Dinner Lady told my class I was pregnant

[RosieLemonade]

I am 22 weeks pregnant. I hadn't told my class as I'm quite anxious about things going wrong and also I'm planning to work a good few weeks yet. I share my class with another teacher and she is taking over my days so it isn't a huge change for them. Obviously I have a bump so some have probably noticed but I do try and wear lose clothing.
Today loads of them came to me after lunch and told me they knew I was having a baby boy next year! Then later some of the older children I have taught came and said the same thing. They told me the dinner lady had been telling people. I hadn't even told the dinner lady! Am I being unreasonable that I'm a bit miffed I didn't get to tell my class myself?

She told them you were having a boy?
Are you?
You're right that it's not on to go round telling people if you don't want that.

Once you have told people at work, it is public knowledge. How would she know that you hadn’t told your class? I never did a big announcement to my class, so they must have got the pregnancy news confirmed by another member of staff.

I really dislike when someone is obviously pregnant but we all have to pretend not to have noticed. I had this at work. You could see she was pregnant. When she finally told us all we had to pretend we didn't know.
At 22 weeks some of the kids will have noticed, they don't need anyone to tell them.

I had similar, a TA told my tutor group of year 8s that I was pregnant. I wasn't even visibly pregnant at the time so probably 3-4 months.

I’d imagine she assumed it was common knowledge. I didn’t broadcast the news until after my 20 week scan but plenty of folk guessed and I certainly didn’t sweat them to secrecy - not fair on them. By 22 weeks I am sure it’s plain to everyone unless you were already very overweight.

In the unlikely and terrible event something goes wrong at this stage, everyone will wonder while you’re off and there are all sorts of reasons why they would be better to know the truth (include the kids).

If it’s just that she’s stolen your thunder then I’d find something else to worry about tbh.

However, nobody should be gossiping about you.

I doubt she was gossiping.
Obviously some of the staff know as the other teacher is already covering her. The dinner lady must have assumed the kids knew and said it in conversation.

I am with you OP. It’s none of anyone else’s business.

*Swear!

Of all the things one might get worked up about........ this isn't one of them.

Seriously, OP - yes, she (probably) overstepped the mark, but just enjoy your waiting-for-my-baby time

If you have a bump then you are being unreasonable. There are many ways this could have come up in conversation. You need to chill out.

I would report her - if you didn't tell her then how does she even know you are having a boy? etc... snooping then gossiping about an employee's private life especially to the children in your care is not acceptable.

When I was in secondary school we figured out our teacher was pregnant really early on, it's subconscious things she did like paw at her stomach in a way she didn't use to but non of us let her know we knew because it wasn't our business.

I just went to my DS school the other day and the teacher was obviously crazily pregnant, we talked normally and casually for half an hour until she mentioned she was leaving for maternity leave next week before I even mentioned pregnancies/babies even though she know I just gave birth too because it just isn't my place to comment until she herself tells me.

It’s not something a dinner lady should be discussing with pupils regardless of whether you had told people. It’s personal. I’d speak to your line manager/SLT.

I would report her
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Yabu

As others have said, at 22 weeks and bring visibly pregnant, it would be assumed it’s common knowledge.

It’s possible that they overheard a conversation. Or she assumed one child knew and it slipped.

Sorry yabu

At 22 week I was barely visible expecting in loose clothing.

Especially

People saying it's an accident - this isn't a Freudian slip, she told multiple people from multiple-year groups in details that she herself hadn't been told.

That's deliberately gossiping and she would have figured out instantly and stopped if it was an accident.

Depends what she said, doesn’t it. She could well have assumed everyone knew- you’re 22 weeks with a bump, not 12 weeks and not showing.

If you were less than 12 weeks I would have some sympathy but at 22 weeks and you say you are showing and have started to wear loose clothes I think you are being over sensitive. Of course people know and I suspect thy have known for a while.
You are quite crackers if you think people haven't guessed😂

You didn't get to tell your class because you didn't tell your class. You have opportunity to, you just wanted Beto carry on with this charade.
There's no need for such secrecy anyway. Be proud and happy!

If you didn't tell dinner lady then someone else did so therefore it's a safe bet she thought it was common knowledge
Add that to the fact you've got a bump and she probably has no idea she's done anything wrong

22 weeks, blimey. No way I could hide it at that stage

I would report her

Don't be ridiculous. She commented on a pretty obvious pregnancy. It's not like the op is 6 weeks pregnant and told her in confidence.

Ots unlikely she's 'announced it' its more likely come up in conversation

Sorry OP if telling them yourself was so important you should have mentioned it before your bump was visible

@mam0918

People saying it's an accident - this isn't a Freudian slip, she told multiple people from multiple-year groups in details that she herself hadn't been told.

That's deliberately gossiping and she would have figured out instantly and stopped if it was an accident.

I cam on to say the same thing She needs reminding that you discuss person stuff with pupils

*don't discuss 🙄

How did the dinner lady know if you didn't tell anyone?

In reality, you did tell people. But wanted to be picky and choosey about who knew. That's not fair. If it's at the stage when the dinner ladies know, I would presume the kids did too.