'Told off' by a random stranger

[hibye123]

I was on my way to an appointment with the Midwife this morning around 10:30am.

I was running late because I was feeding DD and didn't have time for any breakfast. Left to get the bus and grabbed a pack of Salt and Vinegar Squares from Sainsbury's and ate it at the bus stop once I had gotten off the bus.

Minding my business eating my Squares and some woman comes up to me saying 'you shouldn't be eating crisps at this time of the day' I told her I'm pregnant and I'll eat whatever I want when I want. She then said I was rude and unfit to be mum and went about her day!

AIBU in thinking she's actually the rude one coming up to me telling me off as if I'm her 5 year old child lol

i have been told off several times because i use a vape, i had cancer twice so had a lot of hospital visits and the same lady twice said to me that those things are dangerous and would kill me, i just stared at her, had another puff and said...well it will be a toss up between this and the cancer, it's funny but when i see her now she just avoids me, i do not get upset, better things to worry about, in my 20s i used to wear the straight black skirts with the split at the side, a couple of elderly ladies at the supermarket said it was awful as they could see my stockings and suspenders, i just smiled and winked and said yes it's great isin't.

So rude! Ignore, ignore, ignore!

I had an 18yo tell me once that I shouldn’t be drinking Diet Coke of a morning when I was going through a phase of it once, unsolicited. She was one of my students. She meant well, but I didn’t ask and I knew it wasn’t a great habit 🤣

Just ignore. the only things I tell people off for are dropping litter, not picking up dog poo and riding bikes fast on the pavement.

@Phrowzunn

OP I’m right there with you - I’m pregnant and so sick and the only thing keeping me alive are salt and vinegar crisps. Discos for the win. Maybe in her head she thought she said it in a jokey/funny way…? Either way you did nothing wrong! Unfit to be a mother 😂😂

Discos are SO good. So flavourful I can literally eat a 6 pack in two days so had to stop buying them😂 Salt & Vinegar Frisps are equally as good. I find the budget crisps always have the best Salt & Vinegar flavours lol

@FeatheredHope

Does anybody else REALLY want some salt and vinegar squares now?

Yes, me

@LittleDandelionClock !! You should’ve done an aggressive chest-shimmy dance move, ideally chasing her down the road doing it. Like herding, but fabulously?

So random. Why would you say that? You could have just come off a night shift etc not everyone has same lifestyle. I’d have thought crisps at 10.30 were normal? At school in 80s we all had a bag at snack time. Squares sales will spike after this thread - love salt and vinegar.

A misguided attempt to be active as part of a caring community, Most likely.

This could quite possibly have been my ex MIL. If she was about 5ft 3, and looked like a female Elton John it could well be her.

Many random strangers are completely unhinged yet walk amongst us. Give it no further thought OP!

I have a grandma that does this. It's excruciating to go anywhere with her.

I'm sorry OP but it's quite funny. What a stupid woman. Hope you enjoyed your breakfast those are easily my favourite crisps.

She would have judged me. I craved liquorice all sorts when pregnant with dd and eating them for breakfast and the rest of the time was almost compulsory!

I really want a pack of Discos now. Not salt & mingegar though. Cheese and onion, as befitting an elegant lady who has her butler deliver her crisps to her at 1.30pm on a silver platter.

Ooh salt & vinegar squares, brilliant choice.

@FeatheredHope

Does anybody else REALLY want some salt and vinegar squares now?

Me!

I remember having some as a kid.

Can't remember if they were just Squares or had a name!

Who fucking asked you? Usually covers this off I find.

Yeah..welcome to the world of being a Mum. Be prepared to be judged. And never favourably.

If she ever says it again you'll be ready: "Really? they are just you're flavour, vinegar tits"

There are weird people. If I wasn't too shocked too reply, I'd have told her that it's rude to tell other adults how they should eat and ignored anything else she said. Or phrase it more pointedly. "And you shouldn't be telling other adults when and what they should eat, but I suppose we all have our faults!"

@KloppsTeeth

This could quite possibly have been my ex MIL. If she was about 5ft 3, and looked like a female Elton John it could well be her.

I would have just been jealous as I love them.

When I was pregnant, some random stranger said "Ooh, eating for two now are we? Don't overdo it!"

Were they English? I’ve live in countries where it’s the norm for strangers to tell you what to do, especially regarding your children. It took me a while to get used to it but now I sort of miss being told my children were boiling, freezing, starving, sleeping at the wrong time, not sleeping enough, going to die walking along that 50cm tall wall, sure to be paralysed falling from the climbing frame, that bike helmets were unnecessary, that they spent their childhood on the back of a Vespa etc

I think its fair to say that anyone who does this probably has issues of their own.

@Aprilx

It is a weird breakfast but I wouldn’t have cared enough to say anything.

My Friends fella often has left over curry for his Sunday breakfast. I think people should do what they want. 10.30am isn't even early.

Really want some salt and vinegar crisps but am now confused as to whether they are allowed in the afternoon or not.

When my daughter was small, we were walking by a wall and she was letting her fingers trail across the bricks. An older woman told me that I shouldn't let her touch the dirty wall as she'd catch something. When I replied (quite politely) that it was none of her business, she told me I obviously had no idea about etiquette .

Now I'm middle-aged I have the chutzpa to give such people as good as they get, or the serenity to ignore them ... and what good does it do me? None, as they don't dare do it any more! Such a waste.

When I was 4 months pregnant with my son I went to Aldi for some bits- granted not the most healthy as I was listening to my cravings. The woman behind me at the checkout tutted, I turned round and she said “a young girl of your age shouldn’t be eating that rubbish!”
I smiled and told her I was listening to what the baby wanted and she proceeded to tell me I was harming my unborn child eating that rubbish and that I shouldn’t even be pregnant at my age… FWIW, I’m 31 years old and I don’t think a couple chocolate yoghurts and some crisps are going to do much harm 🙄 Some people really are just nosey, inconsiderate and damn right rude!