To never speak to her again- CF!

[Peanutbuttermandms]

I have a long term school ‘friend’, let’s call her S. I hear from her very sporadically and most recently, when she wants something: sponsorship money from me for one of her ‘challenges’ to stay in my central city home (!)… but folks, I give you the best one to date today…

Text out of the blue.. not even a ‘how are you’.. can I pick her son up from the airport (!) on Wednesday as he’s flying in alone (he is 10) from his dad’s abroad. You’re thinking wtaf, right?

The text goes on.. she can’t and her new DP are holidaying in the south of France and their flight doesn’t get in to airport until 5pm.. so the wee mite is alone for 4 hours after travelling alone. At 10. Jesus!

It ends ‘would obviously be great to see you too!!’

AIBU to think cheeky fucker and never speak to the self centred cow again?

And you're quite sure @NumberTheory that the airline hasn't been given the OP's details? Because they don't have protocols to check in advance that the contact given even exists.

Poor kid. You're a stranger to him. She needs to rearrange her flight or his.

I would just reply 'No that doesn't work for me' then block her and forget the whole thing.

I get why your mad and at the end of the road with her - no way I'd do this. But for the kids sake, not his CF mum, I would reply to say-no I am not doing this - for the avoidance of any doubt in her CF mind

I disagree with your statement that silence is unambiguous.
I'd say that an answer of 'no can do' takes the ambiguity out of the situation where as silence is very much ambiguous ('she didn't actually say she wouldn't so I presumed she was' for example)

I agree she's a CF and you shouldn't have to answer to her or pick her son up. But I agree with PPs that you should reply and be clear that you're not going to be picking him up for his sake more than anything else

You don’t have to respond at all.

But the question is whether she is enough of a CF to take your non-response as assent and pass your details to the airline.

Again, still not your problem. But would texting back a hard No save you the potential agg of having to deal with this in some shape or form later down the line.

If you think not, then there’s no need to do anything.

@Bezzi the onus is on her to confirm arrangements, not on me. It’s not my burden or legal responsibility.

Op, just text no back. You are tying yourself in knots over this, while I bet at least five others before you have told her to fuck off.

I would absolutely reply with a swift 'no'.

No justification.

I would be worried re airport stranded 10 year old, and her saying 'my friend was collecting him'. Then she gets off the hook as the authorities will assume its just crossed wires... Make sure she's dropped in it as you've TOLD her no.

It is absolutely not your responsibility!

She sounds breathtakingly rude and CF.

How can the CF friend assume the OP will do it? Has she sent flight details/terminals etc...?

Just ignore her, block and delete. You have nothing to feel guilty about in any way. And don't rise to any MNetter who is telling you that you are responsible or have to reply, they are just bored and want some drama to liven up their lives.

@Crimeismymiddlename I ain’t tying myself in no knots; where do you get that from? I’d be tying myself in knots if I engaged her by relying, all right though!

It always amazes me that so many people think that a CF needs a response, and worse than that a polite "nice" one.
So many people here saying things along the lines of "Sorry, busy that day, hope you get something sorted"

Yes she's a CF but you're also showing a very nasty and petty side to your character.

There's a child at stake here, so be the better person and simply say NO.

END OF.

@CallmeHendricks course I have had no more information than the ask. It would certainly be a stretch to suggest the lack of info, combined with my non response in any way inferred (a) I received the message; and (b) I agreed to it.

@Notmoresugar can you explain how I am ‘nasty’?!

Haven't rtft. Don't respond, she can't take your silence as a yes because you don't have the flight number etc that you would need to pick someone up from an airport.

@Crimeismymiddlename

Op, just text no back. You are tying yourself in knots over this, while I bet at least five others before you have told her to fuck off.

I reading quite the opposite - that the OP is completely chilled and couldn't give a wotsit! And rightly so

God what a CF no way would I oblige. Reminds me of a so called friend I ran into in the street in my home town after 20 years of no contact. She said would youike to come to my wedding
I thought this was odd as we're hardly friends any more. Got an invite asking for a £200 "contribution" towards their honeymoon hahaha.

Some of these replies

Has anyone suggested logging it with 101 yet?

[quote Peanutbuttermandms]@Notmoresugar can you explain how I am ‘nasty’?![/quote]

@Peanutbuttermandms you're not

Just reply that you aren't in town that day.

Some of these replies indeed, they’re highly entertaining. And yes, @TopBlogger I am chilled about it. I’m not engaging or indulging.

I think many on this thread want a live dialogue for them to get more of the drama. It’s their drama not mine. Some of the messages to me here have been below the belt.

you're right OP, that is one of the cheekiest things I've ever heard.

So much worse than cheeky, her poor son.

On the other hand, my mum once got a phone call out of the blue from the parents of one of the kids, (who she knew pretty much by name only) on our school ski trip the night that we were coming home, could she pick up their two boys and feed them because they had got the date wrong, we’re on a weekend away and wouldn’t be back until a couple of hours after the bus got in.

Rather than thinking CF, she understood these things happen and did as asked and the parents were really grateful.

Wow! This is mind blowing! Poor kid