To not be able to cope with this?

[saveusernamee]

Newborn baby that just cries, all the time, I mean literally from the minute it opens it’s eyes from a nap/sleep to the second it goes back. It sleeps great to be fair but I am definitely struggling to bond, so is DH, we just can’t face looking after a tiny ball of rage anymore.

Toddler that screams and throws anything/everything. Climbs everything. Tries to hurt newborn every second of the day.

Tonight toddler cried from getting out of the bath to going to sleep so just shy of an hour (been whining since about 3) and baby cried from 6:30 - just now as I write this. Nothing would console either of them. What the fuck are we meant to do? Just live with this chorus of tears? It’s absolute hell.

In the end I just ended up crying the whole time the baby did and saying I can’t do this anymore, not that that means anything.. there’s nowhere to go, this is our life now. DH is on antidepressants and waiting CBT. I called the GP but didn’t see the point so didn’t go to my appointment. Everyone tells us it’s normal and not to wish the time away…. are they even serious? Have they not seen how bad life is?

[Bonheurdupasse]

@simitra

If baby has been fed, changed and does not NEED anything place in another room, close door, insert ear plugs and put on loud music.

OP

This.

Get earplugs.

[namechangecovidquery]

@simitra @Bonheurdupasse That is terrible advice! Loud music and earplugs- totally unnecessary. OP also has a toddler and that is unacceptable behaviour to model.

OP I agree with other PP to push for another check up on their legs. Something may show up now and if not it’s peace of mind for you and one thing to check of the list.

Also as I said previously spend as much time outdoors as possible. If you are feeling low staying in and avoiding the world only makes it harder to eventually get back out in it. It’s also good exercise for your toddler and the fresh air will do you all the world of good.

It would also be worth exploring AD. I know it seems like a long time for them to quick in buy that time will pass anyway and in a few weeks time you could feel a lot more able to cope.

[anon5678]

Hey OP, it's been some months now, how are things? Are you all ok? Sending my love

[mycatisannoying]

It's fucking shit. Brutal. At least in prison you'd get a break! But it does get better

[Letsbekindplease]

If it helps im in this stage and it is fucking hell at times.
just powering through best I can. You’re doing a great job. It will get better
not sure if you’ve tried this but this helped my colocy baby infacol, leg exercises , and made bottles from a boiling kettle rather than the prefect prep machine. Also using a better milk. (Kendamil). Baby still has a cry at bed time sometimes for a good hour. Tonight she didn’t fall asleep till half 10. I’m exhausted. This heat doesn’t bloody help

Hang in there.

[Bonheurdupasse]

@simitra

If baby has been fed, changed and does not NEED anything place in another room, close door, insert ear plugs and put on loud music.

This OP.

[Rowen32]

Could he be in physical pain? From his position in the womb? And that's why his legs are like that. He might be crying because he's so uncomfortable?