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To think many are jealous of social media influencers

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pebimo6 · 03/12/2021 12:06

There's a couple I follow on Instagram and it's obvious some of the things they show are ads and that's fine. When I watch itv it's free because there are ads, that's the world. You either pay for a service or it finds another way to make you pay.

But has anyone else notice how instamums attract so much negativity? It seems to be nothing more than jealously! They're not harming anyone and no one is forced to follow

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pebimo6 · 04/12/2021 06:03

[quote Justheretoaskaquestion91]@GetTheFlockOutOfHere

If you knew me and my life you would know I’m not jealous (and also that I’m a nice person!) but I’m not going to convince you of that so it doesn’t matter to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s just a morbid curiosity/fascination.[/quote]
Sorry but your posts indicate you're green eyed! No one nice would post to say they are

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pebimo6 · 04/12/2021 06:05

@ronniz

I am also baffled as to why so many people waste valuable time and energy indulging in something that doesnt give them joy.

It's like the internet version of Marie Kondo, you know? If it doesnt make you feel joy, just exit the fucking screen and relax.

I don't understand this view I have young dc & nieces & nephews so of course I care and have an opinion about SM. It's not a question of me not following certain people & then all is fine in the world, there is a toxic dark side to SM & just because it doesn't have an impact on me doesn't mean don't worry about it.

But it really is that easy. Don't like don't follow! Only you can make them exist in your head
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ronniz · 04/12/2021 07:20

But it really is that easy. Don't like don't follow! Only you can make them exist in your head

That's absolute nonsense & the height of stupidity. So because I don't use instagram or youtube I can just pretend it doesn't exist? Schools have to teach about online safety now, parents need to be aware.

CatDogAlpaca · 04/12/2021 07:26

Wtf is an instamum? Just add hot water??

Bunce1 · 04/12/2021 07:31

Don’t like don’t follow (subtext, be quiet and be kind, don’t challenge)

Do you have any idea how stupid you sound? So complete devoid of critical thought?

Have you listened to the Reith lectures this year?

speakout · 04/12/2021 07:32

These instagram people are not "harmless", they are causing some people to feel like failures.
These influences wit their white/gold rose homes, six packs, perfect families, perfect teeth, six packs, spending all theit time fding astanga yoga on beaches, meditating, journalling, making memories, living their best life.
It is nauseating.
It is a filtered, enhanced fictional fairy tale.
I am not jealous on bit- because I know behind all these dreamy snaps and pure white homes these influencers are living a real life- the one they don't want you to know about.
They don't post about the fact their husband is shagging the bloke from HR, the toilet is blocked, the dog has shit in the kitchen floor again, they have been called into school again because their kid is thumping other pupils, they are taking prozac, their mother is an alcoholic, thet are awaiting a trial bdcause of their shoplifting habit.
So much of is a huge big fucking lie.
Not jealous one bit.
Too busy living my own life.

TellMeItsPossible · 04/12/2021 07:35

Jealous of someone that self absorbed? There is literally nothing to be jealous of - all those pics are brushed to death. It's empty.

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pebimo6 · 04/12/2021 08:22

@ronniz

But it really is that easy. Don't like don't follow! Only you can make them exist in your head

That's absolute nonsense & the height of stupidity. So because I don't use instagram or youtube I can just pretend it doesn't exist? Schools have to teach about online safety now, parents need to be aware.

You are the one getting obsessed with instamums and pretending its a moral crusade.

Why not spend your time dealing with real issues the world faces like hunger, disease and people being killed in Afghanistan? It's just people selling makeup and Hoover's on social media that you find beyond the pale in life?!?

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pebimo6 · 04/12/2021 08:24

@speakout

These instagram people are not "harmless", they are causing some people to feel like failures. These influences wit their white/gold rose homes, six packs, perfect families, perfect teeth, six packs, spending all theit time fding astanga yoga on beaches, meditating, journalling, making memories, living their best life. It is nauseating. It is a filtered, enhanced fictional fairy tale. I am not jealous on bit- because I know behind all these dreamy snaps and pure white homes these influencers are living a real life- the one they don't want you to know about. They don't post about the fact their husband is shagging the bloke from HR, the toilet is blocked, the dog has shit in the kitchen floor again, they have been called into school again because their kid is thumping other pupils, they are taking prozac, their mother is an alcoholic, thet are awaiting a trial bdcause of their shoplifting habit. So much of is a huge big fucking lie. Not jealous one bit. Too busy living my own life.
If adverts on TV or keeping up with the Kardashians makes you feel like a failure isn't that on you and easy to solve by not watching the Kardashians and their mansions?

Hating the Kardashians won't improve your life, it will only make it worse.

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AnOldCynic · 04/12/2021 08:27

Hahahahaha!! Jealous? Feel a bit sad for them really.

ronniz · 04/12/2021 08:31

@pebimo6 when have I mentioned instamums? My comments have all been about SM & influencers are just one part of that.

Why not spend your time dealing with real issues the world faces like hunger, disease and people being killed in Afghanistan? It's just people selling makeup and Hoover's on social media that you find beyond the pale in life?!?

