Do you know anyone who hasn’t been in a relationship?

[IStoppedBelieving]

Or had sex?

What are they like?
How old are they?

And also, would you judge someone who hasn’t?

I know several people who have not been in romantic relationships.

In their 40s and 50s.

All very nice people for whom due to physical illness, MH issues etc, it didn't happen.

No judgment.

I know one person who has never had a relationship, not a virgin though apparently.

His 30, and yes, I think it’s strange. It’s not like his had loads of girlfriends and they didn’t turn into relationships, it’s that he just hasn’t had any! I think that’s very unusual.

His a nice guy by the way and good looking, which makes the whole thing even more strange in my opinion!

My BIL - no self confidence I mean zero wouldn't be able to ask anyone out for a coffee etc.

Only ever worked when someone 'found' a role for him he knew never applied for a job, had a house of his own.

He just can't do it and I assume its the same with a relationship. Its sad he is a great uncle and has missed out on life really

Yes a family member who is 42 and has never had any kind of relationship. He had aspergers and learning difficulties but is high functioning nonetheless. He suffers from extreme social anxiety but wants a girlfriend and it's his biggest stress and sadness that he doesn't. He feels he can't socialise or be part of society as he has so much fear and shame about people asking him if he's married, has a girlfriend etc. He thinks he's the only one.

Kind of. One dear friend is turning 40 next year. Has dated lots of men but only just recently got herself her very first boyfriend. She was a late bloomer. Wanted a romantic connection but it never happened for her

..and I would not judge at all.

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Two perfectly nice friends of DH, good looking, good jobs, plenty of friends and good families etc just never happened to meet the right girl. Think the longest either dated someone was around 2 months. One is 41 now and the other is 38. Both met lovely girls just before covid and now planning houses and we are expecting engagement news too.

Yes. One of my friends. She's mid 30s. Never met anyone she likes enough. I've known her for 5 years and not known her in that time have any offers. She's pretty and slim and fun to be with....no idea why she's had no interest from anyone. She wouldn't have sex outside marriage so still a virgin.

No I don't judge her. She doesn't seem bothered about it - never talks about men at all. She has said she's like to be married, have kids, etc....but that they'd have to be loaded and have no baggage. She's quite posh. I think she will always be single to be honest.

My best friend. She is 63 and has never been in a relationship. I know she hoped it would happen, but it didn't. She leads a very full and interesting life. No I don't judge her, there isn't any reason to.

Its sad he is a great uncle and has missed out on life really

I know I’m asking for hurt but.
Is it really missing out?

A man I work with in his mid 50s hasnt (openly gay). He prefers the company of his dog and admits to be a bit of a loner. No judgement from me although I feel a bit sorry for him as he has no family or friends just his dog and work. He always offers to work the Xmas period (we are nurses) so he doesnt have to be alone.

@ThinWomansBrain

Great - another asexual bashing thread - it's only about a week since the last one 🥱

How is it bashing?

@ThinWomansBrain

Great - another asexual bashing thread - it's only about a week since the last one 🥱

Lots of people aren't asexual but haven't had a relationship. There can be many reasons. I have a friend who has never been in a relationship to my knowledge. She is not asexual. She is attractive and a nice person but I think lacked in confidence when we all stated dating in our teens and twenties and sort of avoided it. Now she's stuck in a bit of a rut I think.

@IStoppedBelieving

Its sad he is a great uncle and has missed out on life really

I know I’m asking for hurt but.
Is it really missing out?

It depends on your perspective doesn't it. If you have never been in a relationship and are happy with that then you're not missing out...if you really want a relationship then you will feel that way.

reat - another asexual bashing thread - it's only about a week since the last one 🥱

^^hows this thread anything to do with asexually?

@ThinWomansBrain

Great - another asexual bashing thread - it's only about a week since the last one 🥱

Please believe that was not my intentions at all!

I’m the inexperienced one.

I just wanted to see if there are others and if people are judging, because I feel pretty alone.

@ShippingNews, I similarly know someone who is 60 and I think perhaps always hoped it would happen but it just never did.
I have never known her to had had any relationship, she lived at home and looked after her mother and life just sort of slipped by.

She works, has an active life, play a sport and really looks after herself, she is always beautifully dressed etc.

I don't judge at all, I do sometimes hope that she might meet someone who would whisk her off her feet but I also know it is absolutely NONE of my business so I stop those thoughts sharpish!

She is a fantastic person and I enjoy her company a lot

@ThinWomansBrain

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What are you talking about?

I know a couple of people who would love to be in a relationships but are too shy and it just hasn't happened yet. I don't think there's as many opportunities these days to meet someone and the people I know would rather die than go on a dating app.

What are you on about @ThinWomansBrain? Stop looking for offence where there is none.

If you’d waited literally one minute after you posted, it would have become patently obvious the OP was talking so it themselves.

One of my oldest friends has never had a relationship as far as I am aware. I have never outright asked them about sex but strongly suspect not, they are mid 40’s now (female). They are a great person but very private and they did have a body confidence issues in their teens so might be related. They have quite a “small world” but seem content with it.

DH's uncle. He did have one relationship about 20 years ago, but it wasn't long lasting at all. Never had one before, and hasn't had a single once since.

It's really a shame, and I know he gets very down about it. Like a PP though, he just has 0 confidence.

One of my friends who is in her early 30s has never had a relationship. Ahe is beautiful, really pretty, intelligent and lovely, great fun to be with.
However, she lacks confidence when it comea to men and who never ask a man on a date. I see loads of men looking at her when we go out for the evening, and I reckon they all just assume she is already taken or are too scared to approach her. She thinks men don't approach her because she isn't good enough for them which is incredibly sad

I do. They have always been very shy around men. They aren't a virgin but have maybe had a brief fling with one or two people and no relationship.

They have worked in the same low paid role for years, but are self sufficient to an extent and travelled a lot. I think they are just shy and low in confidence at work and in relationships.

I think in the past it bothered them, but they are 50 now and don't care. They are quite happy they didn't bother with relationships now. They do have a bit of a grumpy way about them, so I'm not sure how a relationship would have gone for them anyway!

Me. I’m mid twenties, and my sibling too. We come from a normal family but both seem to have social anxiety issues. We are both normal looking/attractive. My sibling suffers with quite severe mental health problems but I have managed ok with work and friends just never get asked out and am shy. I hope it will happen one day but this thread is depressing and it scares me that I will get older and it will never happen