@BudgeSquare
I really think that the parents of a 'vulnerable' (in your words) 16yo who has SEN and is repeatedly violent and is now going to have a baby should be worrying about things other than her exact GCSE grades...
Yes OP.
It’s great that the school is willing to engage, and put forward more proposals. But will that really help things?
The way you’re going on about your god-daughter - Covid was a disruptive force resulting in her getting pregnant and everything falling apart, otherwise everything would have been fine and dandy.
Now she’s going to go through something even more disruptive - having a baby. And the main think you and her mother are concerned about are her results?
Are you sure negotiating as hard as possible with the grammar school to keep her in there is the best alternative? With her already being marked out as different and the rigid environment. No matter how much ‘support’ the school gives she will still be a fish out of water and you’ve already said she’s anxious about things like this.
If she goes to grammar school and gets excellent grades the next step is university. Which will be even more difficult if she wants to go to one befitting her academic capability rather than the one closest to home for the support. If she’s not mentally prepared it will be a big shock and cause worse damage to her mental health.
I have seen many, many students head off to university straight after sitting A-levels under traumatic circumstances. The ones who took advice deferred, many dropped out completely. University doesn’t have the structure of school and the need for socialising/building your own group etc was too hard for sole people.
Her mental health is paramount at this stage. Please keep this at the forefront.