To expect my Husband not to swear in front of our daughter?

[mummyloveslucy]

My Husband thinks the world of our daughter but often looses his temper and swears in front of her even calling her a fucking little bitch for not having an afternoon nap just because he wanted to have a nap himself. He always feels bad about it afterwards but that dosn't stop him from doing it again. When I talk to him about it he Just says he promises not to do it again. I'm so anoyed with him as I would be devistated if Lucy ever swore and so would he. How can I make him stop it and control his temper?

JJ - if someone is posting about genuine concerns and problems their spelling and grammar are irrelevant. It would be a real shame if they were afraid to post for fear of being teased.

thats awful id kick his arse!

at least there is a brightside to this thread mummyloveslucy- you may be a bad speller (not that i have noticed btw) but at least you are not a rude git!!!!

i really hope things do get better for you, hopefully now you have pointed out to him how unacceptable he is being he will start to change.

I agree that it was a really clever idea to use the photo to show him to make him think about how tiny and vulnerable she really is.

I think he really needs to prove himself and follow through on his promise this time. It really is exceptionally awful to talk that way to your 2 year old and he should never, ever do it again. If this was me I'd have a strategy in mind to use to really show how unacceptable it is; I think you need to make a plan so that you don't just feel lost or powerless at the time as that just makes it more likely the behaviour will be consequences free for him. To be honest if it were me and he did this again, ever, I'd pack a suitcase and get straight off to mum's or a friend's and tell him to call when he's grown up.

i don't advocate leaving for good, but i think he needs a clear message in the strongest possible terms that there are things you just won't accept for your precious daughter.

good luck and well done again I think you deal with things really well today.

Wheres JJ?... Off to the bereavement thread to give a spelling and grammar lesson??! FGS!!!!

The op was a very sad one, and one that needs real concern, i have to admit, me and my dp do swear infront of ds, but he knows which are the grown up words, and which not to say. If I ever swore AT my ds, my dp would go mad, and its the same the other way round. I would NEVER tolerate such abuse and wouldnt expect anybody to, especially a defenseless 2 year old.

Wow that is a really clever idea getting him to repeat what he said to her, tothe photo. I would never have thought of that. Way to go MLL you have got through to him big time if he wanted to wake her up and apologise. Good on him too - a bit- if this is the last time he ever does it to either of you. It takes more work to stop an ingrained course of action than to carry it on and he will feel so much better in himself to stop it NOW xx

excellent strategy re the photo, i think that's an amazing idea.

Fantastic idea about the photo well done.

JJ you are a prick

Very worrying for the little girl's mental wellbeing - abuse like that from someone she loves could set her up for all sorts of potential problems.

I was once in a shop with my kids and saw a family with very small child who was crying. The dad opened up on her calling her a "cow". The mum didn't seem bothered by this outburst at all. I wanted to take them both aside and knock some sense into them.