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To think this is rude and bin it?

240 replies

JakeyRolling · 30/10/2021 10:08

We bought out house four years ago.

Old owners were cheapskates and refused to set up a mail redirect so we had their number and for a couple of years (far too long imho) they would come and collect mail when we said we had some for them.

We had no mail for over a year so deleted their number (we've never known their new address).

Today we got a (what feels like) a card through the door with a handwritten note on the back effectively demanding we forward it as sender has lost their number/new address.

The sender fully acknowledges that they know the recipient no longer lives here, so it's been sent in the expectation that we will do the final legwork.

There's also no return address on the envelope so we can't even stick it back in the post box (which involves a trek into town).

Aibu to think sender is a CF and just bin the bloody card?

OP posts:
LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 19:37

[quote Hertsgirl10]@LittleDandelionClock

Are you ok to think that every man would think like all the females on MN? Considering it’s mostly females on here being ermmm not so kind? I’m not saying yea be kind am? I said it would of taken less time and effort to do a quick search than to do this post and stay stressing about the issue.[/quote]
Eh? Confused

Tilltheend99 · 31/10/2021 19:37

Personally I think the people on here who have never given a single thought towards another human being in their life are the real saddos.

It doesn’t make you a girl boss or whatever, Just a bit tragic,

LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 19:42

@Tilltheend99

Personally I think the people on here who have never given a single thought towards another human being in their life are the real saddos.

It doesn’t make you a girl boss or whatever, Just a bit tragic,

Awwww, bless. Smile Are you one of the KIND ones, and not a nasty old meanie like some on here???

Better to be a saddo than a mug running around after randoms we don't even know, and will never meet, and who could not be fucked to give out their new address before moving. If the people who moved didn't give their new address to someone, then they obviously didn't want to maintain contact, so why the F should I - or anyone else - waste precious time chasing people who want no contact?

LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 19:43

And I am not a GIRL, I am a WOMAN. I am not fucking 14. Hmm

Regularsizedrudy · 31/10/2021 19:47

@Calmdown14

It's not a bit of junk mail. Someone has gone to effort to contact them for whatever reason. Could be to inform them of a death. If you have the previous occupants number, would it really be such a hardship to text them and say 'there is a handwritten card here for you, I will leave it on the doorstep/ round the side in a tupperware box til Wednesday'. Presumably you get very little for them any more so it's hardly opening the floodgates. The sender has clearly done this because they have no other way of contacting and I would assume there is therefore some significance to this attempt to get in touch. I'd hope someone might do it for me in the same circumstances. Or shove it in post without a stamp to their new address and they can pay to get at sorting office. Honestly, it's taken you more effort to write this post than either of the above
Op already said they no longer have the number. Everything else you’ve listed is not OPs problem
ChimChimeny · 31/10/2021 19:49

I definitely think you should open it after it's 1 month holding period, there might be cash in it!

FluffyBooBoo · 31/10/2021 20:10

Because it takes effort to put in back in the post. I'd need to go into town, which is not something I do very often

Do you never see your postie? If you do, you could just hand it to them and explain you don't have the address to forward it on.

Hertsgirl10 · 31/10/2021 20:15

The fact that people are belittling kind people says a lot. And that only a female can be kind and a mug cos all men would be nasty and throw it away in spite… it kinda shows what kind of people you are but hey you look really witty and cool on the internet, go you.

Is it a slow night on tattle tonight ladies?

Ooh and being Kind isn’t something to be ashamed of, try it.

limitedperiodonly · 31/10/2021 20:15

@LittleDandelionClock

And I am not a GIRL, I am a WOMAN. I am not fucking 14. Hmm
Cos I'm a Woman double-U O Emm A - Enn.

Sorry, my pelvic floor just gave way. Grin

Hertsgirl10 · 31/10/2021 20:17

@LittleDandelionClock

And I am not a GIRL, I am a WOMAN. I am not fucking 14. Hmm
@LittleDandelionClock

Sorry it is quite hard to tell that you’re not 14 😊

SpookyPumpkinPants · 31/10/2021 20:18

[quote LittleDandelionClock]@SpookyPumpkinPants

I'd open it, see if their address is in there & see if it's important. If it is I'd do what I could to get it forwarded to them (via solicitors) if not I'd keep I for a while to see if the old owners turn up after Christmas to see if there was any Mail. If they do, I'd get their new address to forward anything onto.

