To be really upset because Dp accidentally put mayonnaise in my hair

[naggynora]

Dressed for the day, make-up on, just made lunch for us all. Kids still eating and dp brings his plate up. We have a little banter and he proceeds to hold his plate above my head with a globule of Mayo still present.

He's joking obviously and I smile but then tell him to stop and move away.

He doesn't and proceeds to follow me with said plate above head. Then Lo and behold the Mayo drops onto my hair and dp is absolutely shocked.

I get upset as it now means I have to wash hair redo makeup etc... and I also have to do the other bits I had planned for the day. I realise it wasn't intentional and that he genuinely was thought it was funny but I can't help but think he's a complete idiot who should have known what would happen. I also don't think it's the least bit funny regardless of whether the Mayo had dropped or not.

So ianbu to feel upset, annoyed and to wish to stay clear of him for the rest of the day?

Or

Iambu and should get over it. It was a joke that went wrong, no harm done and Walking around smelling of hellmans is not the end of the world?

@rainbowmash

Amazed that people think oily, protein-y mayo will respond to "a quick wipe". Even more amazed about the permissive "boys will be boys, lol, you're overreacting" attitude to this horrid behaviour.

Sounds like another MN "I'm so low maintenance!" virtue signal parade to me.

I agree with this.

@BudrosBudrosGalli

He should pay for you to get your hair washed at a salon and for a make-up artist as a way of a proper apology. Maybe then he will think twice before doing stupid 'jokes'...

😂

Are people for real here?

It was an accident, you had to re-wash your hair. Inconvenient, yeah, but move on with your day. Its really not a big deal.

If he'd done it for a second and taken the plate away when I said stop, that's annoying but a silly accident. Following you around, nah that would have me seriously pissed me off, and I would be having words. Unflattering words hissed through clenched teeth.

Why do you have to redo your make up?!?

I don't think she's over reacting for being annoyed, I do think she's over reacting for redoing hair and make up once dressed and ready post lunch. There's loads of ways to get a little drop of Mayo out your hair without doing that

Does he have form for being a twat?
Who holds a plate above someone's head as a joke anyway?? As pp said upthread, totally predictable outcome and he pretended to be shocked.
Unless you were going to an important do, I don't see why you had to wash your hair but maybe that was you making a point.

Yeah I’d have just wiped off the mayo and washed my hair tonight or tomorrow instead. Annoying but you’re making a big fuss.

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Aquamarine1029

I have zero tolerance for immature shit like this. It's very unattractive.

Me too.
And me.

Given that you asked him to stop and he didn't he crossed a line imo and it was no accident. I'd be having a very serious conversation about boundaries and the fact he ignored your wishes on front of your dc is a massive red flag.

Unless OP looked like this after the mayo incident she was definitely making too much of it.

Life's too short to flounce about re-washing hair and re-doing makeup after (quite funny) minor accident like this.

@BudrosBudrosGalli

He should pay for you to get your hair washed at a salon and for a make-up artist as a way of a proper apology. Maybe then he will think twice before doing stupid 'jokes'...

This cannot be serious 🤯 Op YABU and overreacting. You said yourself he’s shocked and clearly want intentional. I wouldn’t hold a grudge all day! Some of the responses on here are incredible 😂 so glad I’m not in a joyless boring relationship where nobody can ever have a joke!

When i opened the thread i thought i was going to say yabu as it was an accident. I assumed he accidentally got some on you when doing something like clearing the table. But this wasn't an accident. He was intentionally trying to wind you up.

He's joking obviously and I smile but then tell him to stop and move away. He doesn't and proceeds to follow me with said plate above head.

He carried on after you said stop. That’s not acceptable. That stopped being a joke when you asked him to stop and he didnt. Id be really pissed off too.

How's that a joke? What's the funny bit?

He shouldn't have done it and he sounds extremely childish and immature, but your reaction is a bit OTT. How much mayonnaise was it that meant you couldn't just wipe it off?!

@vajingleberry

How can you just wipe it off?

OP described it as a globule. That is a small drop.

Get cloth, wipe globule off, done.

It's not like he squirted an entire bottle of Hellmans over her.

It must have been a fair size blob to drop off. A small drop would stick to the plate. A teaspoonful would probably have enough mass to fall, as long as it wasn't spread out on the plate but literally in a blob.

He followed you around, holding a plate upside down over your head, and was shocked when something from the plate fell on you? He either doesn't understand what gravity is, or he meant for it to land on your head as a prank (because he is a idiot). I'd be annoyed too.

He sounds like a prat but the mayo aspect wouldn't be a big deal for me, and this wouldn't ruin my day.

@PieMistee

I think you both would irritate me if I was with you. Him for being an annoying childish prick and you for being a melodramatic drama llama.

^^This honestly.

Well, now we know why men think that low level bullying and inconveniencing women for their own amusement is OK.

I would be annoyed yes - at his sheer stupidity. From what you said it was obvious that the mayo would drip eventually. He sounds like a little kid getting carried away and not able to think ahead and then shocked when the inevitable happens. I usually just stick my hair up quickly on busy weekdays and like you make an effort at the weekends, which takes more time and it feels good for it to look good. I’d be pretty miffed.

I agree OP, I would have had to wash my hair again. I wouldn't have done make up again, but no change I'm walking g about with a big greasy stinking mayon patch on mu hair all day.

Mayo is actually a very good conditioner [/JustSeventeenbeautytips]

It sounds mildly irritating at worst. I’d probably have laughed.

Thank you you wonderful lot, you have cheered me right up! For those asking whether it was internet worthy- probably not but not unlike many posts I come across daily on mn so shall take that with a pinch of salt.

I did in fact leave globule in hair, wiped and brushed in of course with tell-take greasy patch as some posters predicted.

Loved the twin set and pearls 50s housewife image. To explain the make-up thing, I wasn't actually going anywhere particularly glam. But if shopping and out with the kids. I can happily do both without make-up but as some posters commented, that's not really the point. I don't wear make up or do my hair through the week (work from home mainly) so I choose to start the weekend by a blow dry and a bit of make-up. Nothing catwalk but I get sick of seeing my Zoom face so it's a little different. Mayo's gate just got me thinking- what's the bloody point, just wasted an hour for nothing.

I take on board the drama comments and appreciate those who who could also relate a little.

I still have Mayo on my head, but hey ho!

Just to be clear, holding the plate over your head with the threat of mayonnaise falling on you isn’t funny. The funny thing is that the mayonnaise actually did fall on you.

He sounds like a little kid getting carried away
No he is a man who doesn't listen to ‘no’.

Why is it melodramatic and OTT when women insist no means no and men ignore that?

It saddens me how often i read from women on mumsnet telling other women that behaviour of men which is designed to inconvenience, embarrass or make women uncomfortable should be ignored because I assume their own husbands are so shit they make this shit look reasonable.

As much an over reaction as posting it on here!

If you consider it an over-reaction to post on Mumsnet I'm surprised you lowered your standards enough to make an account...