Rude/tactless things people have said.

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I know we all love a CF thread. Chatting to a fellow commuter waiting for the bus to go to work. Not seen each other since beginning lockdown. Dont even know name. I mentioned I liked her hair totally different to before and I said was having mine coloured/cut in 3 weeks, planned it so done for a night out so holding out. She said to me, I wldnt wait that long looks like needs a really good cut, it's very dry. It probably does but you wldnt say that to a person you hardly know. I have very fine menopausal hair and conscious of it anyway.

Bought a big fuck-off house in 'leafy Surrey'. Invited to neighbourhood Christmas drinks. I was, admittedly, my accustomed scruffy self - jeans, t-shirt, Converse, a bit stubbly, hair rather longer than is usual among the stockbrokers and bankers who live around here.

Over a glass wine, I was talking to a woman in her sixties, who had been in the neighbourhood forever. She was as posh as a Royal Doulton soup tureen and she spoke in that accent that makes 'trousers and a tall hat' into 'trizers and a toll het'.

"Ah, you're new, arntyo?" she said. "I don't know you. Are you a risident?"

"Yes. Just moved into 21 Melrose last week."

She surveyed me up and down.

"Number 21 Melrose?"

"Yes."

She was evidently perplexed, troubled. She didn't have half-glasses on, but she peered at me as if she were looking over some.

"Ah - I understand!" she said, at last, as if she had solved a conundrum. "21 Melrose! Yes, yes. Is that the one that's been converted into flets?"

"No, it's fucking not," I didn't say.

For years after that, whenever there were local functions, I made sure to stay close to her, because she did this sort of thing all the time and I found it endlessly amusing.

@cakecakecheese

Walking down the street and a random woman sneered at me in such a nasty way and told me that my breasts are disgusting. I replied that her personality was disgusting and ran off.

Went home and cried but thought that at least I'm a nice person who would never randomly insult a stranger whereas how bitter and shrewlike must you be to do something like that ?

Good comeback, but sorry that the woman's remark was so hurtful. Reminds me of my friend who was once told by someone, "But you don't LOOK autistic" and replied, "..and you don't LOOK ignorant but here we are."

I was working at a day nursery when I fell pregnant ( planned) with my son. My boss was a cow- never got on with her. At the time, me and hubby weren't married. I told my boss I was expecting, and she replied " Is it congratulations or commiserations?" just because we weren't married, she thought it was unplanned.

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I can’t believe how shit people can be.

I am so sorry for your losses 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

On telling my SIL that I had breast cancer, she told me that I must look after DH because I might die and he would be upset. She has form for saying things like this - apparently, she tells it like it is. I just think she's rude and totally lacking in empathy. I'm glad to say that I'm now cancer free and that whilst my DH was obviously worried and upset, he was an amazing support and wouldn't have dreamed of thinking that I should look after him!

When I was diagnosed with MS "a friend" said well you had better get rid of the sports car you can't drive that when your disabled.

My beloved dog was put to sleep unexpectedly on Saturday morning, a neighbour on Sunday morning after telling them how upset I am asked if I'll be getting another one as if he's replaceable like a broken appliance or something.

On an episode of Curvy Brides Boutique.
Bride's mother speaking straight to camera: "yes, it's important to be very tactful as my daughter is so conscious of her size".
Later, daughter holds up a dress to her mother to ask her opinion.
Mother: "oh no, that will make you look even bigger than you already are."

A former neighbour once asked me "Have you still got your little hobby"?

I had my own business at the time and was often working sixteen hours a day.

When my sons school was sent to a special school, my friend, whose child didnt have special needs said "we considered special schools for x, but its not a special world is it, so its letting your child down from the start'

I still cant quite work out what she meant by that.

That reminds me of when I was due to have my tonsils out, my DGM was talking about it to someone else, maybe on the phone, but she knew I was there, 'oh it's only a simple procedure, but so was mine and look what happened to me' - she'd had an endoscopy go wrong and ended up in hospital for months with pneumonia. Thanks for that!

