3 year old peeing in a potty in the corner of a museum

[Griddlesizzle]

As it says in the title. Mother just whips the potty out and the child pees away, without the mum even asking anyone if there was a loo nearby. As a side point, the loo was less than 10m away…

Ai by - it’s pretty vile
Aibu - what else are you gonna do?

Absolutely gross and no need for it.

My DS is potty training at the moment and although doing well, today he had 2 wees in the potty in the boot of the car 😅 me and dh created a bit of a screen in front of him by standing in front. Worked really well actually

Bloody grim. I have tt 11 dc and never used anything but a loo... As someone in charge of a dc surely you just check where the loo is when you go anywhere?

Nope, not acceptable.

@NannyR

I've potty trained eleven kids as a nanny and never needed to whip out a potty in public. If they are at the stage where you are taking them out and about, then they should be able to hold on for a few minutes to get to a loo. Also, I consider the child's dignity - as an adult I wouldn't be happy using the toilet in public, so why make a child do it.

100 percent this.

Its a museum... of course its not acceptable.
What if he started spraying it all over valuable artefacts 😂

Can't believe how many people think this is appropriate. It's foul. A hygiene issue for everyone in the building. If you have no thought for your own dignity, at least spare one for the dignity of your poor child.

If your toddler can't use the toilet facilities yet, you shouldn't be in the museum inflicting your private parenting needs on the public. Toddlers hardly get a great deal from the experience at that age anyway.

I think it's impossible to say without knowing the circumstances/reasons for doing what she did. I expect there may be more to it than that she just couldn't be bothered to take the child to the loo.

Given the other thread you've literally just started as well as this one, I wouldn't bother going out with them again.

You clearly don't like them.

🙄

So you’ve never moaned about anyone ever without cutting them off?

I once walked out of my office front door (in Central london) to find a child on a potty.

Pity the parents ignored every cafe within seconds of my office door.

It's gross

Yanbu that’s grim, by the way.

Perhaps she checked the loo and there was a queue. When my 4 year old has to go, she has to go. Better in the potty than on the floor.

Literally wouldn't bother me one bit 🤷🏻‍♀️

You’ve seen a snippet of someone’s life however you have absolutely no idea of the background of this child.

I have a family member who still uses a potty age 5, they have a serious kidney condition and when they need the bathroom they need to go ASAP, as it causes them pain to hold it in.

I tend to think it’s also part of a bigger picture in which parents teach children that they are the centre of the world. ‘Don’t worry, darling - your needs trump the needs of anyone else on this earth’. Quite a few people have mentioned that toddlers often hate hand driers. This is true. However, if you have a child who is out of nappies but also hates hand driers and therefore won’t use a public loo, then you are restricted in terms of days out for a while. Teaching them to wee in public is not the answer. As mentioned by a PP they deserve more dignity, for a start! You wouldn’t whip out a changing mat on the museum floor and expose a baby’s bum to the world. So why expect a toddler to do the equivalent public display?

So you’ve never moaned about anyone ever without cutting them off?

I've never taken to a public forum and started two different threads within minutes of each other, moaning about family members, no.

And how is not going for days out with them 'cutting them off'?

@WorraLiberty

So you’ve never moaned about anyone ever without cutting them off?

I've never taken to a public forum and started two different threads within minutes of each other, moaning about family members, no.

And how is not going for days out with them 'cutting them off'?

Because that’s when you tend to see family, days in or out with them?

And if you’ve never done that fine, but you’re on AIBU precisely to read other people’s threads about things like this so you can’t really claim superiority,..

What did they do with the potty after?

I don’t think I could find the energy to get so worked up about this.

Total non event.

You wouldn’t whip out a changing mat on the museum floor and expose a baby’s bum to the world.

Last time I was at the NHM there was a mum changing her babys nappy in it's pram exposing its bare bum to the world.

Could it have been a 'Contemporary Kinetic Art' exhibit that you were watching?

There's nothing superior about not slagging your family off on a public forum @Glassofshloer.

And the OP doesn't have to go on days out with her family in order to stay in touch.

I don't see why parents ever see this as appropriate.

I trained my two quite young and never needed to do this. If we were doing this sort of trip, I would have insisted on a wee before going out, then would have planned our route round the museum to include a toilet break after 1.5 -2 hours, I wouldnt be waiting for the child to tell me they needed to go as many children will be relatively old before they can hold for several minutes while you find a loo in a big busy museum and sods law it will be when you're as far away from it as possible.

That said, I do have a carry potty and we have used it in lots of places when training and no toilets available, behind the car in quiet car parks etc. During lockdown especially a lot of toilets got closed, it was very difficult with toddlers.

@AliceinBorderland

I once walked out of my office front door (in Central london) to find a child on a potty.

Pity the parents ignored every cafe within seconds of my office door.

It's gross

Most cafes wouldn't be happy for people to go in just to use the loo.