Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ enabled for each other?

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I know this isn’t really an AIBU. Discussion with a friend.

Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ (or similar tracking app) installed so you can both see where each other are?

Interested to see views!

YABU: don’t be silly, that’s really intrusive and unnecessary.

YANBU: it’s perfectly normal, especially if you have kids.

I’m somewhere in the middle, depending on circumstances, although we do have ours turned on most of the time.

We do, we both used to have complicated commutes (now only my husband does for two days a week, and I work from home full time) . But if he’s stuck on a tube for example it’s really useful to know how to time dinner or anything else that relied on arrival times. And same for him when I used to commute. I don’t ever look at it unless he’s commuting back home though.

I did, and the very first time my then DH asked about where I had been I turned it off. Tracking me was one of the early signs of things going bad.

We use Life360.

When I was a child, someone tried to kidnap me so I have a fear of being kidnapped. I genuinely feel safer knowing he can find me 😂
Tbh I mostly use the tracker to see when he's on his way home so I can start dinner and have it ready for when he comes in 🤷‍♀️

The other day it wasn’t working for some reason and he was on his way to pick me up from a hospital appointment. It would have been really useful as I would have been outside of the hospital when he arrived, so he didn’t have to park.

Me and dh car share. It has proven really handy over the past two years to be able to see what the eta of each of us will be.

Wow, so many replies.

I totally understand those who say it’s creepy and intrusive- and also that for an abusive partner it’s another way to control someone.

That said, I also completely see that it’s useful for practical reasons as many PP have said.

Hence why I am sort of on the fence.

We have it on, and we have it enabled for both kids too. My older one does (like many kids) a public transport commute in London/goes out to shops/cinema etc with friends and I like to know where she is.

I trust my DH and he trusts me, I mainly use it as other people have said, for seeing when to put dinner on etc.

No

When dh was wfh he would have a cup of tea and dinner ready for me as soon as i walked through the door.

My dh can’t text or call if he has been knocked out and lying on the ground on the farm. I think that those who find it creepy have their own issues.

@iklboodolphrednosedpaindear

Yes, mainly use it to see when each of us are on our way home so the other can put tea on.

This! I’ve only recently started using it despite having had it for ages, because I’ve twigged that I never know when he’s going to be home and when to get dinner ready/whether he’s eating with me and the kids or not.

We have it. We both cycle a lot and it’s helpful knowing how long/where we each are as we wouldn’t be able to pull over and answer a “where are you?” Call/text. We also have two cars so it’s helpful to know if we’re needing to swap cars or meet somewhere else how long the other will be - I have a long commute and don’t feel comfortable answering a call/text when driving. DH knows when I should be home but it’s useful if I’m later than expected.

Eh, no.

Yes I have it on for both my husband and my adult son.

Really helpful as my husband commutes and is rubbish at keeping in contact so I can see where he is, how he's doing and when he'll be home. Also handy when I get up (he's a very early riser) and I don't know where he is.

Use it for my son less (he is an adult and doesn't live with us) but handy when he's coming to see us and I can see where he is en route.

I love it.

Yes, mainly we have it for Dc, just in case when out meeting friends etc.

I use it sometimes to check when to start cooking when DH is on his way home - obviously DH can turn it off whenever he likes.

I doubt DH ever checks where I am, but it's a good safety feature, and I wouldn't mind anyway, nothing against him knowing where I am.

I assume Dd can also check where DH and I are if she wants, I don't mind that either.

If DH started telling me I couldn't turn it off, that would be a different matter, and I would definitely turn it off immediately!

DH and I are old. We barely have a phone, frankly.

Which means he has one but it will be flat and probably on his chest of drawers in the bedroom when he goes out.

And mine will probably be switched on in the bottom of my handbag but I won't hear it ring/locate it/answer it before it rings off.

Neither of us would have a clue what an 'app' is or how to install or check one. I literally use my phone maybe twice a week. Both our phones are roughly 7 years old and probably obsolete.

We don't. I think if my teens actually liked going out it would be a really good idea though.

@ElevenOG

We use WhatsApp live location if one of us has a long journey to do but that's more down to having rather unreliable vehicles in case of a breakdown situation!

Sorry for the hijack but what is WhatsApp live location? Never seen this on there

@iklboodolphrednosedpaindear

Yes, mainly use it to see when each of us are on our way home so the other can put tea on.

This is exactly us. Husband works over 2 hours away, so watching his progress to guess when he will be home is really useful. We have no secrets and both use it and joke about things we've spotted. Like last week I was looking to see if he'd left the gym yet and found him at McDonald's!

No, sounds creepy! Abusive ex would have loved it, luckily that was before smart phones existed.

I do have an app where dh can see my location when I go for a run, but only when I choose to send him a link. I only use it when running alone at night.

@MadMadMadamMim mum?

Shared Apple ID here too as it was set up pre family thing. We use it to see when to put the kettle on / start cooking etc.

Yes. All of the family.

No, that way madness lies.

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Yes we have it and use it all the time. DS calls it find my daddy and will look to see if DH is close on his journey home from work/football etc. I check to see if he's gone passed the shops or not, if he hasn't I'll call with a list.

He'll check if I'm out by myself for similar reasons. I have nothing to hide, so why would I want to hide where I am from him? Equally, he doesn't behave in a way that makes me feel as though I need to hide.

I have it on with him and a few of my friends.