'Told off' by a random stranger

[hibye123]

I was on my way to an appointment with the Midwife this morning around 10:30am.

I was running late because I was feeding DD and didn't have time for any breakfast. Left to get the bus and grabbed a pack of Salt and Vinegar Squares from Sainsbury's and ate it at the bus stop once I had gotten off the bus.

Minding my business eating my Squares and some woman comes up to me saying 'you shouldn't be eating crisps at this time of the day' I told her I'm pregnant and I'll eat whatever I want when I want. She then said I was rude and unfit to be mum and went about her day!

AIBU in thinking she's actually the rude one coming up to me telling me off as if I'm her 5 year old child lol

[quote LittleDandelionClock]@hibye123

I have had similar things happen a couple of times. I am tempted to say 'mind yer cunting business you nosey cow.' But I have just ignored them instead, and not even looked at them. Ignoring them boils their piss more than anything else, as they are looking for a reaction to their cunty behaviour.

One thing that happened about 5 years ago when I was about 48-49... A woman who was around 15 years older than me, TOLD me (when I had a sleeveless vest top on when it was 85 degrees F,) that I NEED to cover my cleavage. She looked me directly in the face in the street market, pointed at my cleavage, and said 'you need to cover up, you shouldn't be showing them like that!'

Stupid cunt. Like I will be dictated to by some bitter, jealous harpy telling me I need to cover my cleavage. I was a woman of almost 50. Did she think she was talking to a 14 year old girl? It's been a LOT of years since I let anyone tell me what to do. I wanted to say 'who the fuck do you think you are?' But I just puffed my ample bosom out and walked off. She huffed and tutted, and seemed furious that I ignored her.[/quote]
Did everyone around you clap?

To the OP - the woman was weird and rude. Don't give her headspace.

when I was pregnant my snack of choice was either a tiger chocolate bar or a bunch of baby carrots - sense of taste & those strange food desires lead pregnant women to almost needing "unhealthy/healthy/sweet/salty" foods

@supremelybaffled

When I was pregnant, some random stranger said "Ooh, eating for two now are we? Don't overdo it!"

The fucking cheek😂😂 it's rude enough when a family member says something like this but a complete stranger? Bye

My favourite thing about this thread is the number of pregnant ladies that can't stop eating salt and vinegar crisps.

For me, it was salt and vinegar Snack A Jacks. I've just been Tesco and they were completely sold out. Luckily, I had my son five days ago. This time last week that would have made me cry!

Why would anyone make a comment, none of her business whatsoever. Ignore it OP.

A few years ago, i was queuing in Tesco with a full trolley, I was around 49/50. An old woman in front of me pointed at the sign above us, and snapped "IT'S 25 ITEMS OR LESS"
I very politely advised her that that was the Challenge 25 sign for buying booze... And, she was in front ofe, so what difference would it have made to her anyway?? She wasn't at all happy.

Another old lady told off my 16 year old daughter for slouching and leaning on the fence at the bus stop. Told her to stand up straight and stop leaning on the fence.
Bus stop is outside our house... and it's my fence 😂

I am the old woman in these stories! Because I once told a young guy who was clipping his fingernails on the train that it isn't something to do in public, with bits flying everywhere.

He looked at me with patience and sympathy and waited for me to dodder off and leave him to complete his clipping.

My child was getting in the passenger side of the car, roadside on a totally empty, totally traffickless residential road. A woman on her doorstep shouted 'you should be helping him, why arent you helping him? You're not fit to be a parent'.. . . because he is 12'. I shouted back.

OH heavens, you can eat what you want, surely?

I was eight months pregnant and went to an art exhibition on holiday.
It happened to be etchings of soldiers I was interested in them.

Just minding my own business looking at the artwork and some random stranger told me I 'shouldn't be looking at such serious things as my child would never be happy'...

What?

When you are pregnant some randoms mistakenly regard you as public property.

Take no notice...

I'm in Canada. I miss Squares. They are the best crisps. I wonder if I can get my dad to bring some if he does manage to get out here for Christmas.

I’d have grabbed a bar of chocolate and eaten it whilst eyeballing her.

@FeatheredHope

Does anybody else REALLY want some salt and vinegar squares now?

YES and I'm on low carb bootcamp

You should have told her unless she's washed or wiped ur arse she's got no right to tell u, unless she wants that right...

Jesus. Her life must be sad if she cares about what other people are eating!

I would reply with “ I’m sorry do I know you?” Then “in which case I dont understand why you are speaking to me”

I was told off for drinking wine by random stranger once, I was on holiday with my 3 DC. my parents and my DP, my youngest was 3 months old so I had a bit of left over baby fat. I had a glass of wine with my evening meal and this lady came storming over and told me off for drinking in my condition, she basically thought I was pregnant and not just fat, but it was the way she said it that was rude, she then clocked I wasnt and said. Oh youre fat, I thought you were pregnant, which made it worse, why are people so rude to others.

Reminds me of a time I ate a whole bag of toffee popcorn before a midwife app 😅 wee sample detected sugar but it was determined it was likely the popcorn after I told her I had ate that much and I got a telling off from MW! You can kind of expect the comments off health professionals though... not random strangers.

Also, squares are my favourite crisps! So YANBU.

I live off fizzy haribo morning, noon and night up until 15 weeks pregnant. I had hurrendous sickness and it was the only thing I wanted to eat!

@Jenasaurus

I was told off for drinking wine by random stranger once, I was on holiday with my 3 DC. my parents and my DP, my youngest was 3 months old so I had a bit of left over baby fat. I had a glass of wine with my evening meal and this lady came storming over and told me off for drinking in my condition, she basically thought I was pregnant and not just fat, but it was the way she said it that was rude, she then clocked I wasnt and said. Oh youre fat, I thought you were pregnant, which made it worse, why are people so rude to others.

What a horrible person! So sorry that happened to you.

Thank you LUCCCY It was horrible at the time but says more about her than me. My DD had a similar thing on holiday a couple of years ago, she was told she was too fat for shorts by a stranger in Tenerife, my DD wasn't even overweight, she has a normal figure but is only 5ft so her legs look possibly bigger in proportion, but why that lady felt the need to pass judgement on a young girl ( my daughter was about 21 at the time and already self consious) .

Yeah..welcome to the world of being a Mum. Be prepared to be judged. And never favourably

Oh yes and it doesn't even end at pregnancy or the baby/toddler stage. I had a woman come up to me in Morrison's cafe to tell me off for letting DD put salt on her chips. DD was about 8 at the time. I just blanked her and acted like she wasn't there and she huffed off.

Pregnant or not no one should tell you what you can/cannot eat at any given time!! I used to have a long commute to work for about a year (2.5 hrs!) I don't know how many times when changing trains I quickly grabbed a can of coke in a vending machine as I wouldn't have time to buy a coffee for the caffeine/ sugar hit. Thankfully no one ever said anything even if they did secretly judge me, doubt I'd have said anything in response though.

Bloody hell she was incredibly rude and you don't have to justify or explain eating crisp to rude random weirdo strangers.

Plus salt & vinegar squares are the best.

I was once on an external work training course. a lady who I had never met before told me I was ‘extremely common’ for dipping my custard cream biscuit in my tea.