Do you view someone differently if they swear?

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I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

I love a swearer. My boss swears, but the previous one didn’t. Though, this boss seems more relaxed and he’ll say ‘do what you think is right’, hurrah! No more uptight boss! 🎉

I don't swear at people. I don't swear at work. I don't even swear as much verbally as I do on here.

So I don't really give a fuck what anybody else thinks of my calling the cat a Furry Wee Shite or saying something is utter bollocks instead of nonsense/balderdash/poppycock.

Judge away. Makes no difference to me.

Stop trying to bulldoze my point, which is that a lot of people who think they're nice and would never bully a disabled person actually do it all the time.

Given that you’ve specifically aimed a dig at me in this regard, I don’t think I’m ‘bulldozing’ at all. We all have the right to defend ourselves.

@Mollymalone123

😂 I don’t swear vehement children are around

@Mollymalone123

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I think vehement children are a solid reason to swear

[quote CecilieRose]@WomanStanleyWoman how is that relevant? I didn't say all autistic people have them, I said they're typical, because they are.

Stop trying to bulldoze my point, which is that a lot of people who think they're nice and would never bully a disabled person actually do it all the time. I used to get picked on constantly by a group of Mean Girls at a workplace for not being great with social cues or banter. This was absolutely to do with my autism, and was very much something I couldn't help. Most autistic people I know have been bullied and treated cruelly throughout their lives.[/quote]
No, they are not typical autistic traits. What you are saying is offensive - you don't speak for me or other people on the spectrum.

Depends on the reason for swearing but I do judge people who put them in their every day chat just for the sake of it. I don't swear often but will on occasion in circumstances that might warrant it. When I was growing up I wanted to be an author and someone said that people who swear have low vocabulary. That really stuck with me as a child and I never wanted to swear as I wanted to develop a good vocabulary so I could write. Funny how a throw away comment can really influence a child.

Swearing often sounds hard-nosed, insensitive and aggressive to me, or oddly faux-tough if done self-consciously by someone rather middle class. It makes me feel uncomfortable and think of school bullies, aggressive adults, thugs and people who are desperate to look cool and 'edgy'. I rarely swear but probably sound ridiculous anyway due to being a quieter type. I've got used to people assuming I must be boring (I don't like the taste of alcohol either, shock horror!) While I have no interest in being the word police IRL, secretly I'd be happy if swearing was less used.

@Tumbleweed101
Subsequent research has shown the opposite to be true. Fluency in swearing and fluency with language are positively correlated.

Yeah - the sweary neds round this way are we’ll know for being expert linguists. I presume this research didn’t show that particular correlation?

@missbunnyrabbit

Honestly, as soon as someone swears I think less of them.

Me too.

As soon as someone doesn’t swear l think less of them.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

As soon as someone doesn’t swear l think less of them.

Me too

I think a lot of problem who never swear, never, are repressed.

*people

I swear quite a bit! I'm quite nice! I don't mean anything by it! I'd never swear AT someone. Just things like 'oh crap' if I drop something or 'shit' if something bad happens.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

As soon as someone doesn’t swear l think less of them.

They say hello and it all goes downhill from there?

As long as they’re not swearing at children, or adults for that matter, I don’t mind it in context.
I don’t like listening to it in normal conversation when every other word is fucking just for the sake of it.

For me, the perfect ratio is someone who swears just often enough that it shocks you a little when they do.

I can't help but think the whole point of a good 'curse word' is to add a pop of extra impact/emphasis, which is definitely lost when it's every other sentence.

I don't look down on anyone for it though. I think it is largely a cultural/family byproduct and less often an individual conscious choice.

@PatriciaBateman

For me, the perfect ratio is someone who swears just often enough that it shocks you a little when they do.

I can't help but think the whole point of a good 'curse word' is to add a pop of extra impact/emphasis, which is definitely lost when it's every other sentence.

I don't look down on anyone for it though. I think it is largely a cultural/family byproduct and less often an individual conscious choice.

I dunno, when Samuel L Jackson says mothafucka it's impactful every single time, the more frequent the better🤣

You should all watch "The history of swearing" on Netflix.
It's good.

Yes. I would like them MORE.

Can you imagine the Thick of It without the swearing?

Yes I prefer it.
I cannot stand people who are "offended" by swearing.
Go and be offended by kids starving in third world countries or the amount of peadophilia in the Catholic Church. There's a lot worse out there to be offended by than the occasional "twat"

@MissCrowley

Yes I prefer it. I cannot stand people who are "offended" by swearing. Go and be offended by kids starving in third world countries or the amount of peadophilia in the Catholic Church. There's a lot worse out there to be offended by than the occasional "twat"

Do you honestly think that people who are offended by swearing aren’t also offended by those things?

I cannot stand people who are "offended" by swearing.

You can't stand people just because their view on this one subject is different to your own? Not the most tolerant approach. I find some swearing offensive but I'm still good friends with some people who swear, some who don't.