If someone said "mid to late morning" to you, what time would you think that was?

[OhamIreally]

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM).
Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning.
He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

If I'm getting up, early morning is 6am; morning is 8am; late morning is 10am.

But if I am talking to somebody visiting or delivering, early morning is 8am, mid morning is 9:30am, and late morning is 11am.

11?

I can see where you're coming from, OP. I've got plans to meet a friend between Christmas and new year, which are currently "evening of the 28th". We both know roughly what evening means, and we'll set an exact time closer.

So I guess your ex isn't asking for a rough time, like he has said, but he's meaning he wants a more specific time. I think "mid to late morning" is indeed a rough time. So you're right in that sense. But I'd give him a half hour window (or maybe an hour, given traffic etc) if that's what he's actually after. 11-11:30 kind of thing.

@OhamIreally

Seems like the two of you could do with being a bit more collaborative.

He booked two holidays with a week between them, you decided to book a holiday in the interim week to link the two together, he changed his holiday. There are so many different ways this could have gone. Maybe there is more that you’re not telling us but it just seems like both of you could do with being more willing to be Cooperative for the sake of your kid(s)

10:43 ish - to be precise.

In those specific circumstances I'd want a time, never mind a rough time.

I agree.
But even giving a rough time would have been better then saying mid morning.
It sounds like you were being purposely petty.

If he took mid morning to be 11 and you took it to be 9am that means you’d be waiting around for 2 hours for him. So It’s better for everyone if you’re precise to being with.

I would ask for a specific time in such cases. I can’t do with trying to be a mind reader and assuming what people’s definitions for such things are since they obviously differ and I like to have enough time to get there on time if not a bit early.

10-12 but you obviously need to give him an exact time if he is meeting you half way else he or you could end up sat there waiting for ages????

10-1130.

10-30 / 11.00

That could be anywhere between 10 and 11:45. Far too vague, just set a time!

If he's physically meeting you somewhere he needs an actual time. Waiting for an hour and half is a little unfair.

The OP isn’t expecting him to wait and I’m sure she still give a definite time nearer to Christmas.

On the other hand OP, if he needs to know a time now then you should respect that as he probably has his reasons

Sorry I haven't read the whole thread...

I'd give a 30 min timespan to allow for traffic.

10.30 to 11.00 as the time to meet each other at your agreed venue.

For that scenario, I’d want a definite time. YABU.

Late morning is almost 12 to me 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈9.30 is early morning

volunteered a rough meeting time with the intention of firming it up closer to the time and he asked me for a "rough" time when I considered I'd already done so.

In your head, you had already given a rough time. It is obviously fraught with possible miscommunications. Why not just say, mid morning, say 11am - noon or what ever you meant.

So that everyone would be clear. You can still be more exact closer to the time, within the range already agreed.

I'm always for being clear and avoiding misunderstandings.

To me I’d say 10.30 - 11.30.

But in this instance you are BU in not giving a specific time to be honest.

@Chasingsquirrels

In those specific circumstances I'd want a time, never mind a rough time.

That.

I think he needs an exact time. He needs to plan his departure etc.

10:30-11

Sorry op you didn't give him a time!!!!!

If you’re planning to meet somewhere, he needs an actual time. If you’re dropping them into him, rough time works, but tbh I’m always for being as clear as possible, just makes life easier all round. Refusing just makes you look petty

@TicTacHoh

If you’re planning to meet somewhere, he needs an actual time. If you’re dropping them into him, rough time works, but tbh I’m always for being as clear as possible, just makes life easier all round. Refusing just makes you look petty

Nearly 2 months in advance?! Why?

Sure, he needs an exact time when he's going to meet them, but unless there's a reason, why does he need to know now? That's pretty IMO!

No you haven’t given a time you have given a time span

11am