Do you view someone differently if they swear?

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I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

Along with others I like them more ...

@RobertaFirmino

Fuck, cunt, piss, shit etc. are not the most offensive words though. I reserve my judgement for those who use words like r*tard (outside the correct medical context), the 'n' word and other racist/disablist/sexist/homophobic slurs.

Those people can fuck right off, the cunts.

Yes, agree with this.

No but if I heard someone pulling someone up on swearing (if there were no kids nearby) then I’d think less of them for trying to control how others speak.

I'm absolutely sick of constant swearing in public places: in shops, in the park, on the bus/train, just walking around town, etc. I'm sick of people standing outside my front window to have a conversation in which every fourth word is an eff. I'm sick of peope shouting into their phones in general, but even more so when it's all swearing.

When was it that the British public reached the conculsion that everyone else wants to hear all their conversations and particularly wants them to be peppered with expletives?

As long as it’s not somewhere inappropriate (like at school pick up) I honestly don’t mind. I swear a bit.

@RobertaFirmino

Fuck, cunt, piss, shit etc. are not the most offensive words though. I reserve my judgement for those who use words like r*tard (outside the correct medical context), the 'n' word and other racist/disablist/sexist/homophobic slurs.

Those people can fuck right off, the cunts.

This! All of this!

@RobertaFirmino

Fuck, cunt, piss, shit etc. are not the most offensive words though. I reserve my judgement for those who use words like r*tard (outside the correct medical context), the 'n' word and other racist/disablist/sexist/homophobic slurs.

Those people can fuck right off, the cunts.

I agree that slurs are obviously offensive but I also find it very offensive to use swear words relating to female body parts (ie c word), it reinforces a misogynistic culture IMO.

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER

Not in general, unless it’s really excessive, but I do dislike the C word. Particularly when women who would probably call themselves feminists, use a word that means female genitalia, as a term of abuse. I will never understand that.

It’s not a term of abuse in our circles. It’s used as a term of endearment.

@WomanStanleyWoman

If they swear in an inappropriate setting then I’d view them as someone either with no filter, or with no awareness of social norms (an example would be swearing in a job interview or something).

I said ‘bollocking’ in a job interview once. As soon as it was out I thought ‘Did I really just say that in an interview?’, but I pressed on.

I got the job.

Bollocks isn't technically a swear word.

@CecilieRose

Yes. It makes me think they're uneducated, rude and boorish. I don't mean the odd swear word for emphasis when recounting a story or using them when you're really angry, I mean the people who can't say a full sentence without the f word in it. "I hardly had any fucking time to go to the fucking shop" sort of thing. People who use language like that in their everyday conversation immediately get filed into the 'not worth knowing' box in my brain. Sorry if that's snobby, but that's how I feel.

Is that you, Hyacinth Bucket?

@lawofdistraction

I prefer sweary people. I find they usually tend to be funnier and more interesting.

Yes we are... I mean don't get me wrong I don't f and blind all day

But I do tend to swear at the dishwasher or if some thing breaks 🤷🏼‍♀️ for fuck sakes is a bit of a go to here! As well as bloody hell, fucking twat and bloody Ada

I'm am a Londoner and swearing is a bit of a thing with us 😬

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER

Not in general, unless it’s really excessive, but I do dislike the C word. Particularly when women who would probably call themselves feminists, use a word that means female genitalia, as a term of abuse. I will never understand that.

Most swear words refer to sex or genitalia so I don’t see why cunt gets singled out as being “unfeminist”. I’m all for equal opportunities here

Is that you, Hyacinth Bucket?

I suspect it’s my work colleague who develops a face like a cat’s arse dipped in vinegar if anyone swears.

No issue with swearing as long as it comes with a filter for children/public places. Dp is in an entirely respectable job where he'd never swear, likewise at work people see me as someone who doesn't swear, and apologise if they do it in front of me (which secretly amuses me)

Behind closed doors or with friends we are entirely, creatively foul mouthed and I love it.

I report to the md and we have many a sweary chat in meeting rooms when people are being dicks. Again, people don't see that and I appreciate him being comfortable enough around me to do it.

I use swear words to my friends or DP and don't think anything of it. But like lots of pp have said, it's all about context. If I was in, say, a quiet waiting room with a bunch of strangers, and someone was swearing on the phone, or to the receptionist (even if not shouting), I'd feel a bit intimidated by them and slightly on edge. Probably because most people know not to do that, so I'd fear they were a bit erratic or irrational.

I can’t stand people who are incapable of constructing a sentence without a swear word. Vile.

I swear like s navvy, even at work I eff and Jeff all day long. I use the c word liberally. They are just words.

However I'm staring a new job in a couple of weeks so I need to tone it down. I honestly don't know how people get through the day 😱

Doesn't bother me at all, in the right context. Certainly wouldn't look down on someone for swearing.

@drpet49 it's people like you that do make me want to tone it down. I honestly don't give a monkey's what people think but I'd hate to offend someone because despite my fish wife's vocabulary I am a nice person, educated too.

[quote ThesecondLEM]@drpet49 it's people like you that do make me want to tone it down. I honestly don't give a monkey's what people think but I'd hate to offend someone because despite my fish wife's vocabulary I am a nice person, educated too.[/quote]
Fuck em

No problem unless they use the C bomb.

I don't mind swearing, but find it dull being part of a conversation with someone who is incapable of managing a few sentences without swearing. I don't find someone engaging to listen to if every other word is a swear word.

I don't swear lots but a few of my colleagues swear lots. They seem to think it's funny that I don't swear much, but it's not something I've given much thought to. None of my workplaces have been very sweary environments outside of close working relationships.

@SarahBellam

I fucking love swearing. You like to judge, so really me swearing makes us both happy.

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It depends. I hate it when people swear in general conversation in public because it’s pointless and can be hugely inappropriate, depending on who’s in earshot, but I don’t have a problem with it if it’s used in adult company to emphasise a point or in humour if the group knows there won’t be any offence taking.

Hate these SM videos of you g kids swearing while their parents laugh like hyenas as they film them. Grim.

I don't mind the some swear words and use them myself but not constant expletives. I really don't like the c word.