‘I’m not a Christmas person’

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I keep hearing this a lot recently.

If you’re not a Christmas person, why?

Completely understand that it’s difficult for some people at this time of year with loved ones having passed etc. But if it’s not something understandable like that, why don’t you like Christmas?

I love it more now I have a Dd, but even before that I loved the lights, tree, presents, food, going out etc-what’s not to love?! 🤷🏻‍♀️

The true meaning of Christmas for me is a Winter feast of light and celebration…nothing too commercial or religious.
Love love love a bit of sparkle.

@Snoozer11

I think it's a time for kids. I loved Christmas but the last one that really felt special was when I was 11 in my final year of primary school. After that we were in a new house and it just didn't feel the same.

What I genuinely cannot abide are all the martyrs that come out at this time of year. There are many of them on this thread.

What do you mean, Martyrs? Genuine question.

Relentless reminder of bad memories, Christmas is forever ruined. I work hard to make sure my children enjoy it but it is always a massive downer for me.

I’m glad you don’t have these OP but not everyone had a lovely happy family Christmas when they were growing up, yeah?

I love Christmas, but come on - it's not exactly difficult to see why some people don't! The rampant consumerism, the fact that it seems to start in mid-October, the expense, the social media fuss etc.

The fact that lots of people are not Christian or religious beliefs don’t include xmas
Jesus wasn’t actually born on Dec 25
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People forget not everyone has to do it
I never have mots so liberating

@ilovesooty

Overblown pointless consumerism.

It goes on and on and on for weeks too.

In a nutshell.

Have just seen an ad on Twitter which sums up for me all I hate about Christmas and the commercialism and tat.

That fecking Coca Cola "holidays are coming" shite. A few years ago, our town ground to a halt because a fucking red truck was parked in the supermarket carpark and people were taking their kids to see it as a christmas experience.

That add never changes it’s boring now has been for years Christmas is cancelled as far as I’m concerned the tree will go up, but husband is breaking me with his new obsession vapes and pods spending. I’ve had it up to here in-laws will get their presents and that’s it. I simply don’t care anymore and can’t be bothered I was going to try and do an Iceland shop forget that.

I think everyone is confusing not liking Christmas to not liking planned fun?

It hasn't been Christmas for a long time in my opinion. It's been about competition and spending spending spending.
It has lost all its meaning

My friend bless her me a dancing Santa to cheer me up I love it, she’s noticed I’ve been down for a few weeks lovely gesture.

One of my best friends died on Christmas Eve when I was 18. Kinda ruins it.

I love Christmas but I went through a few years of hating it in early adulthood. My parents were newly divorced and every year my siblings and I had to run the gauntlet of deciding where to spend Christmas while trying not to upset parents, step-siblings and other relatives. Someone would inevitably end up upset on the day or there would be some big family row about something or other. I felt like Christmas was just one great big reminder that I didn’t have a happy family unit any more and I really resented it.

I have grown to love it again now but I think Christmas can have a way of bringing stuff to the surface and highlighting what’s missing in your life at a time when everything around you is telling you you’re supposed to be super happy and and surrounded by joy. And that can be really difficult.

Everything Vallmo47 said.

BTW! I am not a Christmas person

Wow I thought I'd be in the minority, but I have to say most of you have put how I feel about this time of year much better than I would have (I struggle to express myself about it without swearing).

But it makes me wonder, why is all the 'buy buy buy' etc etc so bloody successful? It would soon die down if we all (and I mean mainly women) refused to get sucked in. I really don't get it. Everybody moans about it; but most also say they love it. Despite all the pressure/debt/heartache/rows/waste. Makes me ask the aliens to please come and get me.

Just in case you missed it, I'm not a Christmas person...

@Dnaltocs

Christ Mass is the name. We all know the meaning.

I have some lovely baubles for my Solstice tree that stays “Pagans are the reason for the season” as indeed they are.

Theologians may disagree about the date of your Christ’s birth but they all agree it wasn’t the 25th of December. The Solstice marks the beginning return of the sun to the Northern hemisphere and is a real reason to celebrate.

I don't like it because it's hard to opt out.

Got turkey crown and a beautiful box of fruit and nuts chocolate expensive but the money h has wasted over the years I thought sod it and my non alcoholic ginger wine so thrilled with that.

Ever since my children turned about 6 (the age when they notice what you buy) it’s produced in me a visceral internalised sense of sadness at how unhappy my mother was. I don’t get this at any other time of the year.

Christmas is cancelled cries cries everything has gone wrong.

I love it because it saves my sanity. I love the way Xmas trees and lights break up the depressing long dark. It's the one time of year I can put troubles behind me and get caught up in something else.I think Xmas is a mind set.

I lost a baby that was due on Christmas Day. It has never been the same for me since then, also my DC is autistic so we do it differently, in a low key way that works for our family. I’m happy for others to go mad though, I’m not a Scrooge.

It starts in bloody September.
I do not feel the need to buy anyone apart from my immediate family presents but feel guilty because friends will get me something. However, I am a single parent there are generally more of them and in one case a family of 6!! I do not want presents, I am an adult in a job. I do not want to receive something from someone that the ends up costing me an absolute fortune because there are more of them to buy for.

I hate it, it makes me stressed and I tell people to not buy for me or my son. So I either feel shit because I've bought them something cheap and crap or feel shit because I didn't buy them anything
It's commercialised bullshit.
The never ending Christmas songs that I've heard for the last 49 years of my life, god they are so annoying.
Having to feel jovial because you've got some christmas do with an over priced meal and expensive drinks.

Love this!!!

No consumerfest in my house.

Solstice tree it is. What do you hang on it @Elphame?