To not travel around on busses 5 days post section with baby?

[TrappedWindArse]

I had a section Tuesday morning and have not long arrived home with baby (see previous post about being stuck on the postnatal ward after a hemmorage, no sleep, annoying visitors - yay)

Midwife came round yesterday to check in with us and said I have to take baby into the nearest clinic tomorrow (Sunday) for my day 5 post birth check, to weigh baby and remove my dressing.

The problem is it's 3.5 miles away and I don't drive. I'm exhausted, anaemic and still not able to walk very far. I'd need to use public transport and to be completely honest I'm just not up to going anywhere yet let alone miles away with baby in a sling.

I remember these checks being done at home with my other children but apparently that has changed. Possibly because it falls on a Sunday? I don't know.

Anyway, WIBU to say I'm sorry i just can't do that and ask for somebody to come to us instead? I know the midwives are very over stretched at the minute but I genuinely feel it will hinder my already slow recovery.

Will that go against me somehow and make me look negligent for not complying?

I'm a bit stressed.

@Anoisagusaris I hope this is an exaggeration. You didn’t go downstairs for 5 days???

@RussianSpy101 well done you. I hope you feel immensely proud of what you achieved.

The OP is talking about day 5, further than two miles, but let’s not let that get in the way of you having your spiteful little boast, shall we?

Please don't go on the bus. Explain to the midwife that it simply isn't possible. You will be 5 days after massive surgery, it isn't appropriate for you to struggle on buses and I can understand that taxis are expensive.

There's no way I could have done that 5 days post my c-section!

I honestly think some people forget that a c-section is major surgery and then you have a newborn as well!

Wow have they really stopped doing visits? They came to my house to do this too with both mine.
I couldn't manage a bus 5 days after my section I was like a zombie and I walked like one too 😩

@WheelieBinPrincess yes, please don’t ruin it for me dear. That’s exactly what I was trying to do.

Tell her you need a home visit you are still recovering. I went out 2 weeks after a emergency c-Ssection and to this day don’t know how I got back! Don’t do it

How did you get home from yours, @RussianSpy101? I expect you jogged home pushing the buggy a couple of hours later 😂

@WheelieBinPrincess we took our private jet

@TrappedWindArse try peppermint tea for the trapped wind

This is absolutely shocking. At my day 5 home visit last week the midwife was telling me I still shouldn’t be doing anything more strenuous than lifting the baby or a cup of tea! It would have been unthinkable for me to have gone anywhere on a bus - the short car journey home from hospital the day before in our comfortable car, with my DH studiously avoiding the potholes and slowing right down for speed bumps, was bad enough.

The one thing she did suggest at that visit was that I jump in the shower and remove the wound dressing myself, then she checked it after. I’m not sure if you’d be comfortable doing that and having a look at it yourself (I still haven’t looked at mine over two weeks post section, it’s just too gory for me to think about, although on all of the home visits they’ve said it looks ‘perfect’!) but if you’re less squeamish than me about that type of thing and the wound feels okay then it might be a last resort option if you really can’t get seen properly by a midwife.

Had similar a few years ago, went 3 days post birth then said i wont be doing that again as i was exhausted, even with DH driving me. Midwife got shirty and said they couldnt give me a time if they had to home, well i didnt care as i was going to be home anyway. So OP give them a call anfd tell them they re going to have to come to you.
Ridicolous, no other post major operation would be asked to take themselves to the hospital after a couple of days.

Even if you can drive wasn't the advice that you were not supposed to until 6 weeks?

I would just ask for a home visit. I had my baby 10 days ago and all of my midwife visits have been at home. So maybe if you explain they’ll be understanding and come to you. I didn’t even have a section either

@PinkiOcelot

They can’t expect you to travel on public transport 5 days post caesarean miles away. Fair enough if you could drive, but no.

You're not allowed to drive for weeks after a section

Play the "covid risk" card.

"Sorry MW but I don't feel comfortable taking my 5 day old baby on a bus and putting both baby and me at risk of infection. I'm sure you understand so if you could arrange a home visit I'd be grateful"

@RussianSpy101

I do wonder how people manage to get home from the hospital whilst being oh so precious about the fact they’ve had a c section. Something many women have.

They probably get driven or a taxi.

I'm guessing you walked the 8 miles home,over hills, and waded through rivers after yours...?

Just say no. You putting yourself first is consequently putting your baby first.

Wow. Things have really changed. My youngest is 12 but I only had home visits under the midwife and then once the health visitor had visited at 10 days it moved onto the clinic weigh ins. I wouldn't expect to be having check ups away from home so soon after a C section unless it was for concerns with the healing process and a trip to hospital. Even then it would have been a home GP check first.

@RussianSpy101

I don’t see why you can’t? I walked to my 10 day appointment with my 2 older DC post c section. It was about 2 miles. Take the pram and walk it.

Lightweight. I was back in the fields picking turnips an hour after mine.

Congrats OP. Where I am you could request Non Emergency Patient Transport, and there are lots of hospital volunteer drivers too, so this might be worth exploring with your MW? Good luck.

There is no way I could have walked to the end of the road to catch the bus after 5 days. It was agony. You'll have to get a taxi or ask them to come to you.

trapped pah, i was pulling up onions WHILST giving birth 😂

Most hospitals have a volunteer patient transport service