Do you view someone differently if they swear?

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I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

I absolutely hate swearing, apart from mild words. I absolutely cringe when I hear people speaking and every other word begins with 'f'. It is completely unnecessary and just a symbol of the laziness of people these days. There are many, many words which can express annoyance, irritation, boredom, etc. - 'f' this and 'c' that is awful. I never swear in front of people. even though I might think it!

I love a good swear, I really do.

@Onairjunkie

I love a good swear, I really do.

Me fucking too.

It makes me like people more TBH

Depends how often really. Most people swear a bit but if someone was swearing multiple times in every sentence I would find it a bit off putting. I'd wonder why they don't have better ways to express themselves.

I always swear and never think anything of other people who swear. I blame my swearing habits on working in retail😂 life as management was so stressful all we did was swear!

However I do look at people sideways who swear at or in front of children.
Like for example I was on the bus home today and this woman was with her kids that were no older than 4/5/6. She had the youngest on her lap who was asking to play on her phone. The child was really aggressive and had no manners and the mum replied, 'shut up shut up shut the fuck up.'
I couldn't believe it but made sense where the child got their bad manners from!

Only if it's in a very inappropriate setting like a business meeting with a new client or your childs parents evening. I worked as a Director's EA in Construction which is very sweary & also automotive design which is very sweary but it was never , ever in client meetings. Socially I'm fine unless it's the C word. No swearing at all or making a big deal about it is ...a bit prissy . It's not a class thing , I've worked for 'old money' people & they get very sweary when it's all gone pear shaped too .

No swearing at all or making a big deal about it is ...a bit prissy .

Why is no swearing at all prissy? I don't swear (as a general rule, though there are exceptions) because I have autism and doing so in front of other people makes me uncomfortable.

are you for real OP. You sound fucking dull

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

Same.

I would probably laugh at anyone that asked me to not swear and I’d definitely not spend any more time than absolutely necessary with them.

Not a fucking chance

I work in construction so no. I’d find it weird if they didn’t.

@drpet49

I can’t stand people who are incapable of constructing a sentence without a swear word. Vile.

And I bloody hate the word 'vile' It's so overused. You do you. As they say.

@AutumnAlmanack tell me a word to replace fuck or cunt when you are beyond angry? My English teacher once told me that they are strong swear words because of their sounds. Very harsh sounding and you can get behind it. Fudge doesn't quite cut it, I've tried to find alternatives but nothing else will do.

So you've stubbed your toe on domething your other half left on the toilet floor, in that initial monrnt of white hot pain you drop your phone down the toilet in the middle of a super important text - are you really just going uo say oh deary me??

Saying that my DD (16) never swears and tells me off but she often says she can't be arsed with something and can't understand why I laugh at her

"You do you" I really fucking hate that

The c word is a great word. No idea why it's seen as so offensive.

In my experience, the people who go around judging the people who swear are generally less educated and reasonable than the people doing the swearing. Where I work people swear a lot - all have higher degrees, are middle class and are decent hardworking people to boot.

I admit that swearing in the absence of a wider vocabulary does grate, but judging people for not having 'as many words' as you do is just pretentious and usually obnoxious. So no. I try not to. If I did it would say more about me than them.

Here’s my favourite swearing:

“That fucking fucker’s fucking fucked”.

Concise, expressive, and conveys meaning perfectly.

Posh people swear loads I find

yes.
I immediately warm to the fuckers

Not swearing = fine
Not being a fan of swearing = also fine
Pulling another adult up on swearing = prissy

And I'm perfectly capable of constructing a sentence without using a swear word, thanks, but sometimes I chose not to.

Some of the most intelligent, brilliant people I know swear like sailors. Some don’t. It makes absolutely no difference. It is possible to swear without being offensive or aggressive.
HOW people swear is a reflection of their personality and attitude, not the words themselves.

I find it ofdly appealibg at my old law firm the person who swore the most was one of the equity partners who came from old money and was the definition of "posh"! It was such a contrast to his personality it was really amusing.

oddly appealing*

Swear a lot and so do all my friends. We are early 30s.... not sure if it's maybe more common in my generation? It's used for emphasis, humour or to portray real anger. We're all in professional roles and most people I work with also swear quite a lot (probs the stressful environment!).

Anyway... I'm standing with those who judge others that judge swearing! I don't care one bit if you don't tend to swear - but please don't make assumptions and judgements just because I do. It's just words.