To ask, what's the best piece of advice you've ever received?

[Stripey3000]

I'll start. Mine was in the form of a post on the Postsecret website years ago, where people make postcards, sharing secrets anonymously. This one jumped out at me as it simply said 'You get what you settle for.' For me at the time, those were the exact words I needed to hear. I was heading towardsthe end of a failing marriage (aged 30) and thinking about whether to stay with him or not. In that moment I chose not to settle for what had become an unhappy situation for the rest of my life. 10 years on and I still remember that as a pivotal moment, seeing the sentiment I needed to help me make my decision. I have no regrets 😊
So what advice have you received that stuck with you?

Oh and my grandad to me at 15 regarding my first boyfriend

He's only interested in what's between your #%@&ing legs!!

"In the end all we want is more time"

I didn't realise how true this want until my baby left my side became a star in the sky.

I read it on here not long ago - When you walk into a place of new people (say a new job, new home, new gym class whatever) instead of wondering if they will like you, wonder if you will like them.

Never burn your bridges

Pick your battles ( especially with teens)

Don’t argue over every fashion choice ,party or late night the. When you put your foot down ( in my case over those ear stretching things) they know you mean business!! And thank you for it in the end

three bits of advice id like to pass on.

The first was from a good friend (and occasional fwb) told me there were two kind of "womaniser", there are some men who just love women, would sooner be with them than any man. And then there was the one who hates all women. And to be sure which kind you were associating with.

The second bit of advice was from an interview with a CEO of a company, and it was about that negative voice some get in their head sometimes. He said that when he got that negative voice, he treated it like a member of his team who had come to him with bad advice. He told both of them to go away and come back with something more constructive.

Third but was from my Dad. "What will it matter in five years time?". Most things won't matter in five days, let alone five years. But when you come across one of those things that will matter in five years, you sure as hell need to do something about it.

My mum said to me recently 'don't put your dick in crazy', made me laugh.

Remembered reading 'if you aren't yourself, your no one,' a quote from Sean McGuire in Smash Hits, when I was a teenager, still resonates with me now.

If, as the driver, you’re sitting in the middle of the road, then you’re driving on the correct side.

Absolute gem of a piece of advice for someone who drives regularly on both sides of the Atlantic. Changed everything.

This took me a while to figure out what you meant! But yes, it’s good advice

Never argue with an idiot. You won't win and will only be brought down to their level

Never bad mouth ANYONE. Even if you think they're a peace of shit, keep those thoughts to yourself

You can't change the hand you're dealt, only the way you play it.

Worry about it when you get to it.

Don't let worry about tomorrow steal the joy from today.

My absolute favourite teacher at school said to me "Always make friends on your way up, you'll need them on the way down"
Same school in my leavers book my music teacher wrote in musical notation. Never B flat. Sometimes B sharp. Always B Natural..♥

Pick your battles!
This helped me so much in work, is it business critical? Does it personally affect me? If not don't get worked up about it!

Most people are nice most of the time.
Honestly I think most people are good people, who occasionally make bad choices. I find some people see the bad in everyone and always think the worst and it must be exhausting.

Look at what people do, not what they say (ie. Just f*cking do it/go for it!)

Respect is just the minimum (yes this is a lyric lol)

When people show you who they are, believe them

You have a duty to happiness

Life is about the adventure, make sure to go on them

Love. Lots.

@RuggerHug

Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.

I can't remember where or when I first heard this but it really stuck in my mind

If, as the driver, you’re sitting in the middle of the road, then you’re driving on the correct side.

I genuinely cannot get this

Don’t take criticism from someone who doesn’t walk in the arena

Only buy black socks.

''No, is a complete sentence''.. can't remember where I read it but it has stayed with me to this day. And also learning about boundaries and how to out them in place. It's so liberating, I no longer allow myself to be bamboozled into doing anything I don't want to do, and just say no, smile and walk away. Amazing.

Least said soonest mended. It's got me out of many a tricky spot

There's nowhere lonelier than a bad relationship.

My Dads was just enjoy yourself whenever you can

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

• Dr. Maya Angelou

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one and most of the time shit comes out.
Taught me not to worry too much about what others think.

Being kind is better than being a cunt and if people take advantage of your kindness, it says more about them than you
My DH, after someone had royally shafted him and I asked him why he could forgive them. It really made me think.

Is it today’s problem?

Works on exam stress, job worries, all sorts. If it is today’s problem, there’s something you should be doing about it. If it’s something you’re worrying about late at night and there’s nothing you can do about, the it’s not today’s problem. You may need to do something tomorrow. But not right now.