To be furious he mentioned this in public?!

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If only there were zero bugs going around.Even if I discount me catching covid, I've been more ill in the past 4 months than I have in the last 4 years. I normally never get sick!

4 days off is nothing and the Bradford factor is old fashioned BS.

The OP was upset about the manager asking her publicly. I don't think she was asking whether her number of absences was a problem.

I think the manager telling her he wanted to meet with her about her absences in front of others was rude, unprofessional, and in effect a privacy breach. Her peers do not have a need for that information.

A properly functioning organization would not allow its managers to behave like this.

Honestly, have we all forgotten the golden rule? How would you feel if that happened to you?

Well there would have to be less bugs surely given the circumstances.

I find it’s always the CF ers that like to complain about other peoples professionalism.

@Bigballer

I wonder how you think people should work on their immune systems? Especially as we weren't using them properly for nearly a year, what with the masks, social distancing and handwashing.

Corporate world???

Four days in a year - this past year especially - sounds pretty good to me!

Unprofessional of him not to discuss in private
But surely sick leave is for when you are ill, not your child? Shouldn't thay be unpaid parental leave?
I had covid at the start of the year - not 100% sure if long covid or covid related, but I've had several health issues since that I think may be related - or might be just that post covid my immune system is impaired.

I don't think 4 days is a lot, I haven't had to take sick leave but that's because I work from home, If in the office I would have had to take 2 days of for a stomach bug that meant I was in the loo every hour and could be infectious to others plus I also had a tooth abscess and ended up on very strong pain killers that I had a reaction to.

A colleague who had a non malignant brain tumour takes at least a day off every 6 weeks with headaches when the meds don't work or he is struggling, and another colleague of mine has lupus and has more than 4 days a year she is unable to attend the office.

Your boss was out of order addressing you in front of your colleagues especially as it is private information and will start your co worker's speculating about your health.

[quote Neverfightamanwithaperm]@CristinaYangismySpiritAnimal Different days so Bradford Factor bingo! Two were my illness, two were my son's.[/quote]
Did you take sick for your dc?

My rule of thumb is, and always has been, "Chastise in private, compliment in public." With spouses, children, and those I supervise. It gets better results, all around.

[quote Neverfightamanwithaperm]@CristinaYangismySpiritAnimal Different days so Bradford Factor bingo! Two were my illness, two were my son's.[/quote]
Your son’s illness is not sick days. You can only take sick days if they’re yours.
Your son’s illness should be annual leave, or family leave - so shouldn’t count.

to be fair to the Op in the opening decription she calls it absence and not sick leave to taking time off for her son is still considered an absence

I bet your workmates have been giving their boss a hard time about covering your work when you’re away and their telling you in front of them is a way to get them off heir back

I knew the professionally ‘well’ would appear - the crew that think sickness is some kind of character flaw.

I thank fuck I don’t work with people like you.

And I’ve only had 1 sick day for a migraine.

But I got bronchitis during my week off and had it been a week earlier then I’d have been off for a lot longer.

I also have two children so got different bugs at the start of last week and swapped so I’ve been up to my fucking knees in vomit and snot for a week and working my arse off to meet deadlines.

All you ‘I’ve only ever been sick once’ twits feeling proud of your good luck is pathetic.

TBF I think at least one of the 'professionally well' on this thread are not posting entirely seriously

Couldn't get worked about this.

I've just been on an unrelated thread where a poster stated in the face of all evidence to the contrary that "ordinary people can and do" have access to thousands of pounds.
And then there's this announcement that "there are literally zero bugs around" Why is it beyond the ken of some MN that other people are simultaneously having a different experience of life to their own? So odd

[quote LifeIsBusy]@workshy44 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. My delightful toddler has brought one a new bug every week since the start of october. Multiple sickness bugs, colds, you name it he's had endured it (except covid)...then a few days later my youngest gets to endure it. If I were on maternity leave I honestly do not know how many sick days we would have needed as a family to get through it.

Still haven't tested positive for covid [/quote]
This! My toddler has just brought home another bug this week. We are averaging 1 every fortnight if lucky at the moment. I am lucky I can WFH as tomorrow I can't go in for most of the week as he has a fever and needs a PCR test before he can go back.

Luckily all my meetings tomorrow with colleagues who both had their DC ill last week and the previous week - so they will hopefully understand if they hear him in the background. It is non-stop. My parents are convinced I am not taking care of DS well because of all the bugs. I've had 3 days off sick in the first 5 months of a new job. Honestly if it is a bone of contention for life happening then just fire me - I can't be arsed trying to convince anyone otherwise.