PMSL, funny! Grin As if anyone would do that![/quote]
@LittleDandelionClock

Don't call me a liar.

I have done that, it wasn't impirtsnt mail so no solicitor required, but had it been I'd have asked my solicitor to forward it on to their solicitor. It's really not a big deal.

Just because you wouldn't do something doesn't mean others wouldn't so don't go around accusing people of lying just because YOU wouldn't bother your arse to do something!!

HeadPain · 31/10/2021 20:18

I would forward it on if I knew how to

clarehhh · 31/10/2021 20:19

Royal Mail no longer do redirect unless you pay. Can’t just cross out and put new address any more. Put back in box as not known at this address.

HeadPain · 31/10/2021 20:21

But also make sure the recipient gives the new address so I receive no more

SpookyPumpkinPants · 31/10/2021 20:24

@LittleDandelionClock

And I am not a GIRL, I am a WOMAN. I am not fucking 14. Hmm
Try acting like it then
LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 20:25

@SpookyPumpkinPants

OMG you were being SERIOUS?! You DO do all that for some randoms you don't know. #awkward

@Hertsgirl10

Sorry it is quite hard to tell that you’re not 14... 😊

Hard to beat that one to be fair. 😂 You win this battle. BUT I SHALL WIN THE WAR! Grin

AutumnTreesBloom · 31/10/2021 20:27

Thats just odd anyway. Surely if they were friends they'd know their new address or at least their phone number to contact them and ask for their address. Maybe the ones who used to live there doesn't want them having their address.

LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 20:28

@SpookyPumpkinPants

Try acting like it then Hmm

Ooooh, shots fired! Shock Some random nobody who I have never met and never WILL meet, insulted me on the internet and gave me a 'cross and angry' emoji.

How will I sleep tonight?! 😭 #distraught

Tiredalwaystired · 31/10/2021 20:28

Would it be worth opening it first to see if it’s important? I know we once had one sent to our house to let us know someone had passed away several years after we had moved - it was passed onto us kindly by the newer owners.

LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 20:29

@SpookyPumpkinPants

Oh wait, no you DIDN'T give me a cross and angry emoji! My mistake.

Awww, I feel a bit better now. I was proper upset when i thought you were really mad at me. Smile

saraclara · 31/10/2021 20:39

@MargaretThursday

I don't think that's cheeky from the card sender particularly. By this point there wouldn't be post forwarding so that's a bit irrelevant to them. They're asking, and obviously don't know that you don't have the address, so it's probably a last ditch attempt to contact them having tried other methods.

I'd pop it back in the post box saying return to sender-as we do if we get anything for the previous occupants. We've lived here 12 years now and still get stuff.

The previous occupants may well have been CF, but I don't think the senders of the card are.
After all, if you had the address, then it would have taken less time to put the new address on and pop it in the postbox next time you go there, than it took to start this thread.

Exactly. I don't get why you're angry with the sender, OP. It's the previous occupants who were CFs. The sender clearly just thought it was worth a try, everything else having failed. Presumably back in the day, the previous occupants told them that you were forwarding mail. The sender would have taken them at their word, oblivious to how you felt about it.

effectively demanding we forward it

How did they 'effectively demand'? Or do you meant they just asked?

Hertsgirl10 · 31/10/2021 20:40

[quote LittleDandelionClock]@SpookyPumpkinPants

OMG you were being SERIOUS?! You DO do all that for some randoms you don't know. #awkward

@Hertsgirl10

Sorry it is quite hard to tell that you’re not 14... 😊

Hard to beat that one to be fair. 😂 You win this battle. BUT I SHALL WIN THE WAR! Grin[/quote]
@LittleDandelionClock

I have no doubt that you will 😆
Happy Halloween

niugboo · 31/10/2021 20:46

If it was me I would forward on with a very clear note included you won’t be doing it going forward.

LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 20:59

@niugboo

If it was me I would forward on with a very clear note included you won’t be doing it going forward.
Good idea.
LittleDandelionClock · 31/10/2021 21:00

@Hertsgirl10

Happy Halloween to you too Smile No hard feelings! I know I'm a ranty gobshite sometimes.

Same message to you @SpookyPumpkinPants (though you're probably gonna just tell me to fuck off. Grin )

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