Do you view someone differently if they swear?

[Speckledhem]

I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

@Cryalot2

I rarely swear nor does anyone I mix with. If someone swears in my company I will pull them up and ask them to not use such foul language for which there is no excuse.

I think I’d probably piss myself laughing if you ‘pulled me up’ for swearing. I’d then tell you very succinctly where to go, and what to do when you got there.

I agree that slurs are obviously offensive but I also find it very offensive to use swear words relating to female body parts (ie c word), it reinforces a misogynistic culture IMO

Cunt and indeed twat are just the same as dickhead, bollocks, cock and prick in my book. Let's be egalitarian about this.

When learning a new language I like to learn swear words early on.
I can now swear in 7 languages (few words only in most, inspired lengthy rants in 2).

Spanish swearing is the best

@TheBlackArt

That’s funny, most of the people I know who swear have PhDs, are professors and work as lecturers, some of them are internationally renowned experts in their field. Hardly uneducated 😂

One of my favourite lecturers at uni used to swear sometimes in our lectures if she cocked something up; she was a fabulous woman.

So uneducated!!

Good job completely misrepresenting what I said. Didn't think it was that challenging to read a few lines of text.

There's a massive difference between an 'oh, bollocks' from someone who has dropped something or the occasional swear word when telling a funny story and someone who can't get a sentence out without effing and blinding. I have never, ever met anyone with a PhD who did that, and as I used to work at a university, I've met a lot of them.

I'd give people who were offended by casual swearing (or "foul language" 🤣) a very, very wide berth. I don't do fun suckers. Who the fuck do people think they are telling of grown adults like they're children?!

Yes, I like a bit of swearing as I’m foul mouthed myself

@RobertaFirmino

I agree that slurs are obviously offensive but I also find it very offensive to use swear words relating to female body parts (ie c word), it reinforces a misogynistic culture IMO

Cunt and indeed twat are just the same as dickhead, bollocks, cock and prick in my book. Let's be egalitarian about this.

Except it's not remotely the same, is it, given that women have been subjugated for centuries?

@YourFinestPantaloons

I'd give people who were offended by casual swearing (or "foul language" 🤣) a very, very wide berth. I don't do fun suckers. Who the fuck do people think they are telling of grown adults like they're children?!

MIL is just like that. Drives me fucking mad.

I don't judge for swearing but I feel like it's something I should try to stop doing myself.

I judge people who are very against swearing and clutch their pearls at it. My partners mum is like this.
She really judges people for swearing. I don't swear a lot unless I'm with company that also does, but I know she judges me because I swear at all, and i find that ridiculous.

It’s not a term of abuse in our circles. It’s used as a term of endearment

Oh yes, that chestnut again. There are about three people in Glasgow who use it as a term of endearment, so that apparently makes it acceptable.

It is not. And never has been. And never will be. I assume you don't use the n or p words as terms of endearment? So don't use the c word either.

Don't you want to reclaim the C word. If more women used it I suspect it would lose its power.
This may be of interest to some of you.
www.sciencealert.com/swearing-is-a-sign-of-more-intelligence-not-less-say-scientists

Bollocks - the swearing neds that hang about the shopping centres or parks here don’t exhibit any form of intelligence beyond pond life level.

You don’t like swearing so how about YOU don’t swear. There you go, problem solved.

I’m very sweary. So is everyone I know. I try very, very, hard not to swear near DD. But I am very liberal with Fuck especially.

I’m in very middle class circles, affluent rural/farming/hunting. I think it’s just how we speak.

@CecilieRose I don't believe you move in "educated circles" and don't hear A LOT of swearing. I'm also a university lecturer and have worked in law firms for 15 years. Everybody swears!

Oh, and my father who has. PhD and is one of the most educated and well-read people I know - swears like a trooper

@Megan2018

I’m very sweary. So is everyone I know. I try very, very, hard not to swear near DD. But I am very liberal with Fuck especially.

I’m in very middle class circles, affluent rural/farming/hunting. I think it’s just how we speak.

This always interests me, I'm not 'class obsessed'or anything but my partners family are very working class in all essence, TOTALLY different upbringing to me, like a different culture. Her Mother looks down on 'swearers' as 'It's common'....

My family, I wouldn't say middle class but much more so than hers, all swear like troopers.

@XelaM I can't believe you don't understand the difference between swearing and not being able to say a single sentence that isn't peppered with the F word.

Loads of my extremely educated friends say "what the fuck?", "I can't fucking believe him", etc. Fine - it's used for emphasis. They do not insert the F word absolutely everywhere for no reason like some people do. "I fucking told her to fucking stop fucking talking so much and she never fucking listens to me" - if everything that comes out of someone's mouth is like that, to me it's a sign of very low intelligence and poor manners. It sounds aggressive and extremely unpleasant.

I’m in very middle class circles, affluent rural/farming/hunting

There's nothing 'classy' about hunting...

Good job completely misrepresenting what I said. Didn't think it was that challenging to read a few lines of text.

There's a massive difference between an 'oh, bollocks' from someone who has dropped something or the occasional swear word when telling a funny story and someone who can't get a sentence out without effing and blinding. I have never, ever met anyone with a PhD who did that, and as I used to work at a university, I've met a lot of them.

Bless you, nice attempt at passive aggression but that only works if you’re actually in the right.

I’m not talking about occasional expletives, I’m talking every other word, genuinely loving swearing, including the C word. And yes, it’s a lot of them. And yes I work at a university too.

Perhaps they just didn’t do it in front of you because they know you don’t like swearing?

@berlinbabylon

It’s not a term of abuse in our circles. It’s used as a term of endearment

Oh yes, that chestnut again. There are about three people in Glasgow who use it as a term of endearment, so that apparently makes it acceptable.

It is not. And never has been. And never will be. I assume you don't use the n or p words as terms of endearment? So don't use the c word either.

Are you alright?

I’m nowhere near Glasgow and have never even been.

Cunt is no different from dick, cock, arsehole or twat and you don’t get to police the way that other people use language.

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

Me too!

@ineedsun

Good job completely misrepresenting what I said. Didn't think it was that challenging to read a few lines of text.

There's a massive difference between an 'oh, bollocks' from someone who has dropped something or the occasional swear word when telling a funny story and someone who can't get a sentence out without effing and blinding. I have never, ever met anyone with a PhD who did that, and as I used to work at a university, I've met a lot of them.

Bless you, nice attempt at passive aggression but that only works if you’re actually in the right.

I’m not talking about occasional expletives, I’m talking every other word, genuinely loving swearing, including the C word. And yes, it’s a lot of them. And yes I work at a university too.

Perhaps they just didn’t do it in front of you because they know you don’t like swearing?

I simply don't believe you. I have never in my life met an educated person who did that. It's really loutish.

I don't mind swearing. I swear myself quite a bit. I'd just never say 'For fucks sake, I need to get the fucking bag out of the fucking car' and have every sentence out of my mouth be something like that.

I swear loads although I will be more careful in public places especially if there are young children around as I would hate for them to get into trouble at school for repeating something I said.

I tend to use common, maybe less sweary swear words but I don't object to cunt, in fact I find it really irritating that dick or cock is seen as okay but cunt is oh so terrible.

I also started swearing more when I found certain men would get terribly po faced about it, even though they swore themselves, because we women are supposed to be too ladylike to do that. I hate double standards so I will happily swear to people like that

never ever in front of my parents or in laws though they would hate it so I wont (interestingly both sets have moved from working class to middle class in their generation and I think have the tendency to overcompensate as a result about being proper and worrying about what people will think about them)