Is it not that common to be on your second marriage in your 30's

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I got married a few years ago when I was in my mid 30's, it is my second marriage. Is it not that common to marry for a second time in your 30's, none of my friend's have been in the same position as me.

It is uncommon in my circle but I'm sure there are quite a few people in the same situation generally.

I got married for the second time at 24, and still married nearly 22 years later.

It’s uncommon for sure, I do know a a couple of people however

I married for the second time aged 36. I think my mum did too, and my sister (may even have been her third )

My friend got married for the second time in her 30’s and so did dh’s friend, not to each other though.

Still on my first marriage...married at 20, remain so at 55

I've a friend who had her second marriage at 28. That lasted 20 years, but has since divorced again.

Don’t most people marry in their early 30s? I think it’s quite uncommon to marry the second time in your 30s but I do know two people personally who have done this.

I’m 49, still waiting for my first one!

Second marriage at 32..
Third at 38.
Fourth at 44.

I wouldn't have thought it was common, no. But as long as you're happy, what does it matter what everyone else is or isn't doing?!

I think it’s probably uncommon in the sense that more and more people are marrying later these days. Years ago, people would assume an unmarried 30 year-old would be unmarried forever. It wouldn’t raise an eyebrow now.

Probably is uncommon because if ppl are getting at all it's usually around late twenties early thirties. I do have a friend that was on to her second in her twenties. Which was before most of her friends had had a first marriage.

Can’t say I know of anyone getting married in their 30’s first or second. My friends are not all that far into their 30’s and my parents / in laws nobody’s divorced and married in their 30’s

I got married at 23, separated aged 35. Remarried aged 38

I'm impressed how you seem to find people you want to marry.

I got divorced at 30, met my current Dh at 37, and married him at 41. We are both mid fifties now and still happy despite having had some serious life challenges thrown at us.

I was 40 when I married for the second time. I would have been 39 but there was a delay with getting copies of some paperwork that was needed for the place where we got married.

I don’t think it’s common of uncommon. We are all different. Just because someone married in their early 20s and us still married to the same person over 30 years later doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. Some people work got the same company their whole career. Some change and move around until they find the right fit. I don’t see my first marriage as a sign of failure of any sort. Quite the opposite. I’m pleased I was able to recognize that we were both unhappy and that it was not working and we were able to move on so that we could find happiness. I don’t really care what other people think. And I certainly don’t see a long marriage or only marriage as being something that makes one a better person than others. It’s nice if someone finds the one and only very early in life, and a long marriage is wonderful if both are happy (although looking around at my friends and family who are in the 20+ years of marriage I’m not so sure all of them are happy, just settled) bit it shouldn’t be seen as an indicator of success.

My circle started getting married early 30s, whereas my mum was married for the second time at 22 and the third time at 35.

Still on my first marriage, now 20years in-met when I was 31 though

My best friend got married for the second time in her 30s, third in her 40s and has just set the date for her fourth in her 50s. She redecorates her whole house every 12 months or so too, she gets bored very easily

Not that unusual really.

I got married at 21 and separated at 27, I'm 4 years into a relationship in my early-mid 30's and I guess if I were to get married for a second time it would be now. I'm not that daft to do it again though

Probably not that uncommon but not sure why it's important.

I've been to 2 weddings for the same person and she was in her 20s for both.