A weirder one from my DGM was that she told me on more than one occasion that my DF had small feet for a man but I didn't. Not massively rude or tactless, but always made me think WTF?

When I was pregnant with DS, I got fed up of a (presumably) financially better off co-worker repeatedly telling me I'd feel differently about only having six months off after the baby was here - even after I pointed out that it didn't matter as I had no choice financially.

Oh and someone else telling me 'cheer up, you wanted this' when I was feeling particularly down about the level of sickness and nausea I was experiencing, which they were well aware of. I wanted a baby, not to be feeling severely nauseous 24/7, dry heaving and retching if I walked anywhere, and throwing up most of what I ate and drank. Probably shouldn't have been in work at all really.

A colleague who said incredible things. "Your hair looks nice - from the back." "These trousers are nice. I didn't know they made them extra large." On seeing a group of us going to use the school swimming pool, "You're very brave to be wearing a swimsuit at your size." On being told someone had a special birthday she uttered, "you're 40? You look much older than that." She was a grade A bitch and disliked by most people.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 31/10/2021 11:48

My now exdh after our dd died said "she died because you're such a bitch, must be karma because who has 2 kids die on them"

God, what an absolutely horrible person to say something like that. I still find it hard to believe what nasty pieces of work some people can be.

Last week in a branch of Paul while ordering lunch for my two children aged five and three.
'are they your grandchildren?'

im 47 and they are my CHILDREN (ffs)

My ex H had four sisters and one was in hospital recovering after an ectopic pregnancy but dealing with the news she would not have children. Her own father came to visit and said well never mind cos your younger sister is pregnant!!!

And his aunt (a grade A bitch) looked me and him and our three children up and down and said “well they don’t look like you” to him. Played right into his paranoia as years later he claimed he’d actually then organised DNA testing of our (100 %) kids

My late mil, once said to me that I was a good girl (pause) really! Talk about being damned with faint praise.

As a cancer patient I could write a bloody book on this. With a second volume to do with the fact I'm over weight and a Type 2 diabetic. My third volume would be about people telling me how to run my business and fourth about being a mother of 3 daughters................

You're looking well, I thought you had cancer?
What's your diagnosis then?
Have you not tried turmeric / CBD oil / yoga / going vegan?

Have you tried loosing weight?

Were you going for a boy - what a shame.......

Volunteered to do something at work. It comes around same time every year. Woman coordinating this work emailed me saying 'you do know you need x qualification to do this work'. Yes, I got this qualification in 1999 when you were still in primary school and you just haven't seen me do it in the 6 months that you've been here. Rude!

One of my friends in her fifties said I was very lucky I had lost my dad when I was 10 because I wouldn't have to go through it when I was older like her. It would be so much worse for her.

What a dreadful thing to say. My father died a few years ago when I was in my fifties and, of course, I grieved and miss him but there is no comparison with someone losing their father as a child. It is far, far worse for a child or teenager than it is for an adult who has been lucky enough to have their parents for much longer.

I was asked for ID buying booze in the local Tesco a couple of years ago. I'm over 40 and might look a bit younger than my age but certainly not under 25! I showed the cashier my driving licence and she said "well it's your own fault for dressing like a teeny bopper"! It was a boiling hot day and I was wearing standard shorts, vest top and sandals. Teeny bopper indeed!

I gave up my (normal, not accessible) seat to an old woman on a packed bus "You should be at work anyway, get a job"
I was on my way to a backshift.

Worst rudeness ive ever witnessed was in middle school. My friend had cancer and had her arm amputated. When she got back to school ONE OF THE TEACHERS said "Well, thats one way to lose weight!"
I got a month of detention for loudly calling him a prick.
Has to be 30+ years ago and I still remember it.
She died not long after that.

Years ago my then partner's son sexually assaulted my toddler. I'd spent all day in a state of shellshock at the police station and finally broke down on the phone to my sister. She said "I guess you have to look for the silver linings. You'll drop a lot of weight from the stress."

@Violinist64 thank you. I was so angry and upset I didn't speak to her for a while after. At the time I did say how lucky that he never saw me grow up, walk me down the aisle or meet my children. And my mum was without a husband.