If someone said "mid to late morning" to you, what time would you think that was?

[OhamIreally]

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM).
Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning.
He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

To me is would mean 10.30-11. With a confirmed time a few (by which I mean 3 or 4) days before.

If you intend to make a firmer arrangement nearer the time then yanbu.

10:30-12

I think yanbu, before midday and after 9am is easy to understand nearly 2 months in advance. Especially as it's regarding a time of year where there are lots of unexpected visitors and events.

11-11.30

Just give him a precise time. Mid/late morning is only a ball park, not an excat time is it!. The fact that you can't/don't want to give him a definite time goes to show that even you don't know what time you can be there, so how is he to know then. "Whenever I get up and can sort the kids out and get out the door+ travel time+ any traffic " is not a fixed time.

10:30 - 11:30am

Early morning is pre 9am, mid morning is 9-11 am, late morning is after 11am.

Why are you being difficult? Just give a time.

10:30 - 11:30

@Crinkle77

For instance he spent 2 years planning a big family trip to Europe which I accommodated by booking flights into one country and out of another to do drop off and pick up then he cancelled his trip. So yes this is a drip feed

What? I don't get this. So you had to do (or were intending to) pick up and drop off contact time in another country?

He was intending to have holiday contact in one country, fly DD back to me for a week then collect her again for the big family holiday which is an adjacent country. Rather than have DD fly backwards and forwards which can be exhausting I suggested I collect her from country A, travel to country B and have a holiday there with DD then hand her over and fly back alone myself.
I was left with a hodgepodge of flights when he cancelled all his trips. Which is why the accusations of me "messing with contact" for my daughter sting a bit tbh.

I will tell him 11:30.

If you're meeting at a particular place e.g. "under the town hall clock" you need to be specific. If it's Christmas Day it will be cold with nowhere open at that time.

If you were dropping them off at his house it's ok to be a bit more vague.

10.30- 11.30

Just tell him, 11am. Why is that so hard?

I'd say just what you have here - approx between 10.30-11.30 and you'll be able to firm up nearer the time (a week before?) as it depends on a few variables...

@TheChip

"I'll say roughly 10:30-11:30. If anything changes, I'll let you know"

But then there wouldn't be any drama

@OhamIreally If you meant 10:30-11:30, why not just say that, instead of something open to different interpretations? And why not simply clarify with that when asked, instead of posting a thread?

Most odd.

I'd say 11.30am and keep to that. But this is from learned experience where I'd said mid morning, only for the ex to turn up at the door at 8.20am on the grounds that sunrise was at 4.59 that morning and it would take approximately nine minutes to get her out of the front door and secured in her car seat.

Sometimes, you really do need to be absolutely specific about times - particularly when you've got somebody who has previously been flaky or prone to pendantry.

If he is a flake, I would have no problem with saying 11 am and then changing it if you need to closer to Christmas. Its one of the consequences of his own behavioir.

I would say. 10.30 to 11.45

My ex used to be vague like this, used to piss me off

Just say a time and aim for it

Say 11am and I’ll be there at 10:45 so my D.C. aren’t left waiting

@OhamIreally

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM). Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning. He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

well from the looks of the responses, mo you haven't!

I don’t understand how anyone’s definition of mid-late morning can exclude the final hour.

11.59 is late morning.

So I say any time between mid-morning (9.30) to 11.59 is mid-late morning, but that the reason we have clocks and time and stuff is so we don’t have to piss about with vague definitions.

@Nottogetapenny

I would say. 10.30 to 11.45

How is 11.50 not late morning ?? :)

10.30-12

I'd say 10-11