Are you responsible for having your husband's work clothes ready and get told off if he can't find stuff ??

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I'm guessing a lot of people will say NO.

It's really grating on me.

This is so depressing OP.

I thought you were going to say you were a housewife but had no kids and were therefore expected to do 100% of the chores.

But even then it isnt on for him to wake you up at 5am to have a grump about socks

*I do laundry but it's really on them to check clothes are back to them on time and put away.

Yes and no. I do all the laundry; cleaner irons. He likes his pants and hankies pressed and folded a certain way and two particular buttons fastened on his shirts. I pair his socks and fold them how he likes them. However, he puts everything away with meticulous neatness, inserting his collar stiffeners every Wednesday. He gets his shirt out the night before and puts his cufflinks half way through. His trousers go in the trouser press at bedtime and the jacket goes over. He puts them away the next morning.

He has never ever misplaced anything except for his glasses.

But you work from home. Do are expected to treat him like a 5 year old

Nah. Tell him to GTF. I launder and fold them (he gets a good deal, but mainly because he can’t be trusted not to mix colours) and they are put back into the wardrobe. From there, it’s on him.

He is very useful round the house and does a lot for me and is considerate, so I don’t mind doing this task. Reciprocity is important to me in a relationship.

Even my 19 Yr old son can manage to do his own washing and find his own clothes.

Honestly. Why do you put up with this shit ?

Nope. I don't get involved in any aspect of DHs clothes. He buys them, washes them and irons them.....as he should.

yes and No. My husband has no issue putting in a wash and making sure the clothes are clean. Because of how early he starts, I put his work clothes out the night before in the bathroom, so they are handy after his shower without him going rummaging for them. I come downstairs while he showers and put on his coffee and make his oatmeal, pack his lunch and make up his travel mug with second coffee for the drive into work. Yes it is so very 1950s but it works for us. I also have never mowed the lawn in years or even put gas in my car. It works for us .. but if he ever was demanding of it. I would tell him to get to fuck and do my own gas in my car, but he wouldn't because we are a team

I put on more washing, he hangs it up more. We both put our own away.

I'd tell him to jog on if he expected me to take care of his work clothes.

We both do the laundry. He did ruin a few of my thigns years ago but i said he was a competent adult who could read a label and if he didn’t feel confident washing it that’s ok but if he ruined it or left everything then I would need a large clothes budget, a laundry service to compensate and probably a divorce.
We are trying to get our 6yo to get his clothes out. I cannot imagine laying clothes out for my dh. He gets up about 5:30 and is gone before I wake up usually.

No because he's a grown man with working hands.

He might ask me if I've seen something (I'm the designated finder of things in this house ) no attitude if the answer is no though

He wakes you up to rant about this? That is abusive behaviour. I am so sorry.

No chance
Don't even do that for teenage kids

Hahaha er NO. He is a big boy. I may get the odd baleful look if he hasn't bothered his arse to put stuff in washing basket to be thrown in with kids stuff when washed but he sucks it up as he knows what my reply will be

@PackedintheUK

No. In fact when I was a keen young wife 30 years ago and made my first attempt at ironing a shirt, DH (very politely) told me I hadn't got the sleeve creases right. I haven't ironed another shirt since.

50+ years ago I was ironing his trousers, they were a wool material and I thought you shouldn't iron a wool fabric on the right side, so I very carefully ironed them inside out, creases and all!

Of course not. How has it come to this?

Dh wouldn’t even think of “telling me off” for anything.

I do most of the laundry as it works for us, although do get dh and dc to help when needed.

I then put it all on the table in piles and everyone takes their own and puts it away as they have been since dc were at primary school.

@PackedintheUK

No. In fact when I was a keen young wife 30 years ago and made my first attempt at ironing a shirt, DH (very politely) told me I hadn't got the sleeve creases right. I haven't ironed another shirt since.

PackedintheUK I have a similar tale only it was the collars. I do all the other ironing but DH's shirts are now well and truly his job.

Not really. I am responsible for all the washing, but DH does all the ironing (family of 4). The washing takes longer but I only work part-time and he works full-time. Also I hate ironing and is very particular about his shirts, so it works for us.

God what a way to live, can hardly believe what I’m reading.

No, my husband washes his own clothes becauseI don't want his oily work clothes going in with mine. Plus I'm not his servant.

No way!

I wash and put away. If it can’t be found. He looks. I cannot file a memory for every item of clothing in my brain for his easy retrieval.
If he didn’t like my system, he is welcome to start his own.
I don’t iron.
I don’t take complaints.

Bloody hell. Dh at least gets his clothes and stuff ready the night before.

Even the kids have learned if they want something washed it goes in the basket, if it’s needed by a certain day they need to tell me or I’ll wait until I have a full load. Then it needs to go to dh to iron, because I don’t iron, ever.

Dh does fuck me off with the dragging me away from what i’m doing —mumsnet— because he can’t find the cheese/his glasses/his keys/x/y/z and i know fine well he’s probably looking at the bloody thing or just needs to move the butter and look, the cheese appears as if by magic…”what that, right in front of you?” Oh yes. Particularly after he accuses me of moving said thing when tidying up, and not getting that he’s pointing out that it’s only me does the tidying…

But he does sort his own clothes out for work. That would be worse than useless.

Can't believe this question is even being asked!

He wants to find his clothes, he needs to remember where he put them
He 'tells you off' he needs to be reminded you are not a naughty child

He needs reprogramming