@ChargingBuck
I am so pleased that you found my thoughts useful
:)
A few further thoughts you might find helpful relate to the psychoanalyst Melanie Klein's theories about Oedipal conflicts and the "primal scene" (the primal scene is the real and / or imagined internal concept of the parental couple engaged in amorous union).
Many children accidentally walk in on their parents lovemaking or overhear them, and have complicated feelings as a result. It is not unusual for children to believe that the parents are engaged in a violent union. This may be due in part to the sounds associated with sex, which can easily be misunderstood as sounds of violence.
Klein posited that primitive Oedipal feelings arise very early on in life (in infancy) and relate to feeling excluded from an excited, frenzied union.
Some infants project their own primitive anxieties, greed and feelings of aggression onto the primal scene, resulting in a terrifying imagining that Klein called the "combined parental object".
The combined parental object, in the infant's primitive consciousness, contains all the infant's aggressive, sadistic drives. It is a terrifying biting, sucking, pissing and shitting monster that the infant experiences as persecutory.
It is likely the inspiration for the child eating witch in Hansel and Gretel and in many scary fairy stories.
Of course, as adults, these scary, pre-verbal imaginings are pushed deep into the unconscious and become forgotten, however they can emerge as seemingly irrational outburts when people feel excluded from the intimate exchanges of others, as happens when people become irrationally outraged by others talking in a foreign language.
As with the infant's experience of the primal scene and the combined parental object, the resulting persecutory anxieties are likely coloured by the infantile projections of his or her own rage at feeling excluded and are often cruel, sadistsic and excluding in nature.
Of course infants do not understand adult sexual activity and their projections contain primitive bodily features relating to sucking, biting, pissing and shitting.
It seems to me the area today in which such primitive anxieties most obvously manifest are in the deluded rantings of the incel movement, where the hatred of "Chads" and "Staceys" mirrors the hatred of the parents in the primal scene.
People often talk about the misogynist elements of the incel movement and I would not argue that there is misogyny to be found. However it seems to me that the main driving force behind the spree killers in the incel movement is not so much misogyny as conflicts related to feelings of exlclusion and hatred relating to a primitive imagining (Klein called in a "phantasy") of the combined parental object.
Apologies for the derail