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If someone said "mid to late morning" to you, what time would you think that was?

361 replies

OhamIreally · 06/11/2021 09:48

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM).
Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning.
He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

OP posts:
PAFMO · 06/11/2021 10:00

Around 10, give or take to 11.30 give or take.
No earlier than 10, no later than about 11.30.

maddiemookins16mum · 06/11/2021 10:01

11.18am

Original poster
OhamIreally · 06/11/2021 10:01

There's no problem with being specific closer to the time. It's just that I volunteered a rough meeting time with the intention of firming it up closer to the time and he asked me for a "rough" time when I considered I'd already done so.

In my head it would be 10-30 to 11:30 so was interesting to see what other people thought.
The drop off point is half way up the M1 so subject to a lot of variables which he knows.

I shall tell him 11:35 😂

OP posts:
KrispyKale · 06/11/2021 10:01

My mil gets up very early and would think 9.30,-10 probably. Best to give a rough time.

TheChip · 06/11/2021 10:01

By saying mid morning (10:30-11:30) that is a rough time. He's asking for a rough time, not specific. So unless you know the specifics yet, then yanbu.

PAFMO · 06/11/2021 10:01

I'd also be pretty pissed off if I was expected to sit at the midway point for 2 hours potentially.

knittingaddict · 06/11/2021 10:01

Just give him a time. Why all this mid to late morning stuff? Our last weekend away turned into a logistical nightmare because no actual times had been arranged for contact.

Beachbreak2411 · 06/11/2021 10:02

I’d want an exact time too.. especially as it’s Christmas. Don’t play games; just give a time!

Whinge · 06/11/2021 10:02

I'd be really hacked off if I had to hang around for aeons at Christmas un thé cold... If your late morning meant 1145 and my late morning was 1030...

Yep, and no doubt if it was reversed the OP would be on here slagging him off for being late and keeping her and the children waiting. Which is why specific times are useful in situations like this.

Bluntness100 · 06/11/2021 10:03

Oh cmon, you’re being totally unreasonable, he has to drive to meet you so give him a time.

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 06/11/2021 10:03

I've deliberately not read the replies. If it's a midway point I don't think he's BU to ask for an approx time. To me mid morning is around 10am, late morning 11-11:30am; so he may well be thinking the same & that's quite a large window depending on how far the he/you are having to travel.

Bluntness100 · 06/11/2021 10:04

@OhamIreally

There's no problem with being specific closer to the time. It's just that I volunteered a rough meeting time with the intention of firming it up closer to the time and he asked me for a "rough" time when I considered I'd already done so.

In my head it would be 10-30 to 11:30 so was interesting to see what other people thought.
The drop off point is half way up the M1 so subject to a lot of variables which he knows.

I shall tell him 11:35 😂

Well In your head is wrong. Why are you making it so difficult? I assume you hate him so want to be petty? That’s fine, you can be as cunty as you wish but own it.
LiveForeverHappily · 06/11/2021 10:05

Mild/late morning to me would be anything from 9.30 leading up to midday. I can see why he would want a narrower timescale to plan his own morning.

HairyScaryMonster · 06/11/2021 10:05

I think that's fine for now - 10-11:30, and you'll be more specific nearer the time.

shouldistop · 06/11/2021 10:05

@OhamIreally

There's no problem with being specific closer to the time. It's just that I volunteered a rough meeting time with the intention of firming it up closer to the time and he asked me for a "rough" time when I considered I'd already done so.

In my head it would be 10-30 to 11:30 so was interesting to see what other people thought.
The drop off point is half way up the M1 so subject to a lot of variables which he knows.

I shall tell him 11:35 😂

Just tell him between 10.30-11.30.
invisiblecats · 06/11/2021 10:05

I don't understand how most of the posters seem to have missed that you are only giving (and have been asked for) a rough time, and plan to firm it up nearer the time.

e.g. I'd also be pretty pissed off if I was expected to sit at the midway point for 2 hours potentially.

Nobody is suggesting that!

OP, mid to late morning is fine as a rough time, for now. If he needs clarification, 10:30-11:30 as you've said here is clear.

DappledThings · 06/11/2021 10:05

Anywhere between 9.45 and 11.45. That's a wider window that a "rough time" to me.

Bluntness100 · 06/11/2021 10:06

@invisiblecats

I don't understand how most of the posters seem to have missed that you are only giving (and have been asked for) a rough time, and plan to firm it up nearer the time.

e.g. I'd also be pretty pissed off if I was expected to sit at the midway point for 2 hours potentially.

Nobody is suggesting that!

OP, mid to late morning is fine as a rough time, for now. If he needs clarification, 10:30-11:30 as you've said here is clear.

No one has missed it. Confused
purplecorkheart · 06/11/2021 10:06

11 to 12 for me. You need to be more specific.

Frazzled2207 · 06/11/2021 10:07

I think you need to give a half hour window. Eg 10.30-11.

AchyFlower · 06/11/2021 10:07

10

I'd want a definite time with a (depends on traffic I'll text you when I leave)

theworldsastage · 06/11/2021 10:08

@OhamIreally

There's no problem with being specific closer to the time. It's just that I volunteered a rough meeting time with the intention of firming it up closer to the time and he asked me for a "rough" time when I considered I'd already done so.

In my head it would be 10-30 to 11:30 so was interesting to see what other people thought.
The drop off point is half way up the M1 so subject to a lot of variables which he knows.

I shall tell him 11:35 😂

10.30 to 11.30 is what I would have thought too!
knittingaddict · 06/11/2021 10:08

@OhamIreally

There's no problem with being specific closer to the time. It's just that I volunteered a rough meeting time with the intention of firming it up closer to the time and he asked me for a "rough" time when I considered I'd already done so.

In my head it would be 10-30 to 11:30 so was interesting to see what other people thought.
The drop off point is half way up the M1 so subject to a lot of variables which he knows.

I shall tell him 11:35 😂

So what happens with week to week contact ie not Christmas? It's fairly standard surely to have a time for the handover? Sometimes we wait around for a bit if we are early and sometimes one of us has to let the other know that they will be a bit late, but there is always an agreed time that we are all aiming for. Variables with the road conditions and traffic are no excuse not to be specific.

How far are you driving?

PinkWaferBiscuit · 06/11/2021 10:08

I don't understand how most of the posters seem to have missed that you are only giving (and have been asked for) a rough time, and plan to firm it up nearer the time.

No one is missing that we're all pointing out giving a window of time such as 10.30-11.30 is more sensible as he can plan his day around that rather than some arbitrary statement such as mid to late morning which as this thread shows is entirely subjective.

Sirzy · 06/11/2021 10:08

But a rough plan may not work for him, if he is trying to arrange something for after he has picked the children up then a wishy washy “mid to late morning” is useless.

There seems to be no reason at all to not set up a sensible half hour window for handover other than the Op trying to make some sort of point

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