If someone said "mid to late morning" to you, what time would you think that was?

[OhamIreally]

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM).
Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning.
He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

I would say from 10.30 -11.30 ish

But I agree, just tell him

Tho I don’t blame you for being vague in his case!

!0:00- 11:30

The drip feed is completely irrelevant and changes nothing about this situation. You have a time in mind so share it. If that then changes by all means be frustrated but at the moment you're the one being obtuse by not sharing the time irrespective of his past behaviour.

I'm glad you appreciate you're being unreasonable about this it's such a daft thing to get into an argument over.

10-12

I don’t think he’s being unreasonable asking for further clarification. This way you can’t get communication mixed up and it should make the situation easier 🤷🏽‍♀️

You haven't given a time, you've said mid-late morning.

Depending when you get up, definitions could vary anywhere from 9.30/10 to midday.

That's not really good enough to plan around.

Of course he's going to want something more specific if he's making plans of when to set off.

You’ve had a hard time on here OP. Not warranted in my opinion.

But tbh I’d now be inclined to say “11” just to stop him moaning. You can always alter it by half an hour nearer the time if necessary.

Mid to late morning 9-11:59.

Early morning 6-9.

Of course if someone said to me mid to late morning I'd want to know a specific time in these circumstances too.

Always say a time
Drives me mad when people say 'mid/late morning/afternoon'
Yes.... but what fucking TIME?! 🤣🙄

@Chasingsquirrels

In those specific circumstances I'd want a time, never mind a rough time.

Exactly. You're being really unclear. It's the kind of thing my ex does, and thus 'rough time' of mid to late morning ends up meaning whatever he chooses it to on the day.

Between 10 and 11.30.

You didn't give a rough time though. You gave a vague timeframe, which as this thread shows means different things to different people.

If you are thinking between 10.30 and 11.30 ish just say that.

I don't want to give a specific time yet as have other people/logistics to consider around setting off times and once those are in place I can give an actual time

And he has his own plans/logistics to consider too. He is not being unreasonable to ask for a time now and you are being selfish to think mid-late morning is detailed enough information. Give him a time you will be setting off and what time you expect to be at the meeting point then work your other logistics around it.

He may also have other people/logistics to consider

Drip feed does not affect this situation. Just give him a time and say if it doesnt work he can do the whole journey. Stop messing around with your kids contact just because he has been an absolute shit with it in the past. Be the bigger person.

If I was meeting someone somewhere or someone was coming to my house,I would want a more precise timescale!

It sounds to me that he was happy with/wanted a rough time and so a time based window (e.g 10.30-11.30) would have been fine. Mid morning is open to different interpretations and so providing what time window was being referred to seems reasonable to me.

I think 10.30-11.30 too.

Just tell him an exact time and let the man plan his life.

Questions like this are one of the reasons I despair of society.

11-12

I can see why, at this stage, the OP didn't want to commit to a specific time - other people and things to accommodate. I expect the same applies to the ex, which is why he wants to make sure they are both thinking along the same lines, avoiding different interpretations of 'mid morning'.

10-11am.

10 to 11.30

I'd assume 10:30 to 11:30 if you said mid-late morning. Lots of people clearly think earlier though, so it would be easier if you just said a time.