I'm really confused by the above point. So you are saying there is no toxicity around SM & if there is people are dying in Afghanistan so it doesn't matter? 🤔

Mercurial123 · 04/12/2021 08:33

I quite like danaemercer she shows you what her body is really like and then shows the tricks the Instagrammers go to achieve the "perfect" look.

ronniz · 04/12/2021 08:34

Hating the Kardashians won't improve your life, it will only make it worse.

I don't hate the Kardashian's or watch them. But I still criticise them for cultural appropriation & normalising changing your face or body in an extreme way.

sunnyandshare · 04/12/2021 09:25

I know somebody who is a local instagrammer, not a Kardashian by any means, but still has a decent following and is invited along to lots of PR events. She's always living her best life, loads of hotel breaks and she just put her Christmas tree up in the "drawing room". Except I know for a fact that she is chronically depressed, puts her kids into bed at 6pm with a dvd every night as she needs to get away from them, she's a chain smoker (but very healthy for the gram) and she most certainly does not have a drawing room, she has a living room that you walk into from the street! I feel embarrassed for her tbh.

ronniz · 04/12/2021 09:36

Don’t like don’t follow (subtext, be quiet and be kind, don’t challenge)

Why is that logic never applied in the reverse? If the OP doesn't like the answers on this thread then don't read it, remember "Only you can make them exist in your head"!

I'm also intrigued as to what the OP is doing herself about world hunger & disease as opposed to spending her time labelling everyone jealous? 😆😆

AlfonsoTheUnrepentant · 04/12/2021 09:41

I'm not.

First, the only influencer I know of is Mrs Hinch, though I am not interested in anything she does or says. It's just name recognition and I might possibly recognise a photograph of her, though I find her generic looking. Second, I have no desire to sell my private life to the public. My private life is just that and the idea of having strangers know about my house, relationships etc horrifies me.

bert3400 · 04/12/2021 09:42

Me and DH were in Amsterdam a few years ago, we were sitting watching the world go by while eating amazing chips. We watched this single women all glammed up taking selfies for about 30 mins. Fake laughing, posing and positioning herself ....clicking away with her phone on a selfie stick. It was fascinating to watch but when she finished she looked so sad and alone. Since then I do not believe anything I see on SM especially influencers ....I'm not jealous at all just feel a bit sad for them

Mumoblue · 04/12/2021 09:46

I don’t really have any strong feelings about Instagram mums - other than maybe wondering what the eventual effect will be on children who have been raised with everything they do plastered all over the internet.

Flapjacker48 · 04/12/2021 09:51

Jealous of vacuous airheads - no.

JHMJHM · 04/12/2021 09:52

I guess it depends what your values are. The older I get, image and consumerism feels more fickle, frail and unedifying. Sure I like nice things but I find the blatant desperate display of perfection totally depressing and not remotely inspiring. Its a really damaging message for kids too. I saw someone with 4 retail shopwindow dressed christmas trees in a family home. Must have cost a fortune. Shit for the environment and not in the spirt in my opinion. Greedy. Wierd!

LuaDipa · 04/12/2021 10:14

*How many of us have jobs which are worthwhile? My job is great fun and pretty well paid, but it doesn't help anyone. Like most forms of employment.

Honestly if you can make a decent whack without having to work for someone else, and you enjoy it, why wouldn't you? The only downside of people aspiring to be influencers is that it's unlikely that they'll achieve their dream. But that's also true of acting, singing, modelling, painting, dancing and lots of other things.*

I agree with this. I love my job and earn a reasonable wage but it most definitely isn’t worthwhile.

I don’t really bother with social media nowadays but I have no issue with people earning their living in whatever way they choose as long as they aren’t hurting anyone. And obviously there is money to be made so why wouldn’t they capitalise on that.

The comments about talent are interesting because this clearly isn’t a job that necessarily requires that. They only need to be attractive or interesting to their audience in some way. And clearly they are because they are managing to make it pay. It really doesn’t matter that some don’t understand what makes them appealing because they aren’t targeting that audience anyway. Personally I don’t have any objection to people making the best of what they have. If they can earn a good living, and in some cases become very wealthy then good for them.

FindingFlorestan · 04/12/2021 10:33

It's like working in sales. 🤷

Bunce1 · 04/12/2021 10:36

You can’t argue with stupid!

op, sweetie, the whole premise you present is shonky and any follow ups are borderline hysterical with no sequiturs, moral relativism and just no logic.

It’s not really a discussion when you can’t engage.Confused

Bless.

OhPeeQueue · 04/12/2021 10:39

They’re useless members of society portraying a perfect life when in reality shit happens. They need to be banned; we lived normal sustainable lives up until 10 years ago when Instagram blew up thanks to fake book take over.

ItsSunnyOutside · 04/12/2021 10:40

I'm sure some people are jealous, but I suspect alot of people just find them abit annoying and insincere.

I don't envy them, I think it must takes alot of work to keep up the facade of a perfect life/home etc.
Social media can be draining and they must spend a large portion of the day online. It doesn't sound appealing at all

I used to follow a few but unfollowed them when they kept constantly promoting things and doing ads for things you just know they never used again after the ad. That's when they lose their appeal and seem less genuine.