Dinner Lady told my class I was pregnant

[RosieLemonade]

I am 22 weeks pregnant. I hadn't told my class as I'm quite anxious about things going wrong and also I'm planning to work a good few weeks yet. I share my class with another teacher and she is taking over my days so it isn't a huge change for them. Obviously I have a bump so some have probably noticed but I do try and wear lose clothing.
Today loads of them came to me after lunch and told me they knew I was having a baby boy next year! Then later some of the older children I have taught came and said the same thing. They told me the dinner lady had been telling people. I hadn't even told the dinner lady! Am I being unreasonable that I'm a bit miffed I didn't get to tell my class myself?

@billy1966

On my third, and 26 weeks pregnant I started to tell people.

Not everyone shows.
People were surprised.

What a foghorn.
She has zero business telling your students your business.

Speak to her boss and your HT.
She needs to learn a bit of discretion.

I acted surprised when an obviously pregnant colleague told me. It is polite. But on MN people tell you the truth.

How weird to be obviously pregnant but keeping it a secret. Just totally weird behaviour
Its crackers.
I bet op has been giving off subtle signs subconsciously that shes pregnant such as touching and cradling her stomach. Add that to loose clothes, actually having a bump, well you font need to be inspector Morse to work things out!
All this about it being private medicsl information is ridiculous after a certain point. I get the early weeks about keeping quiet , that's standard and understandable but this far along when it's obvious is a joke. It's not like youve got a dirty secret you font want people to know but you are making it sound like one

YABU

If you wanted it kept a secret you shouldn't have told anyone.

Are you secondary? Teenagers aren't stupid!
I remember my form tutor being very obviously pregnant (she was really tall and slim) she ended up telling us about 2 weeks before she left. She probably had her reasons not to mention it but it seemed silly given she was obviously pregnant.

The dinner lady wasn't to know!

Maybe you showed by then. Neither my parents nor lodgers could see until I told them. My pregnancy was very fragile and very high risk of miscarriage. Some people are happy to have everyone knowing about their trajedy. Other's prefer to seek support from close friends and family. Maybe sounds wierd to you.

If you’re showing then it’s obvious. It’s a baby.
Your in a school and children can see.
Congratulations on having a baby.

Pregnancy bumps, even with loose clothing are obvious if you spend a bit of time with anyone.

At 22 week especially if its obvious then YABU.

You’re being unreasonable. At 22 weeks and visibly pregnant the DL would have assumed it was common knowledge

YABU I'm afraid. You've said you have a bump so it's quite evident you're pregnant. If you had wanted to tell your class you should have done so. The dinner lady probably thought it was common knowledge.

This reminds of the thread from a few weeks ago where the OP was furious at her MIL for posting a photo of her, which revealed her 7-month bump, on facebook because her plan was to keep her pregnancy secret from everyone until after delivery. She hadn't actually told MIL about that plan, naturally - apparently it should have been obvious that was what she wanted.

Speak to the dinner lady and ask her why she told the children, maybe she was asked and didn’t know not to say. I would never mention about someone being pregnant when I shouldn’t to kids especially.

Really don't "speak to" the dinner lady .
She's done nothing out of order; she's not the one acting weird here.

I dont understand why you're so secretive. Kids aren't stupid.

The thing is, you're 22 weeks and showing. It's hardly top secret info.

Obviously I have a bump

They have seen themselves then, unless your students are all blind ?

I worked in a hospital for a while. One day I walked into the canteen
and a young doctor came up to me and patted my tummy. "When is it due?" he asked. He was embarrassed when I said I was not pregnant.
That was years ago and I've still got a big tummy.

en ante

@TirednWorried

Obviously I have a bump

They have seen themselves then, unless your students are all blind ?

Waiting for the massive drip-feed that all the students and the dinner lady are blind

Wow I'd have lost my mind! My then partner, and unfortunately biological father of my unborn child decided to tell everyone he knew literally a week after! The only person I had told was my bosses as I worked in a bar and obviously wouldn't be able to change barells.
I was furious!

That is really upsetting, it’s your special news to share, when you see fit. Many congrats though OP

I think you're being ridiculous and very over sensitive. It's hardly like you're only 6 weeks and keeping it secret between close friends/management or something.

@MsHedgehog

It is very possible she has done nothing wrong. Many years ago, I was investigated for breach of confidentiality at work. What happened was someone told me someone else was pregnant. I was later talking to another colleague about who in the department is pregnant and I mentioned her. This colleague then went and congratulated her, and I was then investigated for breach of confidentiality, even though I heard it from someone else. I had no idea the news was being kept quiet.

This dinner lady could be in the exact same situation.

This. It sounds like exactly what has happened. Or people have just put two and two together. My colleagues guessed after I wasn't drinking alcohol at a Christmas meal.