What time do you lie in until?

[Rosebel]

What time do you think is an acceptable lie in time if you have young children? No plans or anything for the day but 11:30 is a bit of a piss take isn't it?
I would say 9 is a lie in, what do others think?

Your partner Is massively out of order that is not acceptable

We both rise 5:30/ 6 for work
He gets a lie in sat
I get lie in Sunday
Wooioooo betide any fucker who messes with my precious lie in !!!!!

delatron I was replying to your most recent post, saying:

"Yes I also don’t understand why going to bed at 9pm is not lazy but having a lie in is lazy.

12-7 is 7 hours sleep
1-8
2-9
9-4
10-5

Why is one of those sleep patterns superior to the other if the amount of sleep is the same?"

You don't mention sharing in that post

We let each other have one lie in each at the weekend as have young dc so up and 5am all the other days, the lie in is until 9am by which point we all want to get on with the day!

@Funkyslippers it was a different point about lie ins not being lazy. Not that both parents should lie in together and ignore young children.

I said clearly that tag teaming is the way to go.

We have a 2yo. Anything past 7 is debauched, that's already two hours of extra sleep compared to usual waking time!

We both get up at 5.30 each day with our 3 year old. I think I would genuinely murder my partner if he just lay in bed… unless the other party is sick it’s a team effort here.

Why though ?
Are neither of you capable of looking after your own child in your own home on your own ?
It makes a LOT more sense for one person to catch up on their sleep at one point and the other at a different time (whether that is an afternoon nap or a lie in on a different day). Then everyone is rested enough to cope with the week ahead.

If my child woke up at 5.30am when they were young they would be promptly put back to bed until 7. By continually getting up at 5.30 you reinforce the body clock to do that. Unless you love getting up at that time then that’s all good.

Absolutely this.
Yes, of course mine woke at 5am or 5.30 sometimes, and we treated it the same as if they woke at 2am or 3am. It is the night time, and you are going back to sleep.

Now, as a pp said, they are putting their child to bed at 5.30, and are quite happy with that pattern as a couple, then all well and good until they get to school age and want to go to activities but many. many parents aren't even home from work / picking up dc from childcare at 5.30pm so that wouldn't be practical for most.

If my child woke up at 5.30am when they were young they would be promptly put back to bed until 7. By continually getting up at 5.30 you reinforce the body clock to do that. Unless you love getting up at that time then that’s all good.

I do this, but I'm still awake. The kids don't go back to sleep but read or play in their bed but if they're awake then so am I. I don't really get any benefit out of not getting up, I don't get to sleep longer. And I've been doing it 5 years!

I think it’s exposure to light and getting up and doing things that set the body clock. I know it’s very hard to keep children from putting lights on and it may just be their body clock.

We did treat any waking before 7 as the same as the middle of the night. So if you don’t put the light in and read at 2am then you don’t at 5.30. Appreciate that’s a massive battle though and tricky in summer.

My kids are older and at secondary school but I'm up 6.30 with them and puppy and late to bed so I sometimes get back into bed with a coffee to catch up on the news after the school run and before the puppy's walk :-)

With kids I’d expect us to be up before 10:15.

I usually would lie in til around 9:30, OH around 10

@Kite22 we happen to enjoy one another’s company and find strength in one another. You do you babe.

I have never had a lie in. Once I’m awake I have to get up.

8pm is good for me, although only possible now DC are older and play loads of sport.

I can't lie in. I can't sleep past 7a.m. and I get bored just lying there. It's not a moral highground thing- I'd happily lie in if I could go back to sleep! I tend to get up when everyone else is still in bed and go and knit or crochet for an hour or so - love that time before everyone else gets up!

Lie is?! Id be happy to sleep after 5am.

Peri…. The joys.

@Funkyslippers

delatron because if you have young kids you should really be getting up with them or at least take turns

Don't be ridiculous, leave them to fend for themselves. Get their own cereal, chuck in a box of matches, what the hell. Let them torch your property whilst you have a lie in🤷😂

@Rno3gfr

8am is not a lie in! Everyone championing the “lazy lie ins” and “waste of a day” jargon clearly have very nice circadian rhythms tailored to the morning.

Most nights I don’t sleep until 1:30am, on a bad night it’s 3:30am. I have tried for years, the best I’ve managed is 12:30 while being really strict with my bedtime routine. I still have to get up for work in the morning. I am exhausted by the weekends!

@Rno3gfr do you have delayed sleep phase disorder, by any chance? I've had it all my life and it makes weekdays hell. I dread to think how I'd have coped with kids. lol

Got to say, though - having grown up with a mum who also has DSPD (it's hereditary) the only person who was ever up at 5 a.m. when I was little was my lark of a dad.

I get up at 2 in the morning if I'm working so 9 is quite a long lie in. So I suppose it's all relative.