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Original poster

to be annoyed DH is going on a stag weekend to Amsterdam?

926 replies

JinglyJangly · 10/12/2007 18:57

DH is going on a stag weekend after Christmas to Amsterdam and too be honest, I am not too happy about it. I have heard what really goes on and why men go there, i.e. sex shops, brothels, live sex shows etc.

The blokes he is going with are a bunch of knobs. I have heard the majority of them frequent these types of places (only from what DH has said).

DH went on a stag weekend to Edinburgh a few years back and the guy who's stag party it was, was well up for visiting a brothel and guess what? he is going on the stag weekend to Amsterdam .

AIBU to be annoyed about him going? I am feeling a bit down in the dumps today and keep thinking all sorts about what they will get up too.

Whatever happened to guys going for a few beers at the local? It seems the norm for stag weekends to be held abroad nowadays. WHY is that?

OP posts:
Oblomov · 11/12/2007 20:31

I was very pleasant to bossy - have met her before and liked her posts so was astonished that she had missed the point.

Oblomov · 11/12/2007 20:32

Will someoen please stand up for me here - she accused me of being a bully at schhol.
I mean, come on.
I am contacting MN Towers, I don't need to put up with this.

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:33

PMSL

Oblomov · 11/12/2007 20:33

Er sorry, can someone help me complain about this thread.
I have been here for years, but never done this before.
And I have to admit that I don't know what to do or who I have to contact.

Original poster
JinglyJangly · 11/12/2007 20:34

I think you are a 'little bit' of a bully Oblovov.

OP posts:
HowTheGibbonStoleChristmas · 11/12/2007 20:35

Already have Oblomov

HowTheGibbonStoleChristmas · 11/12/2007 20:35

JJ you're out of line

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:36

ROFL

HowTheGibbonStoleChristmas · 11/12/2007 20:36

Does it help your own self doubt to dig at others JJ?

Oblomov · 11/12/2007 20:39

star of Bethlehem, are you laughing at soemmone caaling me a bully ?
Thank you Gibbon.
please someone explain to me how I get a thread delted.
PLEASE.

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:40

ROFL at the "My dh is considerably more trustworthy than yow's" brigade

c Harry Enfield

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:41

I am laughing at you Oblomov

You're very funny

HowTheGibbonStoleChristmas · 11/12/2007 20:42

Can only request it from MN Oblomov - please try not to let this get to you. People who have unhappiness in their own lives sometimes want to makes others unhappy.

Becthetinselneck · 11/12/2007 20:43

Nice to stand by sniggering at others being accused of bullying, Star. Have you got anything else to add or are you too busy rolling around on the floor and pissing yourself?

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:43

So true

Original poster
JinglyJangly · 11/12/2007 20:44

"I think one of the main factors of unfaithfulness is opportunity". by Elizabeth.

And I agree.

OP posts:
CoteDAzur · 11/12/2007 20:44

I have seen Oblomov on many other threads and she is in no way a 'bully'.

lizandlulu · 11/12/2007 20:46

jinglyjangly, thats what i wa trying to say, why put yourself in a postion when there is no need to.
anyway, this thread seems to have solved your question about being unreasonable, and moved on to another matter entirely.#i was ment to be going to bed half an hour ago, but cant move from the computer!

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:47

Too busy

Oblomov · 11/12/2007 20:47

I think you are being really nasty star- bethlehem.
What I was saying, wasn't funny, and I don't think its funny what JJ said to me about being a bully.
Thanks CoteD.

StarofBethleCam · 11/12/2007 20:48

Quick, JinglyJangly, escape while I've got the heat turned onto me

Becthetinselneck · 11/12/2007 20:48

I'll happily admit that I don't trust men at all but I'll also happily admit that it's purely because of my own bad experiences. I wouldn't automatically think that any relationship where there is complete trust is based on naivety and stupidity.

I'm envious of those relationships and hope that I will make better choices next time.

Original poster
JinglyJangly · 11/12/2007 20:48

Oblomov has apparantly just reported me, For what, I do no know.

Can I just say Oblomov is a weird name, yeah?

OP posts:
ExDhsNutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 11/12/2007 20:53

Tribpot is so right here - there is a lot of being distracted by lots of peripheral issues on this thread e.g. if Amsterdam has other merits beyond the red light district, if stag weekends and hens have got out of hand etc.

Surely the key issue is...

The OP's dh was going to go on a stag weekend somewhere renowned for sex shows and brothels (but granted which has lovely architecture etc) with a gang of lads who have a track record in visiting brothels.

  • should she be able to trust her dh to go and not join in with anything that crosses the line? Using hookers is crossing the line for all of us in our marriages presumably.
Whether going to strip clubs is crossing the line is debatable.
  • would she have been wise to try and stop him going?
  • is there something to worry about given the fact he has such dubious mates?

Frankly I think the fact he isn't fighting to go now suggests to me that he is a good chap and probably wouldn't have done anything anyway.

hmm not sure I've helped as think I've just rambled on.

SSStollenzeit · 11/12/2007 20:54

You're all just getting riled because you've been on the thread too long. It's an impasse and neither side is going to suddenly say, oh actually I think you ARE right now after all. Thing is to walk away from these threads at this point before you start feeling personally attacked but I know it's easier said than done.

Season of goodwill etc....