What time do you lie in until?

[Rosebel]

What time do you think is an acceptable lie in time if you have young children? No plans or anything for the day but 11:30 is a bit of a piss take isn't it?
I would say 9 is a lie in, what do others think?

If he claims not to hear them.or says "ill go in a minute just go a pick 18mo up and bring him to your dh. Then keep loungingvelsewhere (spare room? Couch?)
Or... let 18mo cry for a bit longer
Or.. kick dh out of bed

Or id send my teenagers in the room with dad and tell them to just boher the shit out of him haha

LoveFall the older I get the more I love early mornings. Now nearly 60 and no young children anymore, but early mornings are a divine time for me.
It feels stolen, secret, no one else is up and around. I fill a couple of hours with self care.
A sunrise yoga at home or a studio very close,- yoga is a daily practice for me- meditation, a good facial, I light a candle, drink good coffee, , have a spa shower, a foot massage, listen to uplifting music as I potter around.
Morning is the time to energise and care for myself.
Best time of the day!

We trained our dc to a) not get up until 8a.m. on a weekend or holiday and, if they woke earlier, to read it play quietly in their room until then (they were never the type of children I read about on here that wake at 4 or 5 a.m. though); and b) from about aged about 5/6 onwards, to get up and sort their own breakfasts out and then watch kids' TV or read, play etc until we get up. Dh and I used to take turns to get up at 8.30 or 9 ish.

Dh now gets up at that time or earlier every weekend day and holiday, allowing me to sleep until almost lunch because he's the lark and I'm the owl. He also needs less sleep than me. We do roughly equal housework and childcare but at different times of the day because we work to our strengths.

@30whatacrock

Anything after 8am would be a piss take if you have kids. To stay in bed until half 11 is very lazy. The day is half over by then.

Judgemental much??

Lie ins are really rare here, but 9 or 10 is the latest. I wouldn't do it any later as we usually have stuff planned and I'm not really a lie in person. I don't tend to go to sleep until midnight or 1am and then wake up at 6.30 with the odd interruptions in the night from the kids.

Ha ha ha ha .....Lie in !

When our children were young we had a morning each where we could do what we want! Would lie in until 11am whereas husband would go out for a run on his morning…each to their own.
Having said that my lot were never up until 730-8 am and would play in their room or toys in cot . Genuinely would go loopy loo if I had been up 5 am in the morning. Occasionally one would come into our bed if that was ever the case.

@30whatacrock

Anything after 8am would be a piss take if you have kids. To stay in bed until half 11 is very lazy. The day is half over by then.

Why is it lazy to get up at 11 but not lazy to go to bed at 9.30pm? I go to bed at about 1AM, and I like to sleep until later in the morning. I never understand the vilification of morning sleep.

Lie in? What’s that? We both get up at 5.30 each day with our 3 year old. I think I would genuinely murder my partner if he just lay in bed… unless the other party is sick it’s a team effort here.

@LittleLottieChaos

Lie in? What’s that? We both get up at 5.30 each day with our 3 year old. I think I would genuinely murder my partner if he just lay in bed… unless the other party is sick it’s a team effort here.

Do you really both need to be up?

We always found it better if one of us were well rested.

Kids get up at 7.30 (3 and 4 year olds), a lie in is usually till 9 in this house.

I'm with a previous poster who would be annoyed if dh got up early with me. It doesnt take two to watch the kids on a weekend morning so if he wasnt going to sleep in/take some time for himself then I would have!

@LittleLottieChaos

Lie in? What’s that? We both get up at 5.30 each day with our 3 year old. I think I would genuinely murder my partner if he just lay in bed… unless the other party is sick it’s a team effort here.

Same here. Neither of us lie in, so we both help each other to raise the DC. I couldn't do it on my own. They are full on!

I would not be impressed if DH had a long lie whilst I struggled on myself with two kids with additional needs. And I am sure he would feel the same.

Tag teaming is a brilliant way to get more sleep. People should try it rather than be martyrs. Oh we both have to get up at 5.30am. No you don’t. You could take it in turns to lie in until say 7 at least.

People love the competitive early morning suffering. If my child woke up at 5.30am when they were young they would be promptly put back to bed until 7. By continually getting up at 5.30 you reinforce the body clock to do that. Unless you love getting up at that time then that’s all good.

Yes I also don’t understand why going to bed at 9pm is not lazy but having a lie in is lazy.

12-7 is 7 hours sleep
1-8
2-9
9-4
10-5

Why is one of those sleep patterns superior to the other if the amount of sleep is the same?

At least until 10! I'm v lucky as DH doesn't do lie-one so I get them all I might have reached 11.30 once or twice ... after that he releases DD into the wild to come jump on me.

I like to lie in till about 8.30/9 but anything after 7.45 on a weekend, assuming I've slept ok, is fine. I like an hour before the kids get up to myself so watch rubbish TV and do very little else.

delatron because if you have young kids you should really be getting up with them or at least take turns

Depends how tough the week has been. We each have a lie in at the weekend. I’m sometimes up at 8:30/9 occasionally sleep till 11.

DH is less into a ‘long lie’ so is mostly up by 9:30 on his days, his choice

Up by 9:30 am and showered and dressed and taking part in things by 10 am.

@Delatron my son goes to sleep at 5.30pm- I prefer having the evening hours with my partner (and am 39 weeks pregnant so like to be in bed by 9). We both get enough sleep thanks. What works for you won’t work for everyone either. I like to be with my partner and we each take in turns to entertain and each have a nice bath break.

Our kids don’t get up till 7:30 at earliest though

Well yes @LittleLottieChaos you’ve clearly chosen that sleep pattern then. A child in bed at 5.30 will wake at 5.30. As long as that works for you great. Many people wouldn’t want to be in bed by 9 and couldn’t get to sleep then anyway.

I think it’s the insinuation (not from you) that getting up any time after 7 is lazy.

@ThePants999

If there are no plans and prior agreement, and both parents get this opportunity equally, any time is fine.

This, basically.

@Funkyslippers I said to take it in turns. Not sure what your point is? I didn’t suggest both parents lying in until 11 whilst young children fend for themselves.

I disagree that both parents need to be up at 5.30 unless they want to.