He is sorting all childcare and all meals, whilst working FT as well as large amounts of overtime apparently (OP says his overtime payments are more than her total wage).
Which many many women also do and cook from scratch
If the sexes were reversed and the woman was feeding their dc cheap processed crap mostly yes i would (and have been on other threads) equally critical.
Doesn't have to be from scratch every night but the cheap processed stuff needs to be in the minority
Lots of from scratch dishes can be made pretty easily/quickly eg I had pasta last night with veg and home made tomato and basil sauce took me less than 20 mins to make, admittedly the sauce tastes even better when made ahead of time
That's another thing he could batch cook too, lots of batch cook dishes it really doesn't take much longer to make 4 portions as two, then they can be frozen and they would then serve as what I call "home made ready meals" as they just need defrosted (usually simply a case of popping in fridge night before) and reheating (I don't have a microwave but could be microwaved I generally reheat in the oven) for days when there's less time to prep/cook
Erm, I never said he does EVERYTHING.
Thought not - you mentioned leisure time earlier which yes everyone needs but as a parent you tend to have less of
It's also possible to do a mix of "from scratch" and ready made which many families do.
So eg stir fry made with lots of lovely fresh veg and perhaps some protein too (meat or in my case tofu or quorn) a home made sauce or even just a splash of soy sauce or a little sweet chilli sauce and some rice or noodles
A from scratch casserole or stew (these are very easy, the cooking time is long but they don't take long to prep) but with (decent quality) frozen roasties
I'm disabled and that impacts on what I'm able to prep and cook now and how long I can stand at the cooker so I get things like carrot batons, prepped butternut squash etc as I'm no longer safe with a sharp knife and root veg!
It's a compromise.
I generally eat pretty healthily, a wide variety of foods. I'm also working on losing weight at the moment following a spell of ill health which led to weight gain and increased bp
Some days it's totally from scratch, some days it's all ready made and some days a mix. But more towards the from scratch end of things.
The same was true when I was a single mum working full time, long commute etc
People have Yorkshire puddings with Christmas dinner?
Oh definitely!
Yorkie, bit of stuffing and gravy...yum!