To be really upset because Dp accidentally put mayonnaise in my hair

[naggynora]

Dressed for the day, make-up on, just made lunch for us all. Kids still eating and dp brings his plate up. We have a little banter and he proceeds to hold his plate above my head with a globule of Mayo still present.

He's joking obviously and I smile but then tell him to stop and move away.

He doesn't and proceeds to follow me with said plate above head. Then Lo and behold the Mayo drops onto my hair and dp is absolutely shocked.

I get upset as it now means I have to wash hair redo makeup etc... and I also have to do the other bits I had planned for the day. I realise it wasn't intentional and that he genuinely was thought it was funny but I can't help but think he's a complete idiot who should have known what would happen. I also don't think it's the least bit funny regardless of whether the Mayo had dropped or not.

So ianbu to feel upset, annoyed and to wish to stay clear of him for the rest of the day?

Or

Iambu and should get over it. It was a joke that went wrong, no harm done and Walking around smelling of hellmans is not the end of the world?

YANBU, I would also have had to wash my hair as just wiping it would have stunk. And that would mean makeup too

@CrocodilesCry

That's kind of the point though. Whether someone's taken 5 mins or 5 hours to get ready is irrelevant. If someone else's actions lead to your day being harder/worse/inconvenient etc... and dressed up as a joke, there seems to be an expectation that if you do t laugh it off, you're the one with the problem. I was just curious as to whether others would feel disproportionately annoyed and as a result, whether I'm missing the humour gene!

This would give me the rage - my DP is childish and sometimes goes too far.
He always apologises though - and tries to make it up to me.
Also this is the worst of his flaws so.....

@OakPine

I have a 13 year old and would like to think they're past this stage

I wouldn’t find that remotely funny. What is it with childish partners today?

Also if my DP did this to me he would pay - either with money (e.g. if we had planned to take public transport he'd pay for an uber so we could be on scheduke with me redoing my hair). Or by doing something else that made up for my waste of effort.

@TractorAndHeadphones
Maybe that's a factor as well Tractor. One persons idea of a joke involving the misfortune of another...doesn't land very well

@SameToo

If anyone held a plate upturned over my head I’d be furious. It’s beyond childish and not remotely funny.

Your partner sounds like a twat OP.

I have very fine, tricky hair, I would have gone ballistic.

I’m surprised by the amount of posters who would happily carry on with the rest of their day with sticky hair smelling of mayo

Daft and annoying but a full hair wash and reapplication of makeup is overkill. I’d have wiped it off with a wet cloth and put my hair up in a bun. It’s a bit of mayonnaise, not shit.

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

OMG drama llama much?

Why? Why is OP not allowed to be annoyed about something that caused her inconvenience and upset her? It wasn't even funny. Her partner acted like a childish tit and when the inevitable happened (that he was too thick to foresee), she's supposed to just laugh it off?

I suspect there's something deeper here, in that OP is tired of him being so bloody thick.

Thanks for comparison to 20p coin op. I was just posting with a request for coin size and was actually taking a moment to remember what coins we have ! Just a seconds hesitation but that’s what using almost no coins at all for 20 months has done.
Loved this thread

@Rosesareyellow

I’m surprised by the amount of posters who would happily carry on with the rest of their day with sticky hair smelling of mayo

You realise you can get mayo (and other things) completely out of hair without having to wash your entire head right? If not, you're adulting wrong.

I’d have wiped it off with a wet cloth and put my hair up in a bun.

But the point is that after making an effort with her hair that morning that is really irritating for the OP. If she wanted to just stick her hair up in an everyday bun she would have done so. There’s a significant difference between having hair done in the nice way you wanted it for that day and a greasy mayo bun.

@HeronLanyon
I sympathise Heron. Helping dd with maths had me scratching head remembering what coins are out there

@BadwordMcGee I think it’s more likely you’re adulting wrong if you’re regularly having to clean mayo and other things out of your hair

Doesn't do this all the time thankfully but maybe there is a deeper reflection here, god knows. Maybe it's one time too many. To those confirming if dp's prattiness- I agree wholeheartedly. However, respect that there are many others here that would just shake it off and carry on with their day.

[quote Rosesareyellow]@BadwordMcGee I think it’s more likely you’re adulting wrong if you’re regularly having to clean mayo and other things out of your hair [/quote]
I work in a hospital. It's par for the course with dementia patients.

I clearly am adulting wrong. But, I am now a little more prepared for the ketchup stage - a quick wipe, a smile and a shower whilst maintaining not so carefully applied make-up is now my aim

@Rosesareyellow

I’d have wiped it off with a wet cloth and put my hair up in a bun.

But the point is that after making an effort with her hair that morning that is really irritating for the OP. If she wanted to just stick her hair up in an everyday bun she would have done so. There’s a significant difference between having hair done in the nice way you wanted it for that day and a greasy mayo bun.

Yes"

Furthermore - it doesn't matter whether he thinks her doing her makeup is silly, or whether she could have washed it out easily. It's that his joke went wrong and he thinks she should just suck it up.

It's not the end of the world/ LTB standard ;) But for him to be shocked at something that was an obvious consequence and not attempt to make amends is immature.

Agreed. And actually, venting has been surprisingly helpful. Thank you, even to those that think I have drama 'issues'. Has snapped me right out of potential moodiness whilst rocking my mayo barnet.

@Rosesareyellow

I’d have wiped it off with a wet cloth and put my hair up in a bun.

But the point is that after making an effort with her hair that morning that is really irritating for the OP. If she wanted to just stick her hair up in an everyday bun she would have done so. There’s a significant difference between having hair done in the nice way you wanted it for that day and a greasy mayo bun.

I’m not suggesting it’s not really irritating. I’d have been annoyed too. But it wasn’t completely necessary to do a full hair wash etc as a result - she didn’t have to, it was a choice.

@BadwordMcGee

So in order to ‘adult’ correctly we should all have experience with this? Surely you can see that not is every adult’s remit?