To be pissed off my husband lost his wedding jacket?

[Terribleluck]

He went on his Christmas do and not only did he decide it was on to walk home 2 miles in not the best weather (I still can't believe his friends would let him do that) but he lost our wedding jacket, that does make very, very pissed off/sad.

Jesus christ if that's your only worry in life think yourself lucky

Does anyone else really want to go out drinking with the OP's husband? I mean he's clearly a liability but he does sound fun

He only does it at either work events or weddings... In reality he can't control his drinking in certain situations. The good news is that he's recovered the jacket (with keys and bonus!)

Why did he drive the car to the pub if he’s lost his licence? That would be much more upsetting to me than a jacket going missing.

@godmum56

I'd have a bit of a gentle conversation with him though about "friends" who like to get him drunk because he becomes a clown because they don't sound like friends to me. But wedding jacket??? "our" wedding jacket? I mean if he bought into that then why did he wear it? Are you sure you didn't foist the idea onto him? because its a bit U

A gentle conversation? He's not the 16yo DS going out drinking for the first time being warned of the dangers of peer pressure!

Why did he drive to the pub, as opposed to walk the 2 miles or you could have dropped him off which would have saved the trip today to pick up the car once he's fit to drive (which will be much much later today if he was in that much of a state at 3am).

He doesn't know for certain he has lost the envelope as it could be in the pocket still...but likely that it's been spent (agree with PP it's a fucking stupid idea to give out cash bonuses the same day as they are going drinking).

OP, I hope the jacket is somewhere it can be retrieved. Even as an accident it's frustrating when things get misplaced. But I'd be having a grown up conversation with him about how his level of drinking on a night out impacts everyone else around him.

Great news! Now take a big sigh of relief, get cracking on your dinner party and try and enjoy the festive season with the promise of a better 2022. I know the job search has been brutal for you but you should be so proud to be peeking out the other side of it all.

You seem almost nervous to relax in case something else goes wrong...it won't so let your hair down and enjoy the next few weeks before the new job!

@BlusteringBoobies

Ohhhh Mumsnet Bingo with mention above of casino or strippers.

Don't think we've had drugs or prostitutes mentioned yet?

Haha, I'm being tongue in cheek! So many holes in this drip feed...

@Courtier

Oh and if it's a velvet jacket they're very passé and gross anyway. Look like you're from Essex if you wear a velvet jacket.

This thread really has brought out the worst in people.

I keep losing stuff so can't blame dh if he does but obviously th jacket had a lot of sentimental value to op. People feel what they feel. No need to be unnecessarily nasty.

Accidents happen so please don't give him a hard time op but I can understand that you are upset (and about the keys / bonus) and just wanted a bit of a rant.

Hope you'll find the jacket and contents.
(And as someone who loses a lot of stuff please don't be hard on him) you can tell him you feel s bit sad but then let it go.snd then don't blame him. Trust me that it will make your marriage better.

Where did he find it?

@Terribleluck

He only does it at either work events or weddings... In reality he can't control his drinking in certain situations. The good news is that he's recovered the jacket (with keys and bonus!)

Great news!! Enjoy your weekend!!

My fiancé is thinking of just renting his wedding suit and I don’t think he’ll want to wear it again! So get a grip.

I couldn't get mad about this. My wedding shoes broke after and I had to throw them away. I was a bit upset but I though well I'm not going to wear them again.

@Tlollj

I think you’re annoyed that he went out in the first place.

I agree The babysitter cancelled so you stayed at home and resent it (don’t blame you) It’s not really about the jacket

@AliveAndSleeping I don't see the issue. It's true.

@Terribleluck

He only does it at either work events or weddings... In reality he can't control his drinking in certain situations. The good news is that he's recovered the jacket (with keys and bonus!)

Great news! Please tell us where the jacket was - so delighted that by just gone 9am the morning after he was able to get himself to town, retrace the steps to the places he'd forgotten he'd been, and find everything!

Glad he's not hungover so won't spoil the dinner party.

I'm always losing things myself so I would say don't be hard on him, it wasn't on purpose!

Great! Hope you enjoy your party tonight. Want to know what’s on the menu!

He found it in the pub they went to after their group dinner.

Who on earth gets a cash bonus anymore?

Great update. It sounds like he still has some growing up to do.
I agree that a large cash bonus sounds like a tax dodge.

Hi op, I've only read your posts but I can see you've been battling a lot of weird misunderstanding on here. You're very mature and patient!

I hope your partner finds his jacket (and keys and bonus). I understand that clothes can have meaning. I love that you two chose wedding clothes that could be worn on other occasions. That's very romantic.