Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ enabled for each other?

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I know this isn’t really an AIBU. Discussion with a friend.

Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ (or similar tracking app) installed so you can both see where each other are?

Interested to see views!

YABU: don’t be silly, that’s really intrusive and unnecessary.

YANBU: it’s perfectly normal, especially if you have kids.

I’m somewhere in the middle, depending on circumstances, although we do have ours turned on most of the time.

No, I have similar on the kids phones to use of they're out somewhere new/unsure of (preteens) but not on dh's or mine

Yeah we all have it. It can be useful to see if someone is on their way back. I don't see any issue. None of us go anywhere exciting

Yes, we have shared location on Google. DH is an endurance cyclist, will regularly cycle 100 miles+ solo on a ride. Gives me peace of mind especially if hes out all weekend. If he's still moving he's ok. He's recently got a GPS tracking service specifically for his longer rides, followed it when he did Lands End to John O Groats and back to Lands End. Found the Google shared location was better though.

Yes we all have it.

And it came into its own 5 years ago when I was rushed to hospital by ambulance but it was a different hospital to my local one. My then 13 year old DS had seen the ambulance leave, and he tracked me down to the right hospital. If he hadn’t done God knows how long it would have been before my family knew where I was, as I was in an induced coma and on life support for 3 days.

We do for all of us. Used to worry when DH was riding home from work on his motorbike in central London, much easier to see how far away he was for dinner etc.

We don’t go anywhere secretly or have any reason to check it to be nosy. Now he works from home we are together pretty much all the time anyway.

It’s easy enough to turn off, we deactivated it at the weekend whilst organising a surprise for the kids so they couldn’t see where we really went.

When I’m walking home from work in the dark I prefer to know DH can see where I am.

Yes it’s really useful for meal time planning and travel. Most often it’s used when deciding whether or not to lock up the house if one of us is heading out and the other heading home. That being said we can go weeks between checking it.

I also have my parents on it and we use it to check their progress when they are travelling to us or to check if they are home if we want to call them for a chat.

No, but only because we’ve never bothered setting it up. We have a tracker app for the car which I sometimes look at to see if partner is on his way home so I can get dinner on!

Yes especially for sports. I.e cycling, running etc

People describe it as ‘tracking’ as though you monitor someone’s whereabouts throughout the day. It’s not that for us - I look at it if I need to know where someone is for a specific reason, otherwise I’m not using it.

We have it and I can count on one hand when we have used it. I’d I get drunk out with friends DH will track my progress to make sure I’m on the right train and meet me at the station. I do
Try and text to say where I am but usually it’s gibberish.

@iklboodolphrednosedpaindear

Yes, mainly use it to see when each of us are on our way home so the other can put tea on.

Same here. It’s handy to see how traffic is.

Yabu.

I mean it actually tells you where the phone is, not necessarily that the person is near the phone!

We've got Samsung things on our keys, mainly so that if we lose out keys we can make it beep! It was quite useful on holiday when we were in 2 separate cars going on days out. I wouldn't check it day to day though.

If anyone ever tracked me I'd actually want them arrested.
Maybe Im just not suited to relationships in 2021.

@Missrabbitt you can disable it really easily if you are worried your whereabouts would give the game away. DH used to pick me up in a Friday next to a busy road, I’d track his progress so I could be there at the right time rather than waiting in the rain or him circling not being able to pull in.

We are all on it, I doubt that anyone uses it regularly but it’s not an issue in this household. We have livestock and occasionally used it when someone has not been in touch for a while and been moving animals around.

Ugh, no.

No, never considered it necessary

God no. So big brother. Surely you can always phone or message if you really need to know? I would hate my partner seeing where I was at all times - he would hate it even more than me. Not even convinced the kids will need it when they get phones. My friend's son lost his phone one morning and she was freaking out thinking he wasn't in school when he was in his class right as rain. We're so infomation overloaded.

Yep, we have Life360. Don't think it's creepy at all. We just use it to check if one of us is on the way home to time food etc or if one of us is driving early or late it's good to know they are making progress.

The DC love seeing Daddy's blue circle getting closer if he is on the way home. 99% of the time we know where the other is anyway, we are terribly dull! It isn't about tracking location, just knowing easily how far away the other is and safe if driving far.

We have find my iPhone. Came in handy when my husband dropped my phone at a petrol station 40 min from home 🙄

We do but we rarely us it.

We use find my iPhone when i misplace my phone (or our youngest misplaces it) and it’s on silent, but that’s it.

If DH leaves work late, or goes somewhere on the way home, or if one of us is going to be later than planned from a nightout then we text or call.

I think it’s far too easy a way for people to get into bad habits tracking their partners, and panicking if they’re 5 minutes late.

We don't have anything like this. If dh wants to know where I am he has to ask. Teenage daughter usually texts me if she'll be late home, trust her to tell me where she's going or been.