im joking. they are only twats sometimes

Is this your first experience of a 2 year old @SleepingStandingUp?

When I was a nanny the little boy I looked after was a lovely well behaved 2 year old. Unfortunately skipping the terrible twos meant dealing with the terrible threes. To an outsider it may have looked like lax parenting but he was a lovely boy and just going through a phase of testing everyone and everything.

@CtrlU

You should discipline a 2 year old yes but to expect them to do abide by every rule may be abit much.

I obv tell them off and remove them etc but I struggle with appropriate "punishments"

YABVU

I'm guessing you don't have kids OP. Fwiw neither do I, and I love the theory of good parenting = good toddlers but am aware the reality is very different. I also don't remember being two and a little shithead.