Are you responsible for having your husband's work clothes ready and get told off if he can't find stuff ??

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I'm guessing a lot of people will say NO.

It's really grating on me.

No way. If he needed something that wasn't washed he would not expect me to do it for him. Same as ironing. Today He ironed his shirts and tshirts after I finished ironing my clothes.

Nope

NO, I wash and dry them, it's his job to put them away or get them out when he needs them.

No, definitely not!

All the wives in my family do this.

Never have I been so glad to come from a long line of single mothers. I'm sure in other families other wives did more skivvying. But times have changed. And you're working as well.

I do most of the washing so he might ask me if I know where x item is. He be grateful if I knew and not bat an eyelid if I didn't. If he woke me at 5 for anything other than a real emergency I be furious.

Lord, no.

Dh has work shirts but as I don't wear them I don't iron them.

No. He's a grown adult with arms and legs.

I do most of the washing and put stuff away so he will ask me if he doesn't know where something is. But he would tell me off or be demanding. We each do chores that the other doesn't do and I'm better at the washing so I don't mind doing it.

• would never tell me off

No way! I wouldn't iron them or do anything with them. Not saying I wouldn't help if as a one of he couldn't find something which he does for me if I can't find specific shoes. You shouldn't put up with his behaviour. He doesn't have the right to tell you off either.

So when you say he comes homes and crashes, do you mean he literally does nothing? So you've both been working but you also do all domestic duties? Is there anything else besides laundry he doesn't do? Does he cook? Clean? Do the washing up? If he does nothing, how can you live like this? Please stop, or ltb.

No way
I do know the odd husband like this. One I know is waited upon even tho both parties work full time-the sentiment is that the woman’s job isn’t very important so she can also do all the housework, cooking and pandering.
Another one eats in front of the telly never takes his plate out let alone scrapes it and if he wants eg a drink will command the wife to get it even though she is eating too

What the hell? No!!!!!!!!!!

Absolutely not.

All washing goes in the same laundry basket and either DH or I do it as and when. He probably does about 75% of it but I do it if he's away for work or something and the basket is full. 15yo DD will also put a wash on now and again if she wants something in particular clean. She would also wash whatever else was in the basket that was suitable to go in at the same time and hang it out along with whatever she wanted done.

The only thing DH would ask is if he's coming home from working away and going off again the next day he might ask me to make sure the rack and washing line are clear so he can do a wash and hang it out before he leaves again.

No

No way. I mostly do our laundry inc the ironing because I have more time to do it and along with cooking it's my preferred housekeeping job but he can do it himself and will do it if needed. Gratitude- and doing the monthly meter reads and all the DIY I hate and sharing gardening, cooking and cleaning- goes a long way towards me doing it willingly too.

We've only had one incident of "my trousers aren't ready" when he started working away 3 days a week and he just got better at checking stuff he needs gets sorted in time. He packs for himself and dresses himself too- he's an adult.

I don't mind helping him occasionally look for stuff in our crammed shared wardrobe- 2 eyes good 4 eyes better, but only because he never shouts or demands. He also spends way more time helping me look for stuff I've mislaid due to dyspraxia. I am more inclined to help out a cooperative adult than run after a man child. If I want a baby to tend to, I'd have one.

These threads that start with a question to which the answer is so blindingly obvious usually turn out to be a question about something entirely different and should ALWAYS be in relationships and not AIBU.

I mean, if this is really the only thing askew in your relationship, it is so far from the norm, you'd have sorted it the first time he tried it, I presume.

Go and read the thread "do you despair of women wasting their lives serving men". Honestly, why would you accept this? Why would it even occur to you that your purpose on this earth is to serve a man?

Yes, I do. Not the work stuff (work launders it for him) but socks/clothes etc to travel to work in.

No, although he doesn't blame me, he blames the cleaner for 'hiding it'.

I keep telling him that he needs to put things away if he doesn't want the cleaner to maybe put them away somewhere he doesn't want them to be. He has got better about it actually, but that may be as he doesn't have to the leave the house as much!

No. I’m not his skivvy! I’d be furious if he woke me up at 5am to complain too.

Stop doing it, you deserve better .

In our house I do all of the washing so in that sense yes I would wash work clothes, gym clothes etc. But my DH has other responsibilities such as the ironing. This was before I was part time. Now that I am though, we still have the same responsibilities as the days I have off are for caring for DS.

Of course not as he is an adult!

No, nor for my 13 and 15 year olds. I am still struggling with the 5 year old.