AIBU Husband's No Name For Me

[bringmeanother]

Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed with my DH. He never uses my name and doesn't have a diminutive or lovey dovey name for me. He refers to me by "you". To his work colleagues by phone I'm " the wife". Married over 20 years.

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My wife - whose name temporarily escapes me - says that I only call her ’sweetheart’ when I’m exasperated with her.

On the other hand, when she calls me ‘fuckwit’ it’s apparently a term of endearment. And the slammed door is a complementary expression of that depthless affection,

It's also a thing in Hinduism that when you are married, it will be for 7 lifetimes. So husband and wife won't use their earthly names because that is just the name for this lifetime. My friend's grandparents were together for 60 years and never addressed each other by name.