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Original poster

to be annoyed DH is going on a stag weekend to Amsterdam?

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JinglyJangly · 10/12/2007 18:57

DH is going on a stag weekend after Christmas to Amsterdam and too be honest, I am not too happy about it. I have heard what really goes on and why men go there, i.e. sex shops, brothels, live sex shows etc.

The blokes he is going with are a bunch of knobs. I have heard the majority of them frequent these types of places (only from what DH has said).

DH went on a stag weekend to Edinburgh a few years back and the guy who's stag party it was, was well up for visiting a brothel and guess what? he is going on the stag weekend to Amsterdam .

AIBU to be annoyed about him going? I am feeling a bit down in the dumps today and keep thinking all sorts about what they will get up too.

Whatever happened to guys going for a few beers at the local? It seems the norm for stag weekends to be held abroad nowadays. WHY is that?

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StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:47

Desperately sad

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:48

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CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 21:48

Not offensive at all. I am just trying to find out if Star can really tell her daughters everything in her intimate life with her Dh. She claimed she can.

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:50

I said the complete opposite

I deny everything

Case rests

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:51

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CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 21:52

Star - You are not a lawyer, you don't have a case, and even if you did, it is not resting on anything. Wake up. And answer my question please.

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:53

No

Elizabetth · 12/12/2007 21:53

What goes on between parents in private is quite different from Daddy popping off to Amsterdam with his pals to use strippers, lapdancers or prostitutes. The latter is commercial sex and is a public transaction.

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:55

Its like explaining to simpletons isn;t it Elizabett

(apologies to simpletons)

QuintessentialShadowOfSnowball · 12/12/2007 21:55

Oh F**ck did this derail...

MotherFunk is speaking a lot of sense here.

I dont see why any adult should talk to their children about sex, other than from the perspective of the child/teenager and their experiences.

Why should any child or young person know whether dad goes to lapdancing clubs, or their parents are swingers, or mum likes a woman on the side, it really is not for the child to be included or informed about that part of adult life.

I dont see why MF is getting stick for having the opinon that she cannot refuse her grown up son to go to lapdancing club. Why should any adult tell another what he can or cannot do? It is different to explain why something is inadvisable, though.

I would not hesitate to send my partner on a stag weekend to Amsterdam, Munich, Singapore, or anywhere, because I trust him. I love him and I trust him and I know deep inside he just wouldnt do anything. But if he does, he should be damned careful and not EVER tell me about it, but carry it with him as it is private. So what if he ogles a great looking woman? It doesnt threaten me at all.

The porn debate I am not touching with a barge pole.

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:55

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JinglyJangly · 12/12/2007 21:56

I am shocked that CoteDAzur can post this "Did you ever gave Dh a blowjob? And would you really explain to your daughters how you have a habit of sucking their dad's penis until he squirts a white goo?" and not get it deleted by MN HQ - but last night I told someone in a polite manner they were a bully & had that thread deleted .

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CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 21:57

My post is not to you, Elizabeth. It is to Star, who claimed we shouldn't be doing anything that we would not want to discuss with our daughters.

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 21:57

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StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:58

Contributing to the sexploitation, not good

Contributing to bad examples to your chuildren, not good

Of course not discussing your sex life with your children , what a stupid idea

MerryPIFFLEmas · 12/12/2007 21:58

and neither of which I'd discuss in any detail with my children Elizabetth.

This thread is not about the exploitation of women in the industry by the by. Despite its potential relevance or not to Amsterdams sex industry.
it's about one woman not trusting her husband

If I did not trust my DH to go to Amsterdam I'd not trust him to go the corner shop or to the local for a few beers.
Speaks volumes

CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 21:59

JJ - Why are you shocked by the blowjob question?

Did it "touch a nerve"?

MerryPIFFLEmas · 12/12/2007 21:59

jingly
one was a personal attack
one was description of a sex act
ding dong

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 21:59

Ah back to the safe old chestnut of slagging off JJ

Case rests

mrsruffallo · 12/12/2007 21:59

I wouldn't ask my father if he has seen strippers/ been to a lap dancing club as I am not the least the bit interested in knowing and it is irrelevant to my relationship with him.

Original poster
JinglyJangly · 12/12/2007 22:00

Bloody hell do men go to Singapore on stag dos these days then? OMG, where do people get their cash from?

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Elizabetth · 12/12/2007 22:00

Still my post answered your point, CoteDazur. You can't compare parents' private sex lives to men's public use of sexually exploited women.

CoteDAzur · 12/12/2007 22:00

And on that note, I will be off to bed, where Dh is waiting for me, and we might do things that we would not tell our daughter. Shock, awe, horror!

StarofBethleCam · 12/12/2007 22:01

Course not mrs R but if he had he would carry around with him a lesser respect for women

MotherFunk · 12/12/2007 22:02

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