Are you responsible for having your husband's work clothes ready and get told off if he can't find stuff ??

[fussytodd]

I'm guessing a lot of people will say NO.

It's really grating on me.

He wakes you at 5am because he can't find any socks? Is he 12?? I'd pack his shit & drop it off at work for him. Incompetent manchild! 😆

Absolutely not! He's always done his own ironing and I have no involvement in where his stuff is. He puts it away himself. Dd without fail asks where her PE kit is 5 mins before leaving the house. I just shrug and tell her to try the (clean) laundry mountain outside her bedroom door. She is nearly 18 though. When she was 8 I might have organised it.

Seems you are confusing your role of wife with that of his mother. I absolutely do not wash or iron for my husband, I might put his shirts in the dryer if they are done and I need the machine but that's as far as I go in terms of sorting work clothes.

For a young kid? Yes
A teenager? No
An spouse? Hello no

I remember (in the 1980’s) my father pulling out several shirts from his cupboard and chucking them on the floor because they weren’t ironed exactly to his preferences. My poor mother’s face. His tone of absolute annoyed entitlement.

I knew in that moment I’d never put myself in a position to be treated as a domestic slave, or do favours for a man who was anything but grateful and in a ‘teamwork’ frame of mind.

Even when I found myself married to someone who was careless about laundry, I only ever washed one outfit for him- to ensure he had something decent to wear (not shrunk or discoloured) because that was important to me.

I do all the washing and fold it but that’s where it stops. If it’s not been put in the wash then it simply doesn’t get washed. I’ll leave the folded pile on the kitchen table or the stairs. He takes it up, puts it away and does his own ironing.
This doesn’t included pairing socks, I don’t even pair my own so not doing his!

Nah, I'm not a doormat or a slave.

I forgot to say my Dad is 75 years old and still does the ironing, my Mum does the washing and drying.

Nope and I am mean and won't even get 14 yr sons clothes ready for school. I do iron his uniform IF he brings it down for washing

No, and he would laugh his socks off if I attempted to pack for him!

Why can't he find socks at 5am? Does his sock drawer magically grow legs and move around when he's out.

You know this is not normal.

I’m at home more than dh too. He practically just crashes as well, doing long hours.
I’ll wash stuff in the laundry bin but that’s where it ends. Dh and dc take their own clothes and put them away, dh irons his own stuff and will iron dcs if needed.
You’re not his servant.

If you're MIL is so keen for a wife to wash,iron and put away her man child of a son's clothes;well she's technically someone's wife and is more than welcome to come to your house and do everything for her precious son.

Alternatively just send the lazy sexist twat back to his mothers;byeeeeee

No way in hell, he got a life partner, not a bloody slave

Urgh. No.

I usually get his stuff ready just because I find it easier. Also because, although he wouldn't wake me up he'd make some pointed remark if he couldn't find something.
I only work part time though and he's full time. It was more evenly split when we both worked full time

Am I fuck, and nor is he responsible for mine.

(That's not to say if I throw a wash on I don't do his stuff and he also does mine.)

In the immortal works of our lord and savior Cardigan B: "I don't cook, I don't clean, but let me tell you I got this ring".

I don't think it would actually occur to me to do something like that for DH. Stop mothering him and he'll have to learn.

My husband can dress himself and find his own socks! He’s also not a sexist misogynist who expects me to do all the housework because I’m a woman. How has this happened op? Stop being his unpaid housekeeper

I usually get his stuff ready just because I find it easier.

This genuinely isn't a criticism but I am struggling to understand how it could possibly be "easier" for you to do it. I just don't get that.

So I’m guessing your sex life is non-existent?

Because there’s no way any self-respecting woman would be able to have sex with a man who actually thinks she’s his mummy.

@Rosebel

I usually get his stuff ready just because I find it easier. Also because, although he wouldn't wake me up he'd make some pointed remark if he couldn't find something. I only work part time though and he's full time. It was more evenly split when we both worked full time

It’s not magically ‘easier’ for you just because you have a vagina.

The reason - the only reason - you do it is because you get woken up, and pointed remarks made. Admit it.

I think one time we’d had a (pre-children) busy weekend and he asked at about 7am Monday morning “has any washing been done? I need a clean shirt.”

Passive voice, like the fairies should have been round to hang it out. We’d been together and out of the house for the whole weekend, bar sleeping.

Me, after a long hard stare: I didn’t do any, did you?

Not sure what he eventually did as I left for work shortly after. He’s never asked again.

No, never did anything for DH to get to work. And he did nothing for my work either.

I can’t imagine a world where I am responsible for the clothes of another healthy, ADULT human.
What on earth are you doing??? Stop it now!
Even my 9’and 11 year old are now responsible for their own school uniform.

My dad once asked my to iron a shirt for him cos he was late for something and in a mad rush - my mum
Made him pay me a tenner! Love that woman. My pocket money at the time was £1 a week… he never asked again…