“They made love all night then fell asleep in each other’s arms,” AIBU to wonder if there really are couples who do these things outside of romance novels?

[HeartsAndClubs]

Sometimes I read this kind of thing and then I wonder wtf they came up with that imagery. And then I wonder whether I’m the only one who wouldn’t even entertain the idea of falling asleep in someone’s arms after making love all night…

Or is it just me?

I’ve found the secret to a blissful marriage. Husband works permanent nights so I get my bed to myself 5 nights a week. Sex is quite often a morning thing now when we havthe house to ourselves 😉 cos the kids are at school/college/work

When we do sleep together we are on opposite edges of the bed plus I go well before he does as I get up at 4am for work and I like my sleep

God this thread has cheered me up after a day of drudgery.

With my Ex partner- Definitely didn't shag for 12 hours straight but a big yes to the cuddling (until I,d wake up with a start and kind of slurp when I realise I've drooled all over him)😂

Yes we did the all night'ers. Yes my (face) lips were swollen and chaffed from his stubble and we were sore and my thighs were bruised and he couldn't walk properly on the mornings after

Yes we often fell asleep all wrapped up together.

The above was for 2/3 years. Now, after 15 years together, we have the odd night of more than once. Usually if we're away in a hotel.

2 or 3 times a week is normal for us. But - sex or not - we do sometimes go to sleep together holding hands :)

I have a friend in her late 50s who is still chasing this dream. You'd think she'd realise by now after 5 major relationships including 2 marriages! She's just a hopeless romantic, don't understand why - God love her.

@mbosnz

Not since I was twenty, and I was buggered if I was riding a bike home the next day. . .

No saddle?

I hate cuddling and touching in the night. It's far too hot and what do you do with your arms? Pins and needles is not comfy or cosy or romantic.

@GTAlogic

I hate cuddling and touching in the night. It's far too hot and what do you do with your arms? Pins and needles is not comfy or cosy or romantic.

Exactly. Me and DP do enjoy cuddling before bed and at various points during the day now that we WFH (heehee) but sleeping in each other's arms? fuck no plus someone would steal the duvet....

I'm draw the line at the 'all night' part, we've got jobs to go to, but yes we have sex and then sometimes fall asleep entwined together. We've usually shuffled apart by morning though.

We also hold hands a lot, he buys me flowers regularly and brings me a coffee in bed every morning. We're like love's young dream us. It's only been 2 years though

In our 20s after meeting getting together - education and careers took us to differnet locations - so we'd see each other at weekends - when we could.

We'd get woken up crack of dawn by one of our mothers - to check we were awake have breakfast go round shops and spend rest of the day in a bed having sex cuddling sleeping talking more sex sleeping cuddling and watching TV - till we'd get up much later - 8 ish to go out for evening and often do same Sunday till one of us had to get train back.

20 years late and three kids it really is as thecatsmum12346 describes.

@BobbinThreadbare123

Nope! You'd have to get up for a wee anyway.

I always think this - surely the majority of women need a wee after orgasm? Yet it's NEVER mentioned in romance novels

I seem to remember those nights, when I first started seeing my husband - but now we've been married for 41 years, sex is infrequent, and the falling asleep in each other's arms has been replaced by snoring and farting (him)

Yep all-nighters for sure. Even starting to drift to sleep with some form of contact. But if it’s actual proper sleep time get the hell away and don’t touch me.

Been watching Outlander recently. In one episode, Claire and Jamie are shagging in the great outdoors. She has given birth to 2 kids and is 50 years old. No way is she going to get away with avoiding a post orgasm piss and to get up and stretch her back out

Nope. Shagged like Rabbits, fell asleep (may have started of ‘entwined’ and continued on awakening. It t’were many years ago, when all yonder were green fields - and we didn’t have Netflix

Yes.
I love sex.
My partner and I sleep snuggled up, holding hands.
I adore his skin. Everything.

I can lay in DH's arms for about 5 minutes before I feel sweaty and uncomfortable. I do like to have SOME kind of physical contact though so will put a hand on him somewhere and fall asleep

😂 The first bit, yes. (Although when it goes all night, it’s not about love - in my experience.)

The second bit, absolutely not. That’s your side - get over there. And I’ll just put this pillow here to reinforce my point.

Shag relatively quietly so as to avoid waking the 4yo radge-packet who sleeps next door, nothing kills the mood faster than the patter of tiny feet and the door handle rattling like there's a pissed off poltergeist in the hallway (door gets locked, learned that lesson many years ago). Then loo, bathroom, he potters off downstairs to make a drink, back to bed, re-make the bed, and go to sleep on separate sides because I hate anyone touching me while I sleep.

Last night I gently shook him awake to romantically whisper "please take your arm out from under my pillow".

Certainly not all night, I need my sleep.
And I hated sleeping cuddled up, I have to say. It's too warm and I have a very sensitive skin so someone breathing on me - urgh, no. I hate being confined to a small space of someone's embrace for an extended time, no matter how much I love them.

I was chronically sleep deprived for the first two months of our relationship. Quite a few all nighters
back then though definitely not anymore.

As for cuddling, we love cuddling on the couch or having a snuggle in bed, but we do not cuddle to sleep - DP gets roasting hot during the night so it's too uncomfortable for me.

I remember a dirty weekend away in the early days with DH where we were on a constant shag-fall asleep in each other's arms-stir a bit and realise the other one was there and naked-shag-fall asleep... cycle, broken only by going to get some food and wine every now and again.

It is now a decade later and we have a preschooler and a baby. Our holidays are, erm, not quite like that any more...

Ah, the good old days of shagging all night.
Now it’s pyjamas on, cuppa and in bed for the news asleep by 10pm.

I just don’t understand how you make love all night then fall asleep. I mean are you falling asleep in the morning?

In the early day yes, but I can't fall asleep in someone's arms even if I'm exhausted.

We have a barrier pillow wall which is amazing for his mouth breathing stench and my warthog snoring.