Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ enabled for each other?

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I know this isn’t really an AIBU. Discussion with a friend.

Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ (or similar tracking app) installed so you can both see where each other are?

Interested to see views!

YABU: don’t be silly, that’s really intrusive and unnecessary.

YANBU: it’s perfectly normal, especially if you have kids.

I’m somewhere in the middle, depending on circumstances, although we do have ours turned on most of the time.

We have find my phone, and I can see where mine and his are, so technically the same thing but I've never had the need to use it. Except when he was stuck in traffic for hours once and just wanted an idea how much progress he'd made.

We have it. DH does a some long journeys and doesn't like using his phone in the car, very handy to see where he is so I know if I can start dinner. Play a Sound is also very handy for finding the DC's iPads!

Yes we have it. I work from home so DH doesn’t use it for me (can’t remember if he even has my location on his) but he has a commute home and I check it at a set time to see if he’s left work on time to pick up DD and if he hasn’t I pick her up, if he has I can see how far away he is and when to put the dinner on. It also came in useful once when he lost his phone and we were able to locate it using mine.

I did recently drive to a location I didn’t want him to know about (picking up his birthday present) so the only down side would be that it might have ruined a surprise- but he would have no reason at all to look.

Not ordinarily, no.

When we go to big events or out shopping individually but plan to meet up we might turn it on for the rest of the day (as it makes finding each other again easier).

Yup and for all the kids. Need to know whereabouts they are for all sorts of reason. We all work an hour from home. Sometimes the teens get lost in town etc. Complicated schedules.

Maybe use it twice a week.

@RaininSummer

I don't even know what find my friend is. Do you have to download some sort of app?

Me neither. I have Find Device set up for my phone and tablet so I can see where they are from my Google account if they get lost or stolen, but I have no idea how I would track someone else's phone.

Yes, my partner, my kids and me all have it enabled for each other. I rarely use it - mostly to see if DP is on his way home so I can put dinner on. He’ll use it if he decides he wants to surprise me with a lift home from the train station. If DS (13) isn’t home for a few hours after school I might check to see where he is in case he wants a lift. My DD is almost 16 and I have told her that when she’s 16 she can take it off it if she wants, but she has said that she’d rather stay on it.

We don’t, but realistically it absolutely wouldn’t be a bad idea. He works on farms with heavy machinery at all hours of the night and day and I ride horses so either of us could have an accident or incident and it would probably help to be able to locate each other easily.

Yes we have location sharing on Google Maps left on. We did it one day for some reason and forgot to turn off and realised it was actually quite useful, we are both out and about all the time.

It's not about not trusting each other. It's just for logistics, e.g. to see if DH will be home from work in time for dinner, DH can see if I've decided to go into the office that day so could stop into the shop on the way home etc. Yes we could text each other but it's nice not to have to bother.

Oh hell no I couldn't think of anything worse
I don't want to keep track on my DP and I don't want him to keep track on me
That's what phone's are for, to give a quick text etc
I wouldn't use it for my DD/DS's either

Yep. Me, DH, the kids, some of my family and friends. It’s useful!

No. Nor do I have it for 21 year old DD who is a student.

No, I find it really creepy. I will always tell my partner if I am staying late somewhere, but won’t give a time I’ll be home or my exact itinerary and I wouldn’t expect to have his, never mind track his whereabouts.

I worked with a guy who constantly stalked his wife, was always commenting on where she was, what shops she was in.. was weird, controlling and creepy.

No and I would find it creepy if he suggested it.

Never even been discussed tbh. He doesn't get to know where I am at all times and vice versa.

No. We pre- date all this new fangled stuff

No - I absolutely hate the idea of being tracked like that and I trust my DP and expect him to trust me.

It would be weird and controlling for either of us to want this

No, never heard of it. Wouldn't be against it if I was regularly out on my own though.

We don't have any tracking apps, but I wouldn't have a problem with it. We both generally know where the other is, anyway. I'm home nearly always, so anyone tracking me would find it very dull.

If it had a tracking app installed, I'd view it primarily as a precaution for emergencies. (Maybe I'll consider installing one, now.)

We’re both on the same Apple household account so can see one another on Find My iPhone. It’s handy for seeing which train we’ve caught type stuff on commutes home etc. it just seems quite practical rather than creepy.

I don't use it with my DH, I will share my location on Google if I want him to know where I am (e.g on way back from London late at night).
He will share his drive sometimes on Waze so I know whether to put the baby to bed or keep them up.

I have my DM, DF and DB on it though!

@LittleBearPad

We’re both on the same Apple household account so can see one another on Find My iPhone. It’s handy for seeing which train we’ve caught type stuff on commutes home etc. it just seems quite practical rather than creepy.

Oddly his new headphones have also added themselves to Find my iPhone so they now show up too - very odd!

No. I would never have thought to do anything like this.

Not for us

No. DH is always horizontal on the settee so I don’t need it for him. Got it for dds though.