How not to cooperate at work politely

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Be busy, unavailable, don't volunteer information. I'm team OP too.

I would have said the opposite until I experienced this kind of crap firsthand.

It's not personal against your colleague. You can be perfectly civil and polite and un co operative.

Crack on OP and more power to you. Check out the antiwork movement too

Maybe I read it wrong, but I thought the OP is leaving because the interesting bits of her job never materalised because they were given to someone else. Someone else who can't actually do that work because she needs training on it by the OP. And people want the OP to be helpful? Christ. You don't owe them anything, OP. Go on leave, direct her to other people, be unavailable.

Seeing as you never did those aspects of the job, you cannot be expected to help with that. I would however do a fulsome handover for the aspects that you did do. That keeps you in the role of colleague, rather than junior.

Result being, you can't be blamed if her projects go wrong but if you need something down the line, you also haven't burned your bridges.

I don't understand why you care what people think if you're leaving? Surely if you contribute they'll just see it as helping out your replacement? When people are leaving they don't lead things in their last few weeks! So why would they find it odd?
Suck it up and get on with it, you never know when your paths may cross with these people again, plus your reasoning is ridiculous to be frank. Just hold your head high, you're the one leaving, what's to be ashamed of!

actually i would deflect her to someone else, because you wont be around.
you could write a basic guide
but again you wont be around.
she needs to learn for herself

Give her the help she needs.

While you're at it, ask her how she managed to get the role of developing the area you were hired for. You may well be able to get some tips you could use in your new job.

Imagine the roles in reverse

Help the woman out op! Not for the company but for her :) be the bigger person

I can’t believe people are advising you to be obstructive. I was once in your colleague’s position and it nearly broke me. My manager had given me a project to run which I didn’t have the skill set for, or the strength of character to turn down. The experienced person in my team thought the project should have been his, and went out of his way to make me fail. He would withhold valuable information, not attend meetings, not answer my requests for help, he even said to me one day as I was in charge it wasn’t up to him to train me. I used to drive home from that job in tears. My relationship at the time failed, I lost my house, and I nearly lost my sanity. It ended with me leaving the job and the career I’d spend years training for. Don’t underestimate the impact of your actions on other people, yes you are feeling aggrieved and rightly so, but it’s because of a management decision and not the fault of your colleague.

Don’t deliberately make someone’s life that bit harder for the sake of it. That would be really petty, have a bit of self respect for goodness sake.

Is your new job within the same organisation?

I’m 4 months into a job where my colleague refuses to help me. If she bothers to answer a question it will be a half answer. I don’t know what happened behind the scenes before I arrived but I seem to be the one paying the price for someone’s misdeed. I probably won’t pass my probationary period because she’s been an absolute dick and I’ve had to plod along doing my best. So, if you can possibly help it, don’t be a dick to your colleague.

So your boss wasn't interested, and told you to do boring stuff, and you couldn't change their mind - but her boss has decided it's worth doing and is prompting her to crack on.

Your problem was/is your boss.

Sounds like your boss was happy to pass over new projects to a different department, and that's on them. No one in the kick off meeting is judging you 1) because you're leaving so why would you lead a project? And 2) because obviously a different department is taking the lead so then why would someone in your old department (or in deed you) take the lead?

Op, don't be a dick. It's not just your new colleague who'll remember that you were - it's their boss, the others in the project. Depending on your industry you can find out that the world is very small.

I hope you manage to sort this successfully. Many years ago when I tried to deal with this sort of thing I was accused of "dumb insolence"!!

I think in your shoes I would smile politely and say that, as I had never been allowed to do the roles in question despite my JD, I wasn't in a position to train anyone else to do them.

Why does it matter whether you are a contributor or leading the project? You’re leaving so be an adult and contribute fully until you leave.

"I feel personally that it is professionally embarrassing to be her 'junior' on this but there is an expectation that I help her."

That expectation derives from the fact that you are still being paid to work there and to not help is to be a piss-taker, basically. It's up to you to decide if you want to join the ranks of the piss-takers.

OP - it would be mean and unprofessional not to train her.

BUT if it is not possible to train her in the time period given, then give a high level plan and instructions eg set up xyz. Hand over the important parts in a document (so people cannot blame you for not giving a good handover). You should make it clear that a full handover is not possible in the time period and a contractor would be needed to fill the temporary gaps.

Be very busy and ask her to schedule time in with you

Or 'oh, this was part of the role I wanted to develop, I never got the opportunity, so apologies but I don't really know how to do this'

Take as much annual leave as possible

'Im leaving on X date, I'd suggest you get X or Y to assist you as I won't be available to assist ongoing'

Really selfish and upsetting behaviour not to knowledge transfer. You get paid to do work for the company, this sounds like it's asking for your domain knowledge to support a project. You would be petty not to cooperate and if your new role is with the same company, you better hope it doesn't get back to your new manager.

I had a similar situation recently where someone was politely refusing to cooperate with an impact to the business. I had a word with her new receiving manager and let's just say she's fully cooperating now.

It sounds like either your manager was the issue, or perhaps you could have advocated for yourself better. Either way you can avoid being obstructive whilst not handing everything on a plate. I'd also go to the meeting, I guarantee no one else will be arsed if you 'should' have been leading it, they probably haven't thought about it much. I'd help with general things but be honest and say I had my superuser training from x, I haven't done anything towards this as it didn't end up forming part of